Our summer series LIGHTS, CAMERA, CRUCIBLES: What Our Favorite Movie Heroes Can Teach Us About Overcoming Setbacks and Failure continues with HOOSIERS … and it’s the perfect film to end the series before next week’s wrap-up episode. Why? Because at its core the message of the film is what overcoming our crucibles is really all about: redemption.
It’s the story of Coach Norman Dale, who leads his team to an unlikely Indiana high school basketball championship in the 1950s. It’s unlikely because the Hickory Huskers are a small team from a tiny school. Coach Dale has to start from scratch by instilling in the boys the confidence and discipline and what he believes is the right way to play the game. Along the way, he extends grace and offers redemption to the father of one of the boys whose struggles with alcohol had made him a town pariah. And he’s earned redemption himself thanks to the second chances he was extended by friends and strangers – opportunities he met with humility, courage and character.
Highlights
- A movie about redemption (4:03)
- Norman Dale’s second chance (7:35)
- The new coach’s awkward meeting with the small town’s fathers (11:37)
- Warwick’s experience with others’ visions crowding out his own (15:10)
- Coach Dale’s on-court crucible (18:33)
- The importance of living your values and beliefs (20:40)
- When those you lead defy you (27:32)
- The redemption of Shooter (31:09)
- The town’s failed attempt to remove Coach Dale (35:59)
- Jimmy Chitwood saves Coach Dale’s job … and redeems the team (41:11)
- Coach Dale’s inspirational speech (48:36)
- Staying true to your values, even if it means losing something (50:11)
- The redemption of the worst player on the team … leads to playoff victory 52:39)
- All the redemption arcs come to full fruition (55:51)
- The Fairfax family’s connection to Indiana basketball (1:06:05)
- Key takeaways (1:14:52)
- A question for reflection (1:19:58)
Transcript
Warwick Fairfax:
Welcome to Beyond the Crucible. I'm Warwick Fairfax, the founder of Crucible Leadership.
Norman Dale:
We're way past big speech time. I want to thank you for the last few months. It's been very special for me. Anybody have anything they want to say?
Player 1:
Yeah. Let's win this one for all the small schools who never had a chance to get here.
Norman Dale:
Okay.
Player 2:
I want to win for my dad.
Player 3:
Let's win for coach. You got us here. Thank you.
Pastor:
With God of heaven, it is all one to deliver with a great multitude or a small company. For the victory of battle standeth not in the multitude of hosts, but strength cometh from heaven. And David put his hand in the bag and took out a stone and slung it and struck the Philistine on the head and he fell to the ground.
Player 1:
Amen.
Pastor:
Amen.
Norman Dale:
I love you guys.
Gary Schneeberger:
We wrap up our summer series Lights, Camera, Crucibles, what our favorite movie heroes can teach us about overcoming setbacks and failure with Hoosiers. And it's the perfect film to end on. Why? Because at its core is the condition that colors what overcoming our crucibles is really all about, redemption. Hi, I'm Gary Schneeberger, co-host of the show.
Gary Schneeberger:
That clip you just heard is Coach Norman Dale, played by Gene Hackman, addressing his high school basketball team before their Indiana State Championship Game in the 1950s. It's a small team from a tiny school, hence the David and Goliath reference from the team chaplain. And Coach Dale has done more than come to love his players by the time the team gets to this moment. He has instilled in them confidence and discipline, and what he believes is the right way to play the game. Along the way, he extends grace and offers redemption to one of the boy's fathers, whose struggles with alcohol had made him a town pariah. And he's earned redemption himself thanks to the second chances he was extended by friends and strangers. Opportunities he met with humility, courage, and character.
Warwick Fairfax:
There's a lot of great movies that we've seen, like The Natural, obviously, there's a bit of redemptive quality. But I guess for me having had my own challenges, as listeners know, $2.25 billion take over of a family business in Australia in media not working out. I love stories where your life isn't over, and there's a way back either from your own mistakes, or when things happen to you. And I think that's why, for so many people, the movie that we're going to talk about is so beloved because there is this theme of redemption, of second chance, of coming back from challenges. So that's probably one of the reasons it's so many people love this movie.
Gary Schneeberger:
Right. And I think more than any other movie that we've covered in this series, Hoosiers truly is a movie about redemption. And that's a key concept that undergirds what we do at Crucible Leadership and here in Beyond the Crucible. And that is when we say your worst day doesn't define you, when we talk about bouncing back from setback and failure by learning the lessons of your trials and applying them, what we're really talking about at the most basic level is the word that Warwick used is redemption. That's what we're talking about.
Gary Schneeberger:
And it's interesting. I love to look up the definitions of words in Noah Webster's first dictionary from 1828. And this is how he defined redemption in his first dictionary in 1828. He defines it as this, "Deliverance from bondage, distress, or from liability to any evil or forfeiture either by money, labor, or other means."
Gary Schneeberger:
And that, in this movie, is the absolute story of the protagonist Norman Dale. That's his story arc. But it's not just his story arc. It's the story arc of a bunch of other folks in the movie that we'll talk about. But I was intrigued Warwick, and we haven't talked about this in advance. This is the moment right here if this were a game show, this is when someone would come out with a big sign that says, "I'm surprising Warwick" because we didn't talk about this in advance as we prepped. Noah Webster's definition, the first word he uses as he talks about redemption, is deliverance from bondage, distress or from liability. Deliverance is the first word he used. And for me, that was an interesting word in the definition. Do you remember why that's so interesting in the context of Crucible Leadership and you?
Warwick Fairfax:
Maybe. Yeah. I mean, I often would think that what I went through was like prison, and I'm glad I'm out of it. But there was a time in, I guess folks will see this very soon, we did a speaking video. Shot it in Denver. And we prep and all, but in terms of the actual footage, I know roughly what I'm going to say, but that was the very first time that I said when the company went under, while it was a tragedy in so many ways for me and many others and in the company, there was a sense for me personally, deliverance. I might have even said deliverance from bondage. And we shot this a number of months ago. First time ever used that word. So sometimes the path of redemption, there's a sense of deliverance from a path that was painful and wasn't helpful. So yeah, that reminds me of that scene in my own little video.
Gary Schneeberger:
And it reminded me too. I mean, I was like, oh my gosh, that was the word. And I still remember when you said it in this video that has not yet gone public, but will soon. When you said that it was the first time you'd ever said it. And you've been talking about your story, you wrote about your story, and you'd never used that. And I think what that says to us is is as we continue to walk out our journey in our life of significance, or toward our life of significance, things can shift and our perspective can change about what we have learned from the crucibles we've been through. So that was indeed your story, as you said, in the videos, as you've said, many times is one of redemption.
Gary Schneeberger:
And that's certainly the story of the protagonist of this film, Norman Dale. The first time we meet him, he arrives in Hickory, Indiana in 1951 to meet his old friend Cletus, who's the principal of Hickory High School. Now Hickory, we see as he's driving in his car, is clearly a farming town, not a big town. One of the scenes he sees as he's driving in are a couple of boys shooting baskets on what looks like a makeshift backboard and rim affixed to a barn. This is not a big city. This is a small town.
Gary Schneeberger:
And Norman Dale arrives there to see his old friend Cletus. And it's been 20 years since they've actually talked to each other. And we learn in their conversation, which is the typical kind of conversation old friends have, that Dale has been hired as a new basketball coach of the Hickory Huskers, the basketball team, and also a history teacher at the school. We get the sense very clearly that Norman Dale has been through a crucible, but we don't know what it is yet. Because Cletus tells him, as he welcomes him, "Slate's clean here. We've got a job to do." So there's some slate that was not clean before. And now it's clear for Cletus as Norman Dale arrives in Hickory.
Gary Schneeberger:
And Norman Dale responds, "It's got to work out this time or that's it for good," for him. So he recognizes, he says, again, we don't know what it is, but we know that something has happened in Norman Dale's life that changed the trajectory of it, as we say, here at Beyond the Crucible. And this is a key truth, I think, of what it is required of moving beyond a crucible, which is also expressed as being redeemed from errors or traumas of your past. And we don't yet know, as I said, what Norman Dale has been through.
