Our beliefs form the very core of who we are. They are the essence of our true selves. Living and leading our life in harmony with our most deeply held beliefs is a major step toward leading a life of significance – a life that is not about us but about serving others and making a difference in the world.
As we pursue our vision and lead our lives, our deeply held beliefs help ensure that we are on course. They provide anchors for our lives. If we feel that we have led a life that betrays everything that we believe in, that is soul crushing. It is a place you do not want to be.
Where Beliefs Come From
What are these beliefs that can form anchors for our lives? They are typically a set of principles, a moral philosophy, if you will. They may be rooted in a major religion, such as Christianity, Judaism, Hinduism, Buddhism, or Islam. They could also be based on a philosophical way of thought, such as the writings of Confucius, Plato, Aristotle, or John Stuart Mill.
That there are documented writings that address the purpose of life and where we find that purpose is an advantage of a religious way of thought. There are also teachers that can provide guidance and help us live in accordance to our purpose.
Discovering Your Own Beliefs
It’s important that you spend some time examining your beliefs. What do you believe? Is every area of your life in alignment with your belief system? If not, why not? For anchors to be really effective in our lives, we must really think through and believe in our belief system. Having halfhearted beliefs does not provide a strong anchor.
Below are a few things you can get started on today that will take you one step closer to discovering the anchors in your life:
Write out and describe the principles that you lead your life by. It might be humility, integrity, and self-sacrifice. Or perhaps, kindness, generosity, and compassion.
Then, think about why you believe in these principles. Why are you so passionate about them? Spoiler alert: If you are not passionate about your beliefs, that is a problem.
Next, think through where your beliefs come from. Do they come from a particular moral philosophy or a religious way of thought?
Lastly, start to immerse yourself in more of the writings and teachings behind your beliefs. Talk with teachers of these beliefs or others who have similar beliefs.
Applying Your Beliefs as Life Anchors
Once you have found the belief system that forms the anchor of your life, you can then start to evaluate and apply your anchors to every aspect of your life. I’ve highlighted a few steps and questions to reflect on below.
Do an audit of your life, your vision, and your path. Are your beliefs in alignment with your life and path?
If your life and path are not in line with your beliefs, outline the steps you will take to get your life and your path into alignment with your beliefs.
An important part in ensuring we are living our beliefs is to talk to our closest friends who are open and nonjudgmental. Tell them what your beliefs are and how they should affect how you live. Get their input as to how you are doing in living out your beliefs.
You may find that your daily life is so full of to-do lists and endless tasks that you forget what anchors you. When this happens, make it a daily practice to spend time strengthening your anchors. Whether it’s through teachings or meditations, it’s essential to feeling calm and centered as you go about your day.
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John Fairfax, my great-great-grandfather, is a perfect example of a man who did not let his crucible experience define him. Rather, his crucible experience was the springboard to bring his vision to life. It created an inflection point that changed the path of his life and the course of my family’s future.
John Fairfax was born in 1804 in the county of Warwickshire in England (hence the first name that my father and I have). He did not grow up a wealthy man. At age twelve, John was apprenticed to a local bookseller and printer. At age twenty, he moved to London to work for the Morning Chronicle newspaper. He later moved back to Warwickshire and founded the Leamington Chronicle.
John’s Crucible Moment
In 1836, John was faced with a crucible moment. His paper published an article condemning the conduct of a local lawyer. The lawyer sued the paper. While the court ruled in favor of John Fairfax and the Leamington Chronicle, the lawyer —knowing that John’s resources were limited — sued the paper again. The court again ruled in favor of John and the paper. Unfortunately, the heavy legal expenses forced John into bankruptcy.
The bankruptcy left John devastated. All that he had dreamed of over the last decade seemed to be gone. The townspeople, including friends from his local church, wanted to raise money to support John and help the Leamington Chronicle continue, but John would not accept charity.
Moving Forward
In 1838 John and his wife, Sarah, took their three young children on the arduous four month journey to Australia. John felt unfairly persecuted, but he did not give up on his dream of building his own newspaper. If anything, the dream and the vision grew.
