For many of us, we live our lives to please others, to make them happy. We are often told that if we think of ourselves, our needs, our dreams, that is selfish. We need to be practical. We need to be selfless and think of our obligation to our family, to our friends, to those at work that depend on us. After all, don’t we care about our co-workers and their families? We should want to serve those that work with us and for us. Isn’t that what servant leadership is all about?
Thanksgiving can be a wonderful time with family and friends. But Thanksgiving can also be a somber time where we mourn those no longer with us, and perhaps mourn relationships that are not what they once were. Thanksgiving can also be a lonely time where we don’t have family and friends that we feel comfortable being with. How do we navigate Thanksgiving with these mixed emotions, some good and some not so good?
Sometimes after a crucible — a devastating setback or failure that fundamentally alters the course of our lives — we struggle to find a way forward. We find it challenging to find a vision worthwhile to devote our lives to. Even if we do find such a vision, there is often a tendency to think that our vision is pretty small. How much difference can our vision make in the world? There are so many problems that exist, and what we are planning on doing we might think may not make a lot of difference to those problems. Besides, we know people or we have heard of people making huge differences in the world. We are so not them. So why bother? What difference is it all going to make?Those are big numbers. Meaningful numbers. But not unanimous numbers. They raise the very real possibility that at least a few of you reading these words might be among that 28 percent who would answer “no” to the survey question mentioned above. Which makes me think, in our mission to share with those who engage with us that their worst day doesn’t have to define them, how can you know if you’ve had a crucible? Three thoughts come to mind…
We spoke in January about making a life resolution rather than a New Year’s resolution. That we should make a resolution to live in light of our true purpose. Now, we are six months through the year which is a great time to think about recalibrating our mission and vision.
Warwick talks with Tsang this week about what her hardscrabble upbringing in Hong Kong taught her about what’s truly important in life… lessons she now aims to teach her students so they understand how to cope with and overcome the challenges they will inevitably face.
Janine Shepherd was on track to represent her home nation of Australia in the Olympics as a cross-country skier – but then her dream, quite literally, crashed when she was hit by a utility truck while on a bicycle training exercise with her teammates. An in-demand speaker whose Ted talk has been viewed more than 2 million times, Shepherd calls herself “a mirror to help people see their own defiant spirits.” Her guiding philosophy? “Nothing comes easy, and if it did, it wouldn’t be worth having.”
On this week’s episode, McCooey tells Warwick in detail the toll that being married to a narcissist had on her identity… as his controlling ways left her feeling unworthy and ashamed. But she also describes how she fought her way back to not only find her value, but to help other abused women find theirs – first through the same nonprofit that aided her and now as a narcissist divorce coach.
In this week’s episode, Dr. Erica Harris explains every harrowing detail of her years-long up-and-down medical crises – finally set on a more stable path when she received a double lung transplant. Along that journey, she explains, she learned the important difference between toxic positivity and genuine positivity and discovered that the key to her recovery was a mindset shift.
Using our worst days to help others have their best days. That’s the undergirding philosophy, the bedrock exhortation, of Beyond the Crucible. And we explore it on this week’s episode in detail so that you can turn your own trials into triumphs.
Helping people develop a right relationship with money, particularly the younger generations in families of wealth and influence, is the unique focus of the work done by this week’s guest, Kristin Keffeler. This may be the most personal episode we’ve yet done from Warwick’s perspective, given his history as the 5th generation heir to a multibillion-dollar media dynasty in his home nation of Australia.