Gary Schneeberger:
But it is a navigable road if others believe the best about you and give you a second chance. That's the takeaway from Norman Dale meeting up with his friend Cletus. He's got a second chance. We don't know what the first chance was. We don't know what happened. But that's a pretty important point when he and Cletus are meeting and Cletus is like, "Yep. Slate's clean." That will prove very important, very critical to the journey that Norman Dale goes on, right?
Warwick Fairfax:
Absolutely, Gary. I mean, redemption is the core theme of this movie, as you said before, not just for Coach Norman Dale, but for others that we will see here in a bit. But often, especially when maybe you've done something wrong, it's easy for folks to write you off and say, yep, not giving that guy, not giving that woman, not giving that person a second chance. Their history, it's almost like the Bible, leper, unclean, stay on the outskirts of town. You're not acceptable in polite society anymore. Just leave. Your life is over. Just disappear, hide in a hole somewhere.
Warwick Fairfax:
And it's easy to feel like the whole world sees you that way. And it's not often, unfortunately, that somebody will give you a second chance. Maybe you don't even believe in yourself anymore. But somebody maybe sees a glimmer of something worth saving, something worthwhile, and is willing to give you a second chance. And it's a powerful lesson in this movie. And it's sad that it's not as common as it should be.
Warwick Fairfax:
So as we talk about this, just think about that whole concept of do you want a second chance? Are you willing to give others a second chance? It's not easy to come back from the pit of despair if nobody's willing to give you a second chance. It's hard to get out of that pit alone. It's possible. It's vastly easier if somebody stretches their arm down and says, "Here, grab my arm. I'm going to help you out of the pit." It makes it so much easier.
Gary Schneeberger:
And it's interesting. I hadn't thought about it until you just said that. I hadn't thought about this perspective, but we see in Hoosiers sort of a both/and in that regard with Coach Norman Dale in that there are definitely those who do support him like Cletus, and we'll meet others as we talk. But there's also a contingent of folks in that small town who aren't big Norman Dale fans, even if they don't know anything about him really. We find that out. He meets with a group of town fathers almost immediately coming into town. And when I say town fathers, I mean that in both senses of the word, the idea of that they're sort of the elders of the town, but they're also the fathers of the kids on the basketball team.
Gary Schneeberger:
And we discover in a meeting that he has with these town fathers that he used to coach at college, but he hasn't coached in 12 years. And the last time he did so was in Ithaca, New York. And because Indiana is so basketball crazed, the town fathers are suspicious of Norman Dale, and they're pushy to offer their advice. I mean, they are, try this, do that. I'm running practice now because the previous coach had passed away. That's why Norman Dale was hired. He's got nothing but advice coming at him, being shot at him out of cannons from all of these town fathers about how to run the team. And they really, in a very real sense, these men become Norman Dale's first crucible in Hickory. And it's a common one for all of us, the expectation and vision of others interfering with our pursuit of our own vision. That can be very difficult to resist and it can feel very traumatic to go through, right?
Warwick Fairfax:
It can. I mean, there's some wonderful vignettes. I think one of the dad's name is George, I believe, and he says, "Coach, here we play zone. We don't play man to man defense. So what are you? Are you zone or man to man?" As if there's a right answer. And Coach Dale is smart enough not to answer the question, because I'm guessing, you more about basketball than I do, probably it depends on the other team and a variety of circumstances. And this guy George says, "Hey Coach Dale, why don't you just basically sit down, relax first few weeks, and we'll ease into it." It's like they're not willing to hand over the keys of the kingdom. I mean, it's just kind of crazy.
Warwick Fairfax:
So it is all too common when you have a vision that you're trying to pursue, that others will say, "Well, that's great, Warwick, Gary, but kind of here's how I think you should do it. And actually your vision is not really meeting our expectations." And it's like, well, and that should matter why? It's my vision. It's your vision. It's like, why should other people get the right to interfere? Why do we have to fulfill others' expectations? Why do they get to tinker with it? But that's often real life is you don't have too many people saying, "Hey, any way I can help you or encourage you with your vision?" Rather than, "Let me tinker with it and get my wrench out and start unscrewing stuff." That's not helping. That's messing. It's a fine line between messing and helping. And we all know what it is. You know it when you see it. But it's all too common that people want to kind of mess things up.
Gary Schneeberger:
And in your own story, Warwick, in your own crucible that you've talked about on the show, and you unpack in detail in your book, Crucible Leadership, in your own story, it wasn't even so much I think that people tinkered with your vision, as you've said many times, your vision was sort on the shelf. It didn't matter. So you know a bit about what this feels like. This idea of the expectations and vision others have for you can interfere with your pursuit of your own vision, right?
Warwick Fairfax:
Yeah. It's a good point. I mean, in my case, it wasn't even that my vision was on the shelf. It's like I didn't even know I had a vision. I didn't know that I had a right to have a vision. That wasn't right to have your own vision. That was morally wrong almost. I mean, that's an extreme case. But it's like my vision, which was not my vision, was to kind of inherit the mantle of my great-great grandfather, John Fairfax, who came out from England in the late 1830s, and founded this great newspaper, the Sydney Morning Herald, in 1841. Grew to be a $700 million multimedia company, newspapers, TV, radio, magazines. It was massive.
Warwick Fairfax:
And so my "vision" was to be the next generation to help perpetuate, improve, bring it back to the ideals of the founder, help restore my dad's vision who was thrown out by some other family members in '76. I launched this $2.25 billion take over in '87. But it was all to live to the expectations of my parents, to the ideals of the founder, John Fairfax, my great-great grandfather. None of it had to do with me and my vision or what I wanted to do or my beliefs. It was an extreme case of living somebody else's vision.
Warwick Fairfax:
And I honestly felt like to do what I wanted to do was "selfish" and almost morally wrong. I had no right to my own vision. That was wrong. I was here to serve somebody else's vision. It's a warped concept, but at the time it made perfect sense. I have no right to my own life, my own vision. I'm here to serve, not even my dad's vision, my great-great grandfather's vision. Like 100 plus years before. That's crazy really.
Gary Schneeberger:
And there are beats of that to Norman Dale's story. This idea of you don't have a right to your own vision. It's not your job, even though you're the coach, to decide what kind of defense we play. It's not your job to decide who... I mean, one thing that was interesting about this movie, it's funny, the high school sports cliche of parents of athletes on the team that wasn't explored at all in this is parents being mad that their son isn't playing. That was an interesting thing. I thought, okay, they avoided that one. That's good.
Gary Schneeberger:
But in a very real sense, although your crucibles are much different, and your visions and the wrench that was tossed in your pursuit of vision is different, it is true that Norman Dale had to struggle through this idea of his vision wasn't worthy. People thought they got to judge his vision of how he wanted to coach the team. And as we'll discover, he was having none of that.
Gary Schneeberger:
The second crucible that Norman Dale has while he is in Hickory follows quickly after. And that's that his team is undisciplined and they're small. Not just in size, they're all pretty short, but also in number of players. When he gets there, there's only seven people on the team, seven kids on the team. And two of them quit within minutes of the first practice. Now one of them comes back, that leaves him with six. But with basketball, having five players that doesn't give you a lot of rotational depth, as they say. And then even worse, from everybody in the town's perspective except his fellow teacher at the school, at Hickory High School, Myra Fleener, the best player in town, Jimmy Chitwood has refused to play since his previous coach, who he must have loved, passed away.
Gary Schneeberger:
So here's the great thing about Norman Dale as an example for us to look at and follow, as we navigate beyond our crucibles. Despite those setbacks, he remains committed to his task and his vision for achieving it. Teaching the boys on the team basketball's fundamentals and building them into a single minded force on the court. His philosophy, which he says to them, is this, five players on the court who function as a unit. Team, team, team.
Gary Schneeberger:
And what all this leads me to conclude, and this is an enormous point for listeners in their own walking beyond their crucible, is Norman Dale's a great role model for the perspective we need to move beyond a crucible. Believe in yourself and your vision for a life of significance, no matter who may disagree with or even oppose you. He's not arrogant, but he's confident. He is, as you've said many times, your phrase, off the charts passionate about the way he believes basketball should be played. And he does not allow his detractors to bump him off course. He truly is a good role model for us as individuals trying to move beyond crucibles, isn't he?