John’s vision of building a paper “without fear to express opinion…without the reproach of self-interest, sworn to no master and free from the narrow interests of sectarianism” eventually would become a reality. In 1841, John purchased the Sydney Morning Herald.
The existing motto of the paper fit neatly into John’s vision: “In moderation placing all my glory, while Tories call me Whig – and Whigs a Tory.” In today’s language, it would read, “while Conservatives call me Liberal and Liberals call me Conservative.” Unlike many papers of the day, John’s newspaper would not be a party newspaper.
John was able to forgive the wrong done to him and was not bitter. Years later, John would return to Leamington and pay off the debts of his creditors, even though he did not have to. They were wiped clean in bankruptcy. John even paid off the debts of the lawyer who had unfairly sued him.
What can we learn from John’s story?
– Our failures don’t have to define us. – Our failures can sometimes be a catalyst for bold risk-taking. – Our crucible moments can increase our determination and expand our vision — and help bring that vision to life. – To be able to move forward, we need to forgive.
John’s story is a great example of how a crucible experience of great loss, tragedy, and unfair persecution can motivate us to achieve our vision. We could do well to learn from John Fairfax and the way he allowed his crucible experience to propel him forward.
Reflection
How can your crucible experience motivate you to achieve your vision, and perhaps an expanded vision? How can you let go of any bitterness you may have toward others?
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I have found that when you use a crucible moment to help others, it can be very healing. When we take the focus off ourselves and try to use what we have been through to help others, it can make a huge difference in our spirit and our lives. Living such a life — using the pain of a crucible experience to help others — is what leading a life of significance is all about. But how do we get to a place where our experiences empower us rather than define us?
What is a Crucible Moment?
First, we need to define what a crucible moment is. Typically, it’s a painful experience that changes us. If we choose, it can be like a refining fire, molding us into something new. We can either wallow in our misfortune or we can choose to use our pain to help others and lead a life of significance. How we use our pain depends on the type of experience we have had. No person’s crucible moment is exactly the same as anyone else’s. Rather, each experience is incredibly personal.
A crucible moment can include the following difficult experiences:
The loss of a business. Losing your job or being fired. Living with a health challenge such as cancer. Having your marriage end in divorce. Losing a loved one.
Crucible moments such as these can be searing. How do you recover from losing a job that you have put everything you have into? What about feeling like you were unfairly fired from your job? Maybe you have a health challenge, due to the poor genetics in your family. How is that fair? Or what about having your marriage end in divorce after years of being together? How do you carry on with life, alone? What does each day look like when someone you love has passed away?
Find Time for Reflection
When faced with a crucible experience, the first step to moving beyond it and finding the purpose to your pain is through reflection. You have to first understand what you are feeling and why, as well as understand what happened, before you can take the next step to moving on.
Here are some steps to help with reflection:
Be honest with yourself. Assess how much of the situation was your fault. Perhaps you played a role in being fired. In a health challenge, assess how much your lifestyle (diet and exercise) was a contributing factor. With a divorce, perhaps it was not all his or her fault. Maybe your behavior or actions did not help, either.
Ask for input. Get input from others who know and care about you. Perhaps some coworkers can give you their perspective as to why you were fired. Some loved ones, if asked, might be able to help you determine how much of what led to your divorce was your fault and what was not.
Take responsibility. This might involve accepting the role you played in being fired, getting divorced, or the impact that an unhealthy lifestyle may have played in your health situation.
Accept and Forgive
Very often with crucible moments, acceptance and forgiveness are key. If you made mistakes that led to the loss of your business or your job, you have to accept it and own it, and then forgive those you might have a grudge against. It is not easy, as I know all too well. In a health challenge, you might have eaten properly and exercised, and might have still gotten sick. You might be angry at the world or at God. Or with a marriage, you might have suffered abuse and, understandably, have a lot of anger.
