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Bounce Forward From Trials to Triumphs

Cheryl Farr

March 29, 2024

Over the last five years, Beyond the Crucible has conducted a two-phase quantitative study to develop a valid, projectable understanding of how people experience life’s crucible moments. We wanted to understand how some people turn trials into triumphs — and why others get stuck in the aftermath, sometimes spinning their wheels for months, years or even decades without being able to truly move on.

On our podcast, Beyond the Crucible, we have recorded more than 120 interviews (and counting) with people who have not only bounced back from their own crucible moments, but successfully bounced forward to build new lives of significance. In listening to these stories, we noticed something: No matter how different the crucible stories and their bounce-back journeys were, they all shared certain beats along the path to recovery and significance. Every person’s story was so very different — yet they had remarkably similar touchstones.

What if we could actually identify a predictable path for bouncing forward from a crucible moment to a life of significance? We theorized that if we could do so, we could help people accelerate their journey forward. And we might even be able to help people who were stuck on the path from trial to triumph get unstuck and start moving again.

The Big Aha Moments: Mapping the Journey from Trials to Triumphs

After surveying more than 11,000 people from all walks of life across the United States, six important learnings emerged.

1. Most of us admit to having experienced at least one devastating loss or setback in life that changed us for good. Nearly three of every four people (72 percent) report that they have experienced at least one crucible moment so traumatic or painful that it fundamentally altered the course of their lives.

2. What about the 28 percent of people who say they haven’t had a crucible moment? In short, they’re in denial. No one gets to sail through life without having their trajectory altered by some loss, failure, or setback. About 1 in every 4 people have experienced what we call “veiled crucibles” — crucible moments that remain unacknowledged by their bearers, but still have a measurable and discernible effect on their lives.

3. There is a predictable map for moving from crucible to triumphs in life. This bounce-forward map is comprised of five progressive stages:

  •  Stage 1: Trial – The immediate aftermath of your life-altering crucible moment, where we are fundamentally changed.
  •  Stage 2: Processing – The necessary step of processing the fallout from a crucible. To move out of this stage, we must recognize and let go of the feelings of anger, hurt, or unfairness that result from the crucible. (At Beyond the Crucible, we sometimes refer to this as the “refining” process.) Not surprisingly, this is where a lot of people get stuck on the journey from trial to triumph.
  • Stage 3: Vision – Once we are able to process what happened, it’s time to cast a new, post-crucible vision for our life. (At Beyond the Crucible, we believe that the most fulfilling visions are driven by significance — that is, a life on purpose dedicated to serving others.)
  • Stage 4: Reality – The next stage is focused on creating a real, actionable plan to turn that the new vision for life into our everyday reality.
  •  Stage 5: Triumph – In this final stage, we are on the path to a new, exciting, significant, post-crucible life. We have acknowledged our crucible and the transformational impact it’s had on us. We have moved beyond the hurt to cast a new, meaningful vision for our life. And we’re in the process of turning that new vision into reality.

4. Your starting point on your personal path from crucible moment to a life of significance is not a product of your age, gender, personality, ZIP code, marital status, religious affiliation, or any other label or reason. It is 100 percent a product of how you see yourself, your crucible, and your place in the world at a particular moment in time. It is a “you are here” indicator on your own personal path from trial to triumph.

5. One of the things that surprised us most in the research: As part of our hypothesis, we posited that people who understood how they were wired would be better at bouncing forward from their crucible or following their own path. (At Beyond the Crucible, we refer to this as understanding how you were “designed.”) In fact? No. Knowing how you are inherently designed — what you’re good at and what you’re bad at, what you like doing and what you don’t — does not give you a statistical leg up or a shortcut on your Trials-to-Triumphs journey. While understanding your design may accelerate certain stages of your personal journey across the map (such as how fast you can turn your vision into reality, for instance), it does not fundamentally change your path. Moving from trial to triumph is all about moving through your crucible, learning to let go of the pain associated with it, casting a significant new vision for your life, and charting a course to transform that vision from an idea into your reality.

6. While there is one map, everyone’s journey from crucible to triumph is not the same. There are six different types of journeys, or paths across the map, that people can take to bounce forward. Take our free Beyond the Crucible Trials-to-Triumphs Self-Assessment to find your own unique “you are here” mark on the map” as you being your journey. Then listen to our podcast series unpacking each of the profiles to learn more about how you can triumph a reality in your life.

Reflection

  1.  Have you found yourself stuck in trying to move beyond your crucible? If so what can you do to start moving forward?
  2. Which of the five stages of moving beyond your crucible has presented you the most challenges? Why do you think that is?
  3. When you think about “triumphs” in the aftermath of your crucible, what does that destination look like for you? Write down as many thoughts as come to mind, so you can refer to them after you take the assessment as you chart your course to a life of significance.

Are you ready to move from trials to triumphs? Then join us on the journey today.  Take our free Beyond the Crucible Trials-to-Triumphs Self-Assessment.

We share inspirational stories and transformational tools from leaders who have moved beyond life’s most difficult moments to create lives of significance.

Listen to our Beyond the Crucible Podcast here.