Warwick Fairfax:
Absolutely. One of the things I love about Norman Dale is he is confident in his own vision. And there's a difference between humility and confidence in your vision. It's not arrogance to believe in, not just his method of playing basketball, but he has a set of values. He has a set of beliefs about how kids should play basketball as a team. It's not about one person, about basketball's fundamentals, it's a set of beliefs about the way the game of basketball should be played the right way.
Warwick Fairfax:
And so the confidence in his vision is grounded in the confidence in his fundamental beliefs about what the game of basketball should teach young kids. That is beyond basketball, it's lessons for life. I think the great coaches, whether it's basketball, baseball, football, they have a belief and a set of values, especially in high school. I mean, how many high school kids are going to play college, let alone professionals? Like one in a million.
Warwick Fairfax:
I mean, coaches realize that, even if the parents often don't. Every parent thinks their kid's a future star, and it's often not the case. But the coaches realize it's not just about winning and losing, it's about molding young kids to be great men and women when they grow up. And so that's what Norman Dale believes. And so it's not arrogance, it's confidence in his vision and the beliefs and values that undergird that vision. That's what Norman Dale is really fighting for. He's really fighting for the character of these kids in a sense.
Gary Schneeberger:
And remove the word basketball from everything that you just said, take it out of a sports context. That's the kind of thing that leaders everywhere need to have, leaders in the home. My favorite phrase that we don't use nearly enough from the boardroom to the living room, right? Leaders all over the place. That is the perspective. That is a healthy perspective to have. Lean into your values, lean into your passions, and then march those out, despite the shots that might get fired at you from those who don't believe.
Gary Schneeberger:
The other thing that Norman Dale does, he doesn't go for the "easy fix" in turning around the fortunes of the team. He meets with Jimmy Chitwood, the kid everybody says they got to have on the team or they're not ever going to go anywhere. And because Jimmy's always shooting baskets around town. And Coach Dale tells him he's not going to try to woo him back. He's not going to be like everybody else, and say, "Oh, please, please, please come back." He actually tells Jimmy Chitwood this, "Your talent is yours to do with what you choose."
Gary Schneeberger:
That is a truth that applies to all of us when trying to chart a course to a life of significance. Our talents and passions are the building blocks of our vision, but we have to be the builder. We have to be the builder. No one else can force us to take on or take on the construction for us. It's our responsibility. And Norman Dale says to Jimmy Chitwood, "Your talent. Do with it what you will." That is a perspective we can encourage in others, but we have to adopt ourselves. We have to believe that's true about us too, don't we?
Warwick Fairfax:
It's a great point, Gary. I mean, this is really one of the high points, and there's quite a few of them, of the movie in which Coach Norman Dale lives his beliefs. He has fundamental beliefs in his own vision and values, but he is not going to foist and impose his vision on somebody else. And as we'll see, if Coach Norman Dale's vision was all about winning, Norman Dale's buddy Cletus who's the principal of the school and is an assistant coach, at least for part of the season on the team, Cletus says to Norman Dale, "Jimmy Chitwood is a standup basketball player." The best he's seen in 40 years. That's a long time. He has just got this special talent, this gift, that in this small high school, where early in the movie, they say there's like 64 boys in the high school. So they got to pick five, seven, however many they can get out of 64. It's a small school.
Warwick Fairfax:
So if he was all about winning, it's like, look, if I'm going to have this successful season, it all rides on Jimmy Chitwood. If he plays, we've got a shot. If he doesn't play, we're doomed. So therefore, however I've got to manipulate, coerce, force, bribe, whatever it takes, if I'm about winning, I mean, if Jimmy plays, maybe we win. If Jimmy doesn't play, we're doomed. And that's probably an accurate assessment. It's probably that simple.
Warwick Fairfax:
But what I love about this is that Coach Norman Dale is not going to impose his vision on Jimmy Chitwood. He realizes, and he says to him, not so many words, is you have the right to do with your life what you will. I'm not going to force you to play basketball. And he doesn't. That's an incredible stance to take. And it's really tantamount to Coach Norman Dale is really living his values and beliefs in an area where it potentially could cost him his job. It could cost him a successful season. It's not a small thing. It's a big statement. And it's a really incredible moment of shining a spotlight on a great moment of character for Coach Norman Dale.
Gary Schneeberger:
And it's in particular because we know from the beginning of the movie, he's been through a crucible, and it was a big one. He hasn't coached in 12 years. He tells Cletus, "This is my last shot." Cletus tells him, "The slate's clean." Something bad happened before that forced him out of the game for a very long period of time. And yet he doesn't go for what looks like the easy fix. He won't put his need to succeed ahead of whatever Jimmy needs to do, wants to do, or pursue with his life, which shows a tremendous amount of character, which is interesting for the movie goer in watching the movie. Because if you don't know anything about this film, and listener, if you're one of the folks who's like what is Hoosiers about, I've never seen it, we haven't told you yet what his crucible was. And you might be thinking, geez, I mean, this guy sounds pretty good. How could he have gone through it? He knows a lot. How does he need to have the slate wiped clean. Hang tight. We'll get there.
Gary Schneeberger:
The perspective with Jimmy that Norman Dale shows begins to thaw his relationship with Myra who she says she looks after Jimmy, she's taken an interest in him. She's also a teacher at the school, and she doesn't want him forced to play like everybody else in town wants to do it. She wants something better for him than small town Hickory. She's not sure what that is, but she wants something better for him.
Gary Schneeberger:
And then Norman Dale moves on and continues to wrestle with executing his vision. And here's an example where the opposition comes from his players. After telling them, again, trying to teach them how to play basketball right, as you said, he tells them, "Pass the ball four times before shooting." Clear instruction before the game. But one defies the order as the team is losing, figuring passing the ball four times, you got to make up a lot of score. I'm just going to start chucking the ball at the basket. And he makes most of his shots. But Norman Dale takes him out of the game anyway. He then plays with only four boys on the court when another one fouls out.
Gary Schneeberger:
It's an important truth here for us all to remember. Our visions may face opposition, but we can't abandon them if we want to achieve them. It could have been easy, if Norman Dale was all about winning, not about building the proper way to play the game in these boys entrusted to his coaching, it could have been easy to put that guy who was draining all those shots back in the game, but he doesn't do it. He goes with only four players. That takes a lot of grit to pull that off, doesn't it?
Warwick Fairfax:
It really does, Gary. I mean, it's another important point that really one of the keys to this movie is a vision needs to be supported, undergirded by our visions and by our beliefs and values. And it really is here is Coach Norman Dale is like winning or losing is not as important than playing the right way of passing four times. It's not about selfishness and shooting. It's about by moving the ball, you increase your chances of playing well. It's the right way to play. And he would rather lose with just four out of five on the court than maybe win the wrong way. Yes, he wants to win, but more important, he wants to win the right way and teach kids about teamwork and the right way to play the game of basketball.
Warwick Fairfax:
Time and time again, his vision is anchored. We all talk in Crucible Leadership all the time, your vision has to be anchored by your visions and beliefs. Well, in terms of the way to play basketball and how to teach young boys character, there's a rock solid anchor in that sense with Norman Dale's coaching philosophy. Really, it's so impressive. He doesn't compromise his beliefs about the right way to teach character to boys in high school and the right way to play basketball. He will not compromise that win or lose. Time and time again, he makes that statement. It's just so impressive. And it's just a great lesson for all of us is just don't lose sight of what your values and beliefs are. If you want to make sure your vision stays true and doesn't get sidetracked, the more it's anchored to your beliefs and values, the less chance it'll have of going in directions that you don't want it to go.
Gary Schneeberger:
And he sticks to it, Coach Dale does, sticks to it. Even as the withering criticism just keeps banging against him. He reveals at one point that his vision for the team, the way he wants to coach them, his vision is to, as he says, break them down and build them back up. To break stuff down, it causes the little mess, and some messes are happening there as he's trying to impart not just the wisdom of how to execute passes and shots and plays, but how to do it in a way that builds cohesion with the team. That's his big, big thing.