To be able to move on you have to forgive, whether or not the other person deserves forgiveness. Forgiveness is as much about helping you move on, as it is about showing grace toward the other person. Forgiveness is a choice. It is not about how you feel. To be able to forgive, sometimes talking to a trained therapist can help. Prayer or meditation can also be very helpful.
Moving On: Using Your Experience to Help Others
The key to moving on after acceptance and forgiveness is finding ways to help others using your own experience. Losing a business or being fired can give you empathy for others who have been through something similar and perhaps you have some insights that might help others avoid what you have been through. This could mean being a mentor to other business leaders.
Living with a health challenge can give you a degree of empathy to come alongside others, such as those battling with cancer, that other people are not really able to. Perhaps you could join or lead a group of cancer survivors, for instance.
With a divorce or the loss of a loved one, you could be part of groups that exist to help such people. For instance, you could join a group of spouses of veterans who have lost their loved ones, or a group for people coping with loss or, depending on the situation, be part of a group who have suffered abuse in their marriage.
Whatever your experience is, there is immense strength in sharing your story. It’s not only empowering, but it can help to light the way for those who are walking a similar path. Helping others who are going through what you have been through can be incredibly healing. The pain never completely goes away, but when we use our pain to help others, we find purpose to our pain and to our lives.
If you’re ready to find power and purpose in your crucible moment, I encourage you to ask yourself the following reflective questions. To dive even deeper, feel free to download our free Crucible Leadership workbook.
Reflection
What type of crucible experience have you been through?
Who do you have to forgive?
How can you use the pain you have been through to help others?
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I was walking on Siesta Key Beach in Sarasota, Florida, a few weeks ago — the day before we were to return to Maryland. Siesta Key Beach is rated as one of the top beaches in the US, but today it was shrouded in fog. You could barely see 100 yards in front of you, out to the Gulf or inland to the condos lining the beach. The fog was so dense that you could feel the moisture on your skin.
The fog made me think of vision. Having your vision become reality is like walking on the beach in a dense fog. You have this sense that you are going in the right direction, but you rarely see your exact goal in the distance. Your goals and vision may evolve and change over time as you keep heading forward. It’s much like Walt Disney’s vision of animated cartoons telling stories that later evolved into color feature-length films like Snow White and, ultimately, into theme parks like Disneyland.
Cognitively, you have this sense you are going in the right direction because your vision lines up with your beliefs and your aptitude. Your vision may well have come out of a crucible experience that makes you want to make a difference, perhaps so that other people won’t go through what you went through. But in your gut, you know this just makes sense. It is the right thing for you to do. You are on the right path.
To me the fog is beautiful. If there was no fog, we could see our goals and vision clearly and no faith would be required. People of faith think of the verse in Hebrews that says, “Now faith is confidence in what we hope for and assurance about what we do not see.” More broadly, we believe there is a plan and that somehow what we have been through is going to help others, or just simply that our lives will count for something.
So, we keep going, one step at a time, through the fog — not quite sure where we will end up, but confident that we are going down the right path. Sometimes, as we reach our goal or perhaps a key milestone, we see something unexpected. In this case, as I reached the end of the beach I saw this bush with shells hung on the branches. I have walked to this end of the beach many times before, but I don’t remember seeing shells on the bush. Perhaps it was always there, and I did not notice. Or perhaps it just came there during the mystery of the fog.
Reflection
Reflect on the vision you have. Spend five minutes and write down the vision that you feel is pushing you forward.
How much do your trust your vision and the path that is unfolding?
Assuming you do believe you are on the right path, how can you keep trusting the process? Who can you talk to that can encourage you to stay the course?
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Abraham Lincoln is commonly regarded by most historians as the greatest American President. The great Russian writer Leo Tolstoy said that Lincoln’s supremacy compared to other great leaders in history was due to “his peculiar moral power and … the greatness of his character.” Lincoln was able to assemble a great team and create an environment for them to succeed. The cornerstone of his leadership that enabled him to do this was his character.
Appointing a Team of Rivals
Lincoln had a profound sense of self-confidence mixed with humility. He knew who he was and was content within his own skin. This sense of inner confidence and contentment with who he was enabled him to appoint a team irrespective of what they thought of him. He was not easily threatened, nor was he insecure. This was most apparent at the beginning of his presidency when he appointed three rivals for the Republican nomination for president to three of the most important positions in his cabinet. William Seward was his main political rival and he appointed him to arguably the most important position in the cabinet, Secretary of State. Salmon Chase, a former governor of Ohio and US senator, was appointed as Secretary of the Treasury and Edward Bates was appointed as Attorney General.
What was amazing about these appointments, is that not only were these men his political rivals, but they each thought that the wrong man had been nominated for president by their party. They had rather a dim view of Lincoln and saw him as a relatively uneducated person from the wilds of Illinois. Lincoln, however, wanted the strongest cabinet possible, irrespective of their personalities or even whether they respected or liked him. He stated that “we needed the strongest men of the party in the Cabinet” and that he “had no right to deprive the country of their services.”
Few leaders appoint a team of people who were their rivals for the top position and who don’t necessarily respect them. It’s a risky move. These former rivals may well try to undermine the leader and may potentially still lobby for the leader’s position. Salmon Chase was the most difficult of his cabinet and did work to undermine Lincoln at times. In 1864, which was an election year, Chase and his supporters published a pamphlet very critical of Lincoln saying that Chase had “more of the qualities needed in a President.” Chase would often threaten to resign to reassert his authority. Eventually Lincoln accepted Chase’s resignation but ended up nominating Chase to be the Chief Justice of the Supreme Court in December 1864. Even Lincoln did not really want to do this, but he said that “there is not a man in the Union who could make as good a chief justice as Chase.”
Creating a Successful Environment
Lincoln not only picked a group of people with diverse skills to be in his cabinet, but he also created an environment for them to succeed. Lincoln was fiercely loyal to his team and would always support them. He would not let short-term political expediency make him sacrifice a key member of the team who deserved to stay. In 1862, the North suffered some military reverses. Members of Congress blamed the Secretary of State, William Seward, who in the early years of Lincoln’s presidency was seen as the power behind the throne. While Seward offered to resign, Lincoln calmly listened to his members of Congress and defended Seward against their accusations. Team members do not forget this kind of loyalty.
Lincoln also took input well. During Lincoln’s writing of the Second Inaugural Address after the 1864 election, Lincoln actually asked some of his team to give input into the address. Another example of Lincoln’s ability to receive input was shown by a meeting Lincoln had with a military officer who said that while he had not voted for Lincoln in the election, he would loyally support him. Lincoln said to the officer that “when you see me doing anything that for the good of the country ought not to be done, come and tell me so, and why you think so…”
By the end of Lincoln’s presidency and certainly after his death, the attitudes of Lincoln’s team had changed dramatically. William Seward, Lincoln’s key rival for the Republican presidential nomination, said Lincoln was “the best and wisest man he [had] ever known.” Edward Bates said that Lincoln “comes very near being a perfect man.” What accounts for such a turnaround in attitudes by Lincoln’s team? In summary, it was his character. Lincoln not only had this innate self-confidence, humility and self-awareness, but he took input well and was fiercely loyal to his team.
Learning from A Man of Character
What can we as leaders learn about organizational leadership from Lincoln? Appoint the best leaders to your team with a diverse set of skills and backgrounds irrespective of what they think of you. Your job is to set a clear vision and direction…and then win them over. The more secure you are and the more authentic and self-aware, the more you will build trust with your team.
It all boils down to your character as a leader. This is the key to assembling a great team and creating an environment for them to succeed. If you can’t be a leader of character who leads by example, you should not be a leader. It’s better to step out of the way and let a better leader, a leader of character, take your place.
Reflection
Examine your own character as a leader. Do you have the self-confidence to appoint a team with diverse skills, even if they may not even like you? If not, outline areas of deficiency (taking input, loyalty, delegation) and work up a plan to improve.
How good are you at taking input from your team? The next time you have a team meeting or are meeting with an employee individually, make it a point to listen first before you say anything.