Gary Schneeberger:
The film's theme of redemption that we've talked about isn't just in the case of Coach Dale. It's also shown vividly in Shooter. Shooter's the name of the father of one of the boys on the team who lives in this ramshackle cabin in the woods. And he seems to spend most of his time inebriated. But he knows basketball. He shows up in a fun scene at Coach Dale's house with a scouting report on an upcoming opponent. And the way he talks about basketball. He's played by Dennis Hopper in the movie who's a very unique actor. And he plays it in this kind of hip way of talking in all this basketball lingo, but he has good intelligence. What he's saying, his intel proves pretty good to the coach so much so that Coach Dale asks Shooter to be an assistant coach, sit with him on the bench and help guide these boys.
Gary Schneeberger:
The offer comes with some strict requirements though. He's got to stop drinking. He's got to become more presentable. He's unshaven and kind of unclean a lot of times. He's got to clean up his act physically and also in his drinking in order to do it. Shooter's son who's on the team thinks it's a bad idea because he's embarrassed by his dad whom he dismisses as just a drunk. But Norman Dale asks the boy a penetrating question, "When's the last time someone gave him a chance?"
Gary Schneeberger:
And that's what so many of us need in the aftermath of a crucible, right? A chance. The opportunity to prove that our worst moments don't define this. We say that all the time on this show. Your worst moments don't define you. But we need the opportunity to prove that. If no one gives us that opportunity, we can't live out that truth. It's a doorway to redemption that Norman Dale offers Shooter, right?
Warwick Fairfax:
It really is. I mean, what's fascinating about the scene is it's the redeemed paying it forward and try to redeem others.
Gary Schneeberger:
Good point.
Warwick Fairfax:
It's a beautiful vision. Just as coach Norman Dale's old buddy Cletus gave Norman a second chance 12 years after he coached basketball in college in New York. It's so bad that he left basketball completely and was a petty officer in the Navy for 10 years. That's about as far away from basketball as you can get. That's how bad things were, and we'll find out later just why it was so bad.
Warwick Fairfax:
But some people, when they're given a second chance, they don't pay it forward. Says, well, that's good. I think I deserved a second chance. I'm glad they gave me a second chance. That's great. Other people, well, they'll have to earn it on their own. Not everybody thinks of paying it forward. But Coach Norman Dale does. He sees in Shooter somebody who knows a whole lot about all the other teams and the intel that could be redeemed. Even his own son, Shooter's son, doesn't think his dad can be redeemed. Pretty much everybody has given up on him. The townspeople, nobody thinks it makes sense having him on the sidelines. Everybody's given up.
Warwick Fairfax:
And obviously getting over an addiction is never easy. But I would imagine if somebody gives you a second chance, and somebody gives you a reason to keep on living a good way, to use your gifts and talents to help others, I think maybe it was a bumpy road back, but it gives you Shooter to a reason to come back from alcoholism. It's like, I've got my son, I've got the kids on the team, I can rehabilitate my life. But somebody doesn't give you a chance, again, it's like trying to get out of the pit all by yourself. It's possible, but it's so much harder.
Warwick Fairfax:
I have to believe the fact that Coach Norman Dale is willing to give Shooter a second chance, it won't be easy, but it gives him a better shot at beating his own demons and alcoholism. Just somebody willing to believe when nobody will. It's just remarkable because all this will do is make his life tougher. Yes, it might give him better intel. But if you did a cost benefit analysis, it's like, gee, maybe he can help me. What is the chances of him being sober reliably on the sideline? Probably not high if one wanted to be cynical. Is this going to tick off parents in the town? Absolutely. So if you look at a cost benefit scenario, the smart play would be not to bring him on as assistant coach. That's not a smart play. But again, it's not about winning and losing. It's about values and beliefs. And Coach Norman Dale believes it's the right thing to do to give Shooter a chance at redemption. It's a wonderful moment.
Gary Schneeberger:
And in that belief, he's kind of a party of one, or two if you probably count Myra in there. The townspeople don't like it. And that they add it to their list of problems with Coach Dale. They don't like the way he coaches. They don't like the fact that he brought Shooter on board. And so much so they don't like this, that they call a town meeting to vote him out. Apparently in Hickory, Indiana, the townspeople, the town fathers can come together and vote out the high school coach. And that's what they aim to do.
Gary Schneeberger:
And Myra's the one who tells him. She's the acting principal because the principal who was a coach had a heart attack because he was overworked on the bench. So that's one of the reasons why Coach Dale needs Shooter to be an assistant coach because he lost his other assistant coach. Myra is the acting principal. So she comes to Coach Dale and says, "Hey, they've called this meeting." But the other thing that she tells them is that she has discovered, she doesn't use these words, we'll use our words, she's discovered what his crucible was.
Gary Schneeberger:
He had coached Ithaca Warriors to the NCAA College Championship, she discovers in an old newspaper story. But he was fired and suspended for life from coaching in college because he physically assaulted a player on his own team. Myra tells him not to attend the meeting of the town because it's not going to be pretty. But he does anyway. The possible crucible of being dismissed from his job and for his past being revealed. Remember this is set in the 1950s, folks. There's no internet where you can type in Norman Dale on Google and find out what happened to him. She had to go to a big city and look it up on microfilm or something to find out what had happened to him. She tells him don't come. It's not going to be pretty. But he shows up. Even that possible crucible of having his darkest, most embarrassing crucible revealed doesn't keep him away. It doesn't keep him in bed under the covers. That's pretty remarkable and says a lot about the character of Norman Dale, doesn't it?
Warwick Fairfax:
It really is. I mean, this was an incredible crucible. Where there are some beats later, we learn more about it. But he loves the game of basketball and he gets banned. Not only does he get banned for life from the NCAA, from coaching college basketball in Ithaca, New York, but the New York High School Athletic Association bans him for life from coaching high school basketball in the state of New York. Which is why there's no chance of redemption in high school basketball in New York. It'd have to be somewhere else, in this case, Indiana. So things were pretty dire.
Warwick Fairfax:
And there's some interesting moments as this town hall meeting is happening. It's about to go to a vote, as we'll see. And one of the things that happens is that he tells the town meeting, he says he's made mistakes and he takes full responsibility for it. Now, the key lesson is sometimes you make mistakes in life. Sometimes we're our earn worst enemy. Sometimes our crucible, our worst day, is 100% our fault. Not always. In this case, it was 100% Norman Dale's fault. And he realizes that, and he admits that in a later scene when he is chatting with Myra in the fields, we learn kind of a little bit more. And he said, he looks back at that scene where he sort of punches this kid out, and he wishes he could not do it. He sees himself doing it. You replay your worst moment in your life and just wish you could stop what you just did happening. But you can't.
Warwick Fairfax:
And he said the funny thing is the kid that he punched was the best kid that ever played for him. He was a good kid. He wasn't a nasty kid. He said he was tough, stubborn, and willful. And then Myra says, ironically, "Sounds like somebody I know." So it was almost like he was punching himself. So that's what made it so hard. He wasn't punching this troublemaker. Maybe the crime didn't deserve it, that the kid was a bad kid. In this case, this was a good kid. He was one of the best players he ever had.
Warwick Fairfax:
And so it just made that fall from grace so much tougher. But he was willing to own up to what he did and to live with what he did, and admit his mistakes and say it was wrong. And that's one of the key steps we always talk about in Crucible Leadership and Beyond the Crucible, you've got to learn the lessons from your crucible. And if that's your fault, a big part of it is saying, "You know what? It was my fault. I made a mistake, I blew it, and I'm sorry." And you begin to find ways of moving forward from it. And in some cases, atoning, if that's what you need to do. So it's a very moving moment. He's up there speaking before the town hall.
Gary Schneeberger:
And two unexpected things happen during that meeting. One, you've teased a little bit in that he had a scene with Myra later where he reveals that the player that he punched was someone who was the best kid on the team. Myra's perspective on Coach Dale changes during the meeting. She goes up there with the intention of reading the story that she found in the big city and she doesn't. Her view of him has changed. She sees the character in him. She sees something in him in the same way that Coach Dale sees something in Shooter. She sees something in him that's worth giving him a chance and not reading the thing that would've been his absolute dismissal warrant if she would've read the story of what happened. And you picked up on something. When she goes back to her seat in that meeting, how she is emotionally by that moment, right?