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We have looked at several different areas of leadership. Some have been internal, such as character, and some have been external, such as vision. We have talked of the ‘being’ of a leader. Character, internal beliefs, and crucible experiences often lead to vision. But how do we make vision become reality? What about the ‘doing’ of a leader? That is where organizational leadership becomes important.
There are two key aspects of organizational leadership; selecting the right people and creating an environment for them to succeed. This is a huge part of the doing of a leader. Yes, the leader has to lead the way in coming up with the vision in the first place. They must also continually be the primary evangelist of that vision both within their organization and to the outside world — but this is not sufficient. One of the primary roles of the leader day-to-day is to find the right people and to create a cultural climate that ensures their success.
Finding the Right People
Conventional wisdom says the most qualified candidate is the person with the most experience and skills for the position in question. That is part of the equation but not the whole part. To find candidates who will really drive the vision forward, you need to first hire for character, then for mission, and then for skills. When we talk about character, you should look for team members that are honest, driven, and hardworking. You’ll want them to be team players, humble, and willing to take input. Second, they need to be absolutely sold out for the mission of your organization. If you are Southwest and your mission is to connect people and families at affordable prices, you really need to find candidates who passionately care about this mission. Lastly, your team should have the skills and experience that are required for their roles.
Another layer on top of hiring your team is to consider what kind of leader — indeed what kind of person — you are. You have to know your unique design and how you are wired. This will help you hire a team with complementary skills. If you are a take-charge leader who acts first and thinks later, you might want to hire a team with a more reflective approach. If you are more of a contemplative leader, you might want to have people around you that are more action-oriented. You want to have a team around you with complementary skills, approaches, and ways of thinking.
Creating the Right Environment
Once you have hired the right team, you have to create an environment for them to succeed. A number of companies have excellent visions, great missions, and good values, but the trouble is that they often don’t live them out. Enron suffered one of the biggest bankruptcies in US corporate history in the early 2000s. The CEO was convicted and sentenced to many years in prison and the company was accused of misleading its board and the public. Enron’s core values it claimed it had were respect, integrity, communication and, excellence.
For an organization to succeed, it must truly live its values and mission. It starts at the top with senior leaders modeling the organization’s values and mission in how they live and treat people. Senior leaders such as this will do everything they can to ensure that all the organization’s systems such as hiring, retention, promotion, compensation, and benefits all support the mission, vision, and values of the organization.
When you hire great people and give them a clear mission, you then must step out of the way. Talented, motivated, and driven individuals won’t be micromanaged. Hire the right people based on character, mission, and skills and let them help you make your vision happen. They might do their jobs differently than you would do it, but that is OK. If the job is getting done the right way (in harmony with the mission of the organization by people of good character), then let your team make it happen.
Cultivating a Thriving Organization
The beauty of successful organizational leadership is that it allows senior leaders to do what they love doing and what should be a big part of their job. It allows them to dream big visions and put plans in place to make them happen. When an organization is led by bold visionary leaders who put dreams into action, it motivates the rest of those in the organization even more. After all, these senior leaders have already hired the right people. They have also created an environment for them to succeed. The outcome is that the organization now has leaders leading boldly with a team eager and waiting to bring the vision of the organization to life. Isn’t that what everyone wants?
Reflection
Are you looking for character first when hiring? If not, consider redoing your hiring process to ensure people are hired for character, then passion for the mission, and then skills.
Are all areas of your organization supporting your vision, mission, and values? Take a few moments to do a thorough examination of all your systems (hiring, retention, promotion, compensation, and benefits) to ensure that they all support the vision, mission, and values you believe your organization must have.
Are you micromanaging or giving your talented and motivated team members the freedom to soar? If you’re micromanaging, re-examine if you have the right team in place that complements you.
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Science fiction at its best holds the promise of what can be.
It is idealistic and hopeful. That is what vision, at least great vision, is about – a clear picture of a better tomorrow.
My first introduction to science fiction was through the movie “2001: A Space Odyssey,” which came out in 1968. From the very first scene, I was transfixed. Many technologies that did not exist at the time, but would exist decades later, were shown. So many touches are designed to make you feel like you are there. When Dr. Floyd is on the space station, he uses voice print identification, a technology that would not exist until the late 1990s. Later on, we see Dr. Floyd in a Bell telephone video conference booth to wish his young daughter back on earth a happy birthday. Affordable video conferencing with webcams came in the 1990s, while the iPhone, which would have video call technology, was launched in 2007. Later, we see three scientists in cryogenic hibernation on a spacecraft run by a highly sophisticated, emotionally intelligent talking computer named HAL. While we have computer devices we can talk to and get answers from like Siri or Alexa, we still don’t have sophisticated emotionally intelligent AI devices like HAL, at least not yet!
The world that is created within this movie gives such a precise picture of a better tomorrow. A great personal or professional vision is often like this – a clear picture of a preferred future and a better tomorrow. It feels so real that you can almost touch it. It feels so real that you would want to live there – you want that vision to happen now.
Another great example of this is the original “Star Trek” series that came out in 1966. The show imagines a world where a collection of planets has banded together under an organization called the United Federation of Planets. Within the Federation there are no wars or poverty. It’s almost a utopian society. Starfleet is the defensive, scientific, and exploratory arm of the Federation, composed of many spacecrafts. Starfleet’s mission in the original 1966 series was, famously, “to boldly go where no man has gone before.”
Science fiction at its best such as “2001: A Space Odyssey” and “Star Trek” provide a great example of vision. It is bold and feels far removed from where we are, but yet also feels attainable. The clarity of the vision makes it seem so real. Who of us would not want a future with a more peaceful, inclusive society or with great technological advances?
We spoke in the last blog of how vision often arises out of something you feel must change, perhaps relating to a crucible experience. But vision can also arise out of something that you feel could happen. You lie awake at night dreaming about it. Start thinking about what is it that you would like to have happen. Think far into the future. What would life look like? Once you have that vision in your head, write it down. Fill in the details of the vision, so that you can almost feel it and touch it. You know you have arrived at a good vision when it feels almost impossible — but not quite.
The next step is to get a core team together who share the same vision. The technology or infrastructure may not yet exist to make all of your vision become reality. But get started on a piece of it. What can you do now? What is the first step?
The takeaway here is to let your imagination go. It may take time, even years, for your vision to become clear, but start today. Boldly go where no one has gone before.
Reflection
What is your vision of a better tomorrow?
Next Steps
What first step will you take to make the vision happen?
Below are some next steps to get started:
Write down what you feel would be amazing if it could happen.
Imagine a time a few years from now when your vision has become reality. Write down what you see or paint a picture of what life looks like in this vision.
Share your vision with a core team that believes in the vision. Ask them to add to it and make it better.
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Finding Your Vision
Vision is a picture of a preferred future reality. It may seem almost impossible to achieve, but that is not a deterrent. You may not have a clear picture of what you want your vision to be or where you want to take your life, but you often have an idea, a thought. It calls out to you, compels you, and fills you with a passion unlike any you’ve felt before. I like to compare it to an impressionist painting more so than a photo. You can see colors and shapes, even if they are not well defined. You have a sense of what you want your life to look like and what your purpose should be. It’s exciting — propelling you forward with every thought.
The question many people will have is how you find your vision. Vision may come out of a crucible experience you have had. It’s often the most challenging and painful experiences in life that move people into finding their vision. Look at all the things you don’t like and want to change. Look at all the things you enjoy that you want to continue to serve. Out of all of those things, which are you really passionate about?
Forming Your Vision
So how do you form a vision that is so compelling, that you are so passionate about? I like to think that the best-formed visions live at the intersection of your deep-seated beliefs and your aptitude. It starts with being grounded in your fundamental beliefs. A vision that will go the distance must fulfill a higher purpose — something that you believe will make the world a better place. Circumstances such as crucible experiences often provide fertile ground for understanding who you really are and what innate gifts and abilities you have. Creating a vision for yourself that fully aligns with who you are sets the foundation for you to live and lead with uncompromised authenticity.