Warwick Fairfax:
Yeah. I mean, as at this point, she is the assistant principal. I think it must have happened earlier, Cletus has a heart murmur. Something happens. He's laid up a bit. And so normally it would be Cletus as the principal getting up in front of the meeting to represent the school. Well, now it's Myra. And you could see, as she's talking about Coach Norman Dale, she kind of tears up a bit. And you're right. She can't get into all of the stuff that's happened.
Warwick Fairfax:
And so you begin to see that her view of Norman Dale has changed. She has empathy. We learned earlier that she doesn't really like basketball a whole lot. She has a brother that played basketball, and her whole family idealized her brother. And oh, look, what's happening at the game. And he's so good. And it's like what about me? So she just sees these kids with this shining moment in high school, that that's their shining moment and then it's over. So she's not a great lover of the game of basketball.
Warwick Fairfax:
So it's just amazing how you see her empathy for Norman Dale really growing there. Maybe she learns not just something about him, but maybe she learns about the game of basketball, when done the right way, what it could be in this case to young boys, young men, with their character. She learns lessons that I think she never understood before meeting Norman Dale. It's a fascinating and sort of complex scene.
Gary Schneeberger:
And the other thing that was unexpected that happens during the town hall meeting is that, lo and behold, Jimmy Chitwood comes in. And Jimmy, shy kid, great jump shot, shy kid, Jimmy says to the assembled town folk that he's decided he's going to play basketball for the Hickory Huskers. He's coming back to the team. One of the parents who had just voted to get Coach Dale out, screamed something like, "See, I knew as soon as we got rid of this coach, he'd be back." But Jimmy has a surprise for him. Jimmy says he'll only come back if Coach Dale stays.
Gary Schneeberger:
And this is an appropriate time to reveal that I am indeed wearing a Hickory High School, not jersey, it's a shirsey, they call it. A shirt. This is Jimmy Chitwood's number. So I am representing right here Jimmy Chitwood. I had to, not hide, but behind my microphone, you couldn't tell what number I was wearing, but that's what number I'm wearing. I'm wearing Jimmy's number. Because Jimmy comes back to the team, and I didn't want to give that away too soon.
Gary Schneeberger:
From that moment, when Jimmy comes back, the trajectory of Hoosiers changes. The team starts winning. In a sense, the team has redeemed itself. Coach Dale, trying to help Shooter gain confidence after he froze in an earlier game when the coach was kicked out for arguing with the refs, this time gets kicked out again on purpose because he wants to give Shooter another chance to do it. And Shooter does it. He leads the team to victory.
Gary Schneeberger:
But a few games later, Shooter relapses, and he ends up in a rehab hospital. And that I think is a good reminder that redemption is a journey. It's not a one and done scenario. When moving beyond our crucibles, we often maybe even usually encounter or cause other ones. Here's the critical point. That's when it's important to have people around us who believe in us, and it's also important to be a person who believes in those going through crucibles. For me, Warwick, that was perhaps the biggest aha moment in this movie is what happened to Shooter, and realizing perfection is not required even on the road to redemption as you're walking that road, right?
Warwick Fairfax:
It is a great scene and a great moment. Coach Norman Dale, he's not a fair weather friend. It's not like, okay, I'll have you as assistant coach if you clean yourself up and stay sober, but hey, it's one strike. One strike and you're out. You make one mistake and you're history. At least not the way he treats Shooter. He has relapses. Life back from the bottom of the pit is typically not smooth. Stuff either happens to you or you tend to make mistakes. I mean, not that many people have just a completely clean slate when they're trying to climb back from crucibles, whether it's alcoholism or whatever other crucible. Sometimes there are relapses. And what's important is having somebody like Coach Norman Dale that's in your corner and it's like, they're not going to just abandon you because you make a mistake or you have a relapse.
Warwick Fairfax:
It's what's the trajectory? Are you moving forward? And somebody that believes in you the way Coach Norman Dale did, it's incredible. It's just like he's not going to give up on his team and the young boys on that team, he's not going to give up on Shooter. It's amazing. We need to be like Coach Norman Dale and not give up on people. And we also want to have people like Coach Norman Dale in our lives that won't give up on us when maybe we have a bit of a relapse. You want people that'll stay with you. And that was part of his values and beliefs. It's really impressive.
Gary Schneeberger:
Yeah. There's a really sweet scene that happens after that when Coach Dale visits Shooter in the hospital. And Shooter is going through withdrawal from alcohol, and he's just emotionally distraught and he's almost crying, and he's kind of frantic. And he keeps apologizing, and he keeps saying he's no good and I mess everything up. And Norman Dale says to him, "Nothing could be further from the truth." Again at his lowest moment, when Shooter wants to just literally stay in bed with the sheets pulled up over his head, Coach Dale gives him a word of encouragement. A word of here's a perspective on who you are that's different from your perspective right now. That you're more than your worst day is basically what he's telling Shooter. Nothing could be further from the truth.
Gary Schneeberger:
So the Huskers make and advance in the playoffs. And Coach Dale, when they're in the playoffs, gives a speech to the team making clear how much he believes in them. I want you to listen to the words of this speech, listener. Because I think this is the kind of thing that you could type up, stick on your wall as you encounter your own crucibles. No, it's not 1950 at the moment. You're not a high school basketball player, perhaps. You're not a basketball player at all, perhaps. But what Norman Dale tells his team before this playoff game is exactly the kind of perspective we need as we're looking to move beyond a crucible and aim at a life of significance. Here's what he says.
Gary Schneeberger:
"Remember what got you here. Focus on the fundamentals. Don't get caught up in thinking about winning or losing this game. If you put your effort and attention into playing to your potential to be the best that you can be, I don't care what the scoreboard says. In my book, we're going to be winners." That applies to pretty much every situation in life that we can go through, where we get the wind knocked out, our breath taken from us, and we feel like we've been knocked off balance. Those are words, it's not about grabbing the brass ring all the time, it's about effort and significance and pursuing your vision and values. And that to me was an extremely powerful moment in the film.
Warwick Fairfax:
Absolutely, Gary. It is one of the greatest lessons that I think Coach Norman Dale has learned. I mean maybe the old one who coached the Ithaca Warriors college basketball, maybe he was all about winning. I'm guessing, he probably was. Maybe that kid that was such a good player, maybe he was making mistakes. Maybe he wasn't having a good game. The old Norman Dale was probably all about winning. But here he learns, as we often say, success in and of itself is not very rewarding. It's success, hopefully, and significance. And of the two, you always choose significance.
Warwick Fairfax:
So for Coach Norman Dale, as you said, it's not about winning or losing. It's about how you play the game, playing the right way, giving it your all. If you've given it your all, what the score board says is not relevant. You've given it your all, you've done your best and that's what matters. It's your character. It's how you play it, how you treat others. And he genuinely believes this. He is giving these young men, these boys, incredible life lessons, character lessons that will serve them well in their business careers and their families in the decades to come. These are invaluable.
Warwick Fairfax:
And he's living one of the most important games in the season, this playoff game that will determine who gets to the state championship. For a small team in Indiana, this is huge. But he says, "It's not about winning. It's about how we play the game. It's about the fundamentals. Being the best you can be." It's hard to think of a better life lesson that he could have taught those boys, those young men, at that moment. Clearly he was living his beliefs and his vision. And you have to believe he's a very different Norman Dale than last coached the Ithaca Warriors in New York in college. It's an amazing metamorphosis, amazing transition for Norman Dale.
Gary Schneeberger:
Yeah. And what happens almost immediately after that makes me think of my journalism career, and what I used to always tell reporters. When you're writing a story, show, don't tell. Show me something rather than just tell me. And Norman Dale has the opportunity to do that very thing. And he almost messes it up in the game that follows.
Gary Schneeberger:
A player who had been injured earlier in on court altercation, he got knocked into a trophy case, glass cut him on the shoulder. He gets fouled in this game, and his stitches opening up and he starts bleeding. And the trainer comes over and says, "Okay, well, we got to get him out." And Coach Dale says, without really thinking, right, it's just sort of his reflex says, "Stitch him up, get him back." Because it's one of the better players on the team. So as the player's going off with the trainer, the camera, it's a great shot, the camera shows Norman Dale walking away. And he stops and you see him from the back and he kind of drops his head and he realizes that he's responsible for these boys in ways that have nothing to do with what the scoreboard says. He just said that to them.
Gary Schneeberger:
So he reconsiders his stitch him up and get him back in the game. And he realizes also that he's lost sight of his responsibility. In the same way, not as aggressively or as destructively as when he punched his own player, but he realizes he was betraying his values by putting an injured player back in just to win. He would be betraying his values. And he calls that player back. Even if it means he's not going to win, he's going to live by his words. That's the first time we see him almost crossing the line again, but he doesn't do it. And it's a powerful thing for us to look at and see that we're going to be tempted sometimes on the road back from a crucible to cut a corner, or to do something the old way that we used to do things. And this is very instructive for us and gives us hope that we too can make the right decisions.
Warwick Fairfax:
Yeah, absolutely, Gary. I mean, we're all human. From a faith perspective, you might say we're all fallen. We're all going to be tempted. And the issue is not the temptation. The issue is what do you do about that? Do you say no to temptation. And yes, for a second he was tempted to say, hey, I'd like to win this game. It's a big playoff game. If the kid can stand even on one leg, with one arm, let's play him. But it was a pretty significant wound. He thought about it for a second, and he self-corrected. And he says, "You know what? That's not right. Kid, you need to sit on the bench. We need to put in somebody else." And so one of the big lessons in life is we're going to be tempted. The issue isn't the temptation. It's what do you do about it? And if you can begin to self-correct, and say you know what? That's not in line with my values and beliefs. I'm not living what I just told the kids that we should be doing. That's not right.
Gary Schneeberger:
I'm a hypocrite, right? He's a hypocrite if he does that.
Warwick Fairfax:
Yeah. Sometimes you need other people to help you and call you on it. And it's good if you listen to those folks. Even better, I mean, it's good to have people helping you, it's one step even better if it doesn't even get to that point because you correct yourself before somebody else needs to or before you do damage. So it's a powerful lesson: live your values and beliefs. And if you suddenly feel like, well hang on, that's probably not a smart play, then pull it back. Don't make the mistake. And that's what Norman Dale does. It's really impressive.
Gary Schneeberger:
And in that moment, I think his redemptive arc is complete. His path to redemption, he's reached that destination. He puts significance, caring for others entrusted to his care, over success, which would be winning a playoff basketball game. And that's what we talk about here all the time. Significance is far more valuable than just success. Success with significance, great. Norman Dale decides significance is what I'm aiming for. That's what I'm preaching to these kids. That's what I'm going to live by. And if success happens, great. If not, so be it.
Gary Schneeberger:
But success does happen anyway. And it happens in a very unlikely way that involves another sweet redemption story. Ollie, when we first meet him, he's the shortest guy on the team, and he's really only the equipment manager, and he doesn't play hardly at all. Ollie ends up having to go in the game because they have a short bench, literally. Not a lot of players and not a lot of height. And Ollie who doesn't ever get to play has to go in. The other team recognizes Ollie's not probably very good. So they foul him a couple times thinking he is never going to make the free throws.
Gary Schneeberger:
And what I loved about this, Warwick, is that it's set in the '50s, and that was when it was more common to shoot free throws underhanded. And so the first free throw that Ollie throws after he gets fouled is like 10 feet short of the basket. So you're like, oh gosh. And you can see the wind coming out of all the Hickory fans in the stands. But he's got to make two shots to give them the lead. And he actually does it. It's the redemption story of the "least valuable member of the team" who's given the chance and he leads the team to victory. He seizes that chance when he is given it. And that is the belief, and even putting him on the team.
Gary Schneeberger:
If we go back to the first scene, when Ollie says, "I'm just the equipment manager," and Coach Dale who just met the players minutes ago, says, "No, okay, you're going to play." He says, "No, you're a player." So the very fact that, sure, Coach Dale probably wouldn't have, if he had the ability to not have to put Ollie in, he probably would've chosen not to do so, but he was the last player on there. But the only reason Ollie's on that bench is because Coach Dale believed he could contribute something, believed he deserved to be a player when he first met him at the start of his journey. Which is again, another way of how coach Norman Dale's character shines through and helps the team achieve significance and success together.
Warwick Fairfax:
Yeah, there's so many examples of redemption in this movie, and that's another great example. Nobody believes in Ollie. He's the shortest player, the least athletically talented. Critical times in the game where he just dribbles the ball out of bounds. He gets the ball stolen. I mean, if you were a cynic, you'd say Ollie is single-handedly trying to help us lose this game. If you were a parent of another kid, you tend not to be charitable because you're all about winning. But it was just a wonderful moment in which somebody believed in Ollie. They carry him off on their shoulders when they win. That's a story he'll have for the rest of his life, irrespective of what he does. So having somebody believe in you like that, that's huge. It's a small part of the movie, but there's so many examples of somebody like Coach Norman Dale believing in folks that could have a big impact on his life. We don't know. But it's a wonderful, another redemptive arc on, in this case, not a big character in the movie. But it's pretty impressive.
Gary Schneeberger:
Yeah. It's a great cinematic moment because you sort of forget Ollie's even there. And then all of a sudden these things happen, and Ollie has to go on the court. And it's like, oh, my gosh. Yeah, that's Ollie. Oh no. Even as a viewer, right? You're going, ooh. I know that this is one of those movies that the team probably wins in the end, but ooh, Ollie. How's he going to do that? But he does. He does do that.
Gary Schneeberger:
One of the things that Norman Dale does throughout the movie, and you were struck by one of the things when they go... Hickory, small town. In fact, the Hickory Huskers is actually based on the true story of Milan High School in Indiana, which won the state tournament, state title in 1954, over a school that had 10 times the number of students that Hickory had.
Gary Schneeberger:
So they're not accustomed, this place that they're going to go play in now for the championship game, that Ollie wins the semifinal, and now they're going to go to the finals, this field house they're playing, this enormous field house in Indianapolis is unlike anything... I mean, Coach Dale tells somebody in the press, "My kids haven't even seen a two story building, many of them." And there's this three, four story, huge field house. But one of the things he does, again, the character of Norman Dale, trying to ease the path forward for his kids, you were struck by the way that he kind pulls out a tape measure and teaches them something that drops down their anxiety level.
Warwick Fairfax:
Yeah. It's sort of a wonderful scene. Here they are in what they call Butler Fieldhouse, which I'm assuming maybe Butler University that happens to be in Indianapolis. At least one would lead you to believe that. But it's a massive cavernous place. And so he gets the tape measure, measures the sidelines. Has somebody get on somebody's shoulders and measures the height of the hoop. And it's indeed 10 feet. And he says, "Funny, the measurements of this court are the same as our court back in Hickory. Huh? That's interesting." Obviously the place is much bigger, but the court's the same. It was a powerful way of telling his students, telling his kids, hey, I know this seems pretty scary. It's just a basketball court. It's the same as we have. Just really trying to settle their nerves down. And yeah, it's an amazing moment.
Gary Schneeberger:
So this will come as no surprise probably to anybody who's listening here. But Hickory does get to the finals. They get into that big fieldhouse. A small school from the sticks playing a big city powerhouse. It is, as we heard in the clip at the top of the show, it is a David and Goliath story that they would even be there to play. A group of boys no one thought could reach such heights led by a coach whose failure almost robbed him from ever reaching such heights again. Each needed the other to get there. That's what makes Coach Dale's final words in that clip we heard at the outset so poignant. When he has the huddle and says not any rah rah statement to get them motivated. He just looks across them, his eyes pan across the boys in front of him, and he says, "I love you, guys." Such a poignant moment that speaks to the importance, the value of significance over mere success.