In an earlier blog post, I spoke of Walt Disney. He had a vision of a different kind of cartoon, cartoons like Snow White that would be full feature-length movies that would tell a compelling story. It helped that Walt Disney was an animator that could inspire others with the vision he wanted to achieve.
Vision can sometimes seem hard to define. But a vision that is anchored in who you are and what you believe, defined and refined by circumstances such as crucible experiences and fueled by a higher purpose, will become clear and grow over time. Walt Disney did not necessarily have a vision of everything he would achieve, but he was fascinated with animated cartoons and the ability to tell stories. He knew that there was promise there, he believed in what his vision was, and so he began the journey of turning it into a reality.
What we learn from Walt Disney is that vision may change, evolve, and grow into something greater or different than you originally intended, but this is alright. The important thing is to start. Begin with what you feel needs to change, perhaps as a result of a crucible experience, then take one step at a time. The vision will become more defined over time. Trust your instincts and trust the process as your vision begins to slowly evolve and take shape.
Making It Stick
Seeing your vision take hold and grow in clarity is not easy — it may take years. Inevitably there will be challenges and setbacks. So how do you keep going and persevere? It is critical that you have a support team that believes in you and your vision, people who are with you no matter what. It could be family members, or it could be the team that you are going to build the vision with. If the vision is all about you, you will probably find it hard to attract people to help you or be part of your vision.
To have staying power, you also have to believe in what you are doing. Always remember why you started this journey and why it’s important to you that you see it through. Don’t let fear or doubt hold you back. A vision that will go the distance must fulfill a higher purpose, something that you believe will make the world a better place. This will always help compel you and your team forward.
There’s no better time than now to begin your journey to finding your vision, forming it, and giving it the necessary ingredients to make it become a reality.
What dream do you have that you would like to become reality? Get out your paintbrush and start painting. Brush stroke by brush stroke, you will fill in your vision and bring it to life in ways you could never imagine.
Reflection
What do you really care about?
Next Steps
Write down what you believe must change. It may be from a crucible experience. It will be something that you believe will fulfill a higher purpose and will help others.
Write down the names of the core team that will help make your vision a reality.
Write down the first step you will take on the journey to making your vision come true.
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Many of us find it hard to listen, especially when our minds are made up on a course of action. Leaders often find it hard to listen to their team when they are convinced they know what to do. “Stop holding me up! We need to move now!” We might have heard this before or even been the one saying this. But great leaders do listen to those around them. Their team will often have skills and experience that they don’t have.
George Washington was a great example of a leader who was impatient and wanted things to happen yesterday. Yet, albeit reluctantly, he listened to his team of commanders, many of whom had more military experience than he did.
From the latter half of 1775 to early 1776, Washington lay siege to the British forces in Boston. Time and again, he wanted to take the fight to the enemy and capture Boston. Each time, his key commanders said it wasn’t time. Washington was certainly frustrated, but each time he listened to his commanders.
In 1775, Boston was almost an island, connected to the mainland by a narrow causeway or neck. While the American forces barricaded the neck, the British were in something of an impregnable fortress.
Washington’s troops were not in great shape. As time wore on toward the end of the year, some were absent or sick. There were shortages of blankets, tents, and clothing. To make matters worse, many soldiers had enlisted until the end of the year of 1775, when it was assumed many would leave. While Washington did have some military experience, he had not led an army into battle. His experience and ability were not at the same level as his adversary, British General William Howe. Though perhaps a bit complacent, Howe was an able and courageous general. Washington’s army of volunteers was up against the might of the British army. This was not going to be easy.
Between September 1775 and February 1776, Washington convened four councils of war with his leading commanders. These commanders included experienced former British officers in Major General Charles Lee and Brigadier Horatio Gates. At each council, Washington would call for an all-out attack – but each time his commanders unanimously agreed not to attack. In February 1776, Colonel Henry Knox had somewhat miraculously brought 58 mortars and cannons from Fort Ticonderoga, New York, to the Boston area. Washington again wanted to attack the British in Boston, but still his commanders said no. Can you imagine how frustrated Washington must have been?