Warwick Fairfax:
Absolutely. I mean that whole David and Goliath metaphor, it is true. I mean, we hear the commentators say that the school they're playing from South Bend, Indiana, it's a massive school. It has an enrollment of 2,800. 2,800 kids. Earlier on in the movie, we learn that Hickory has only 64 boys in the high school. Well doing the math, assuming it's roughly 50-50 boys and girls, that means it's like a pool of 1,400 boys from South Bend High School to 64 at Hickory. I mean you do the math, and it's nuts.
Warwick Fairfax:
And it turns out that they are a lot bigger. They have a starting lineup with kids there were 6'4", 6'5". Back in the early '50s, that's big. I mean, it's more commonplace now, but high school basketball in the early '50s, 6'4", 6'5", I mean, wow. It'd be very easy to look at that and say, okay, they're probably more athletic. They're bigger than us. Our chances of winning is one in a million. Let's give up. It is truly a David and Goliath moment.
Warwick Fairfax:
But obviously, as we'll find out later, it doesn't deter Coach Norman Dale. You heard the speech in the clip. He is going to go in there. He loves these guys. They're going to do their best, win or lose. It's not about the scoreboard. They're going to play the game of basketball the right way. And they give it their all. But certainly before the game starts, you would think the chances they have of winning is close to zero, given the size of the school, the size of the other players. You would say, maybe it's not zero chance, but it's about as close as you could get. It really is a David and Goliath moment, that game.
Gary Schneeberger:
And David, who in the biblical story has a slingshot and a stone, in this movie, Hickory has a Jimmy Chitwood and a basketball. Because here's my guy, Jimmy Chitwood. Here's my jersey again. Jimmy Chitwood ends up taking the last shot, wins the game. And Hickory becomes the unlikely state champions in the state of Indiana. Which being state champions in general, I mean in Wisconsin, that would be a big thing to be state champions in Wisconsin. The football team in my high school won a couple of football championships in the state when I was in high school. But it's not quite the same.
Gary Schneeberger:
Basketball is everything in Indiana. And that's where Larry Bird is from, right? To be state champions in that state, to be that small a school, enormous accomplishment. And again, based on a real accomplishment of a high school, Milan High School, in 1954 that did the same thing. That's who Hickory is based on. But the beautiful thing about the movie, it ends, Hickory wins, Shooter is fully reconciled with his son. That scene, Warwick, when that happens, the reconciliation of Shooter and his son. I know that moves you seeing that play out on screen. Talk a little about how that was so moving to you.
Warwick Fairfax:
Yeah. Again, obviously you have the redemption of Norman Dale with Cletus, the high school principal, longtime buddy of Norman Dale's believing in him, giving him a second chance. And you've got Coach Norman Dale believing in Shooter, giving him second chances, even when Shooter kind of falls back and is drinking again. Coach Dale doesn't give up on him. And at first, Shooter's son is like, "Well coach, why are you doing this?" It's hard for the son to believe in the father. But in some ways I think you have Coach Norman Dale modeling a redemptive spirit, modeling redemptive character. And in a sense, he disciples and teaches Shooter's son about forgiveness and redemption.
Warwick Fairfax:
And so there's a wonderful scene where you've got Shooter still in rehab in the hospital. And his son goes to see him. And Shooter is just feeling very bad, and says, "I'm so sorry. I was drunk again." And he's feeling really bad about himself and very contrite. And his son says, "You know what, Dad? It doesn't matter. It's okay. And when you get out of here, let's get a house and we'll be a family and live together." And I think this is before that last game. And Shooter says he wishes he could be there. And obviously he listens to it on the radio. And you can imagine the elation that he has. TV wasn't quite widespread back then, certainly not in hospital wards.
Gary Schneeberger:
He had a little Philco radio that was doing the job for him.
Warwick Fairfax:
Exactly. So that sense of redemption not only is Shooter feeling like people believe in him, at least Norman Dale does, and he's assistant coach on the team. But to get the belief of your son, it doesn't get any better than that to have your son believe in you again. My gosh, that is just turbo charging your sense of redemption. And at that point, we don't know what happened, but at that point, I don't know what more motivation Shooter would need to sort of stay on the straight and narrow, having his son believe in him. I mean, all of those helps you come back when you have the belief of somebody like Norman Dale, and then finally the belief of his son, it's just a wonderful redemptive moment.
Gary Schneeberger:
And to close up all the storylines, Coach Dale and Myra wind up kind of becoming romantically linked at the end. And it truly is, by the time the movie ends, it's kind of lives of significance all around it. It's a great example. All these narrative arcs that we've talked about in terms of success plus significance over just success, and pursuing significance as you're aiming at whatever, however, it might turn out. Like Coach Dale said, "Whether win or lose, if you give your best, you're winners in my book." That is a great message to take away.
Gary Schneeberger:
So there's lives of significance for everybody here. And it's funny, Warwick, speaking of lives of significance, I know that one of the chief areas of significance for you is your family. And as happens sometimes on the show, what we're talking about, there's a little bit of a connection to the Fairfax family in some way. Explain that to folks, how Indiana basketball and the Fairfax family go together like peanut butter and jelly maybe a little bit.
Warwick Fairfax:
Yeah. You would think how can that possibly be? I grew up in a big city in Sydney, very cosmopolitan. But yeah, all my three kids, Will, Gracie, and Robbie, they all went to a small Christian college, about 2,000 odd undergrad. And it's in Indiana. And so we've been there often over the years. And it is kind of like the movie, in the beginning of the movie, when you see Coach Norman Dale drive over these country roads. Taylor University is in Upland, Indiana. And it literally is in the middle of nowhere, cornfields and fields for miles. I mean, if anything, Hickory, I think is a bit more densely populated than Upland, Indiana. It's a little bit more remote than Hickory.
Gary Schneeberger:
I mean, you and I went there for a speaking engagement because you spoke at Taylor, and we got blocked from our hotel room in the middle of nowhere by some construction that was going on. We had to go 10 miles out of our way to get there. So you're right. It is in the middle of nowhere, and it's not easy to navigate.
Warwick Fairfax:
But one of the reasons that, I mean, I loved this movie even before my kids went to Taylor, but there's this iconic moment. It's in December every year, the Taylor basketball team, they play this game, and it's called the Silent Night Game. And what's fascinating is this moment at Taylor has been on ESPN, Fox News, and other networks more than once. Now, how could a small Christian college get on ESPN? You would think that's kind of impossible. Nobody's really heard of Taylor outside of maybe Christian education.
Warwick Fairfax:
So there's a moment when the whole people in the stands, all of the fans are silent until the 10th point is scored. And when the 10th point is scored, all pandemonium breaks out. You have kids dressed up in everything from gorilla suits to, I mean all sorts of weird and wacky costumes. And they all run onto the field and music's playing and all of this. The poor opposing team realizes this is going to happen. They played Taylor in their conference. They know at the 10th point, stuff's going to happen.
Warwick Fairfax:
Then after the mayhem ends, and the fans go back in the stands, the fans sing Silent Night. The game of basketball is going on. And so you're playing the game while people are singing Silent Night, and they're moving back and forth. And so you won't see it in the audio version, but we'll try and put a clip in. There's a YouTube clip. You'll get a feel of when people yell when the 10th point is scored, and then Silent Night is being played. And you'll see in this clip, a close up of my oldest son, Will. He's got a green hat on, no shirt. He is part of another group of guys in his dorm. And not quite sure how we'll point him out, maybe an arrow. We'll figure out something so that you can figure out who he is.
Gary Schneeberger:
He's got a T painted on his chest, is that what he is got painted on his chest?
Warwick Fairfax:
A T and a green hat. So you'll see it. But it's a wonderful moment and a great tradition. And it's Indiana basketball. I mean, of all the states in the country, basketball is synonymous with Indiana. Small town places that brings people together. And yeah, it's a wonderful tradition. And they've been doing that for many years of 10th point, it goes silent, and then they go crazy, and singing Silent Night, packed stadium. It's pretty amazing. Even the opposing team, it's hard not to get swept up in the moment when those sorts of things happen. So yeah, Indiana basketball, it's a special place and they've got special traditions.