Little did Washington know, but his commanders had a daring and brilliant plan. In the dead of night on March 4, 1776, Washington’s commanders had over 3,000 troops, along with at least twenty cannons, scale the Dorchester Heights overlooking Boston and its harbor. By morning, the British were faced with American forces and cannons that could strike right into Boston and potentially fire upon the British ships in the harbor. The British position was untenable. British General Howe said, “My God, these fellows have done more work in one night than I could make my army do in three months.” That night the British were forced to leave with 120 ships carrying more than 11,000 troops, loyalists, and their families to Canada. Washington had achieved a bold and brilliant victory.
What can we learn from George Washington about listening and, in particular, listening to those around us? Washington was an impatient man with a fiery temper. He obviously wanted to capture Boston as quickly as possible, but when faced with the united opposition of his team, he wisely, if reluctantly, listened. To have attacked before he had the right equipment and the right strategy would have been foolish. Washington was up against an able opponent in British General Howe who had more battlefield command experience than he did. Washington, with good judgment, forced himself to be patient and listen to his team of able commanders.
For us, we may be convinced we know what we should do, yet we are often faced with challenging circumstances where mistakes can be costly. Listening to those around us, in some cases our team, will add perspectives and knowledge that we simply don’t have. No one can possibly have all the answers.
To put it simply, listening is typically the right play. Why wouldn’t we want to listen to people with knowledge and expertise that we don’t have?
Reflection
What can we learn from Washington and his ability to control his natural impatience?
What can we learn from how Washington listened to his team?
Can you think of a time you listened to those around you instead of yourself and it paid off?
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To lead a life of significance an indispensable component is listening. Many endeavors in life require a jumping off point. It’s the point where you have to stop thinking and dreaming about what you want to achieve and make steps to achieving it. Good listening is essential to closing the gap between vision and reality.
If listening is so valuable though, why do so few of us really listen?
Lack of curiosity is the answer. Most people don’t care what other people think – but we should care. Few leaders or people in general listen well. They would rather listen to the sound of their own voices than to other people. The sad fact is so few people really want to listen. Therein lies a conundrum.
What can listening do for you?
To make your vision a reality often requires the input, feedback and buy-in of others. These individuals may work for you or with you. They may be your employees, business partners, associates, or your friends and family. Regardless, without the buy-in of others, typically your vision will go nowhere. In a word, it will be dead on arrival.
Gathering Input
Part of the reason for this is that by listening to others, it may make your vision better. By listening to others, you may find you hear ideas you have not thought of. You might learn of unexpected roadblocks or pitfalls before they happen. Wouldn’t you rather learn of future difficulties before they happen, than be in crisis mode when you have to deal with them in real time?
Receiving Feedback
Good listening also allows you to better understand what is going on around you. The feedback may be from close to home or far away. Either way, feedback is invaluable. You can decide how helpful feedback is from any particular source. But the act of seeking feedback is so important if you really want your vision to happen. One idea could revolutionize our own ideas and make them so much better.
Getting Buy In
Another reason listening is so crucial is that until people have been heard, they will not typically buy-in to your vision. When you allow people to be heard, there’s a chance your vision will change, but there’s also a chance it won’t. Once people have been heard, they may go along with your vision without any changes. At the end of the day, people just want to be heard and feel included.
It all boils down to the fact that if you want your vision to become reality, you have to really want to listen to others. The more you seek to understand the other person, put yourself in their shoes, have empathy for them, the more it will help you listen. We do not have to agree with the input of everyone, but we should want input. We should not be afraid of feedback, because it’s feedback that will help our vision become stronger.
The price of getting our vision accomplished is often our desire to listen…to really listen.
Reflection
Do you really want to listen?
How could listening make your vision so much better?
Who should you listen to?
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