Gary Schneeberger:
And it is even in that moment, as rambunctious and Mardi Gras-like. I've seen the clip, you showed me the clip of all of the... I mean, once that 10th point is scored, it's Mardi Gras. It's New Year's Eve in Times Square. It's crazy. But then to sing a Christmas hymn of significance at that time, again, I think speaks to what's really important in the heart certainly of the students at Taylor.
Gary Schneeberger:
And backing up into the movie, we see what's important, right? We've been talking about in this episode, what's important to Coach Norman Dale, and the way that he pays that forward to some people. He's been given a second chance. And in that second chance, he gives other people a second chance. And that's really kind of a beautiful way of living beyond your crucible.
Gary Schneeberger:
So this is fun because I've never asked you this question in any episode that we've ever had a dialogue. And it's appropriate for this, the final episode of Lights, Camera, Crucibles. You ask guests often on the show, the last question is, what's your message of hope for listeners? I'll reframe it a little bit. What is your perspective message of hope that you believe, big picture, 30,000 foot level, this eight part series on what movie heroes can teach us about overcoming setback and failure? What's your message of take this away folks, here's your hopeful nugget, as you consider all eight episodes of this series?
Warwick Fairfax:
I'd say we took a lot on Beyond the Crucible and Crucible Leadership that your worst day doesn't have to define you. It could be from something that was horrific done to you. It could be from your own mistakes. And we've had a lot of different examples. In an earlier movie, The Natural, you had Roy Hobbs not seeing this sort of psycho woman that shot him, and he believes he should have seen it. And maybe he should have. Maybe he shouldn't have been with her in the first place.
Gary Schneeberger:
Ironically, sorry-
Warwick Fairfax:
He had a part to play. Yeah?
Gary Schneeberger:
Ironically, she's played by actress, Barbara Hershey, who plays Myra in this movie. So look at that symmetry. Sorry to interrupt you. But that is interesting.
Warwick Fairfax:
No, not at all. That is such a good point. I was thinking about that, but such a good point. But yeah, I mean, in various of those movies, or in Iron Man that we did very recently, you have just a guy who's just egotistical. It's all about him. And he goes through a redemptive arc where he realizes maybe it's not about me. Maybe it's not all about Tony Stark. Maybe it's about redeeming and helping others. So I think one of the messages of hope in the series is your worst day doesn't have to define you. Part of it is learning the lessons of your crucible. It's realizing what matters in life. What do I really want my beliefs and values to be? In the case of Tony Stark, it went from narcissistic self-centered, it's all about power and money, to maybe I can use the technology we develop rather than making weapons to help others in sustainable energy.
Warwick Fairfax:
So this is a great capstone with Norman Dale. It's redemption after redemption. Life doesn't get much better than when you can use your crucible as a force of redemption. Your crucible, rather than being one of pain, maybe turns into a crucible of redemption where you can help others come back from their worst days. You can pay it forward. You can give a second chance at redemption, a second chance at life to others. So we talk all the time about, at Crucible Leadership, is your worst day doesn't have to define you. Learn the lessons of your crucible. And instead of living some hedonistic, it's all about me and success and fame life, live a life of significance, a life on purpose dedicated to serving others.
Warwick Fairfax:
That's what Coach Norman Dale does. It's not about winning. It's about helping kids learn about how to play basketball the right way. And more importantly, help kids learn how to win in the game of life, help them learn lessons of character and teamwork and selflessness. So really, I guess the message of hope from the series is your worst day doesn't have to define you. Redemption is possible. And you can pay redemption forward by being a force of redemption in other people's lives. Helping other people live lives of significance. Help other people live lives of redemption.
Warwick Fairfax:
Here Coach Norman Dale helps to redeem Shooter's life, Ollie, maybe his life wasn't in turmoil, but little some grains of redemption is if you can use your redemption as a force to help redeem others, to me, that's about as good a life of significance as you can get that will lead to joy and fulfillment at a level you've probably never experienced. So to me, that's what life should be is helping to be a force of redemption in the world, and helping yourself and others lead a life of significance. So yeah.
Gary Schneeberger:
You know what I love about what you just said? You've just described your arc, right? That's Warwick Fairfax's arc. That's exactly what your life has been. That's what you're doing through Crucible Leadership. That is an appropriate place listener for us to tie the bow. I'm going to leave you with this reflection question about specifically, yes Hoosiers, but also in general, about what Warwick just talked about the series, and that is this.
Gary Schneeberger:
We talked a lot about redemption here. So ask yourself this question. How can your own journey of moving beyond your crucible be viewed as a story of redemption? Think about that. Warwick said at the top of the show, he had not thought of his moving beyond his crucible in terms of deliverance until we were recording a video, and then it just popped out of his mouth. So reflect on those things. How has your journey that you may have concluded the journey of a crucible, you may still be walking it, how can that be looked at as a story of redemption, and what can you do to continue this? What can you do to pay it forward, to help other people? The old shampoo commercial, and I told two friends, and so on and so on and so on. I paid it forward. And what kind of redemption revolution might we be able to create if we do the kinds of things that Norman Dale did, and I'll embarrass him, and that Warwick has done.
Gary Schneeberger:
So listener, thank you so much for spending eight weeks, two months with us, as we've gone through this series, Lights, Camera, Crucibles. We appreciate your interest in what we do at Beyond the Crucible and at Crucible Leadership. And we will be back next couple of weeks with another episode that will talk about this truth that we've talked about in all eight of these episodes, and we've talked about in all 120 plus episodes of the show, and that's this. Your crucible experiences are painful. We know that. They're difficult. They knock the wind out of your sales and they can knock you off course where you think you're going in life. But they're not the end of your story. Your worst day doesn't define you. If you learn the lessons of that crucible, if you apply them as you move forward, where you're going to get taken to is on a journey toward the best end point that you can get. And that end point is, that destination is, a life of significance.
This month we’re wrapping up our special BEYOND THE CRUCIBLE summer podcast series Lights, Camera, Crucibles: What Our Favorite Movie Heroes Can Teach Us About Overcoming Setbacks and Failure. It’s been a fun and insightful ride, packed with critical takeaways from some of my and Warwick’s favorite superhero, action hero and sports hero films that can help all of us – even those without secret identities – move beyond challenges and chart a course to lives of significance.
Here are five of the lessons we can apply to our own lives from the stories of these beloved characters:
- Develop perseverance
Captain America tells the story of Steve Rogers, a slight, sickly young man at the outset of World War II who wants desperately to fight for America because he can’t stand bullies – and he sees the Nazis as just that. After getting turned away several times at enlistment offices, he is selected for a top-secret super-soldier project by the doctor who developed the drug. Steve is chosen over more “qualified” candidates because the doctor sees in the Brooklyn kid kindness and humility and a never-say die attitude. Steve refuses, for instance, to take the military’s “no’s” for an answer. Often bullied, he tells his attackers, “I could do this all day” – and that’s exactly the kind of perseverance he will need after receiving the serum and becoming Captain America.
Perhaps even more than his chemically enhanced strength and agility, Steve’s spirit to keep meeting challenges head-on – in or out of costume – is what makes him a hero. As we encounter our own crucibles, adopting that mindset of “I could do this all day” as we move beyond them is a key element to achieving a life of significance.
- Find a team of fellow travelers
A key truth in Crucible Leadership is the importance of having a team of advisers who don’t just tell you what you want to hear, but what you need to hear. Early on in Iron Man, such people aren’t the ones Tony Stark surrounds himself with. The billionaire industrialist playboy only has time for admirers – until he is attacked overseas by a foe using missiles his company made.
He only recovers in captivity because another prisoner, a fellow scientist named Ho Yinsen, inserts a magnet in his chest to keep his heart from being pierced by shrapnel. But Yinsen doesn’t just save Tony’s life – he makes it worth saving. Yinsen’s admonishment that Tony stop wasting his life, and his sacrifice in laying down his own life to save Stark’s, inspires the businessman to make other people his business. He improves upon the suit of iron he builds to escape his captors — to defend the world from earthly and cosmic threats.
We similarly need a team of fellow travelers who will speak truth to us as we pursue lives of significance.
- Live life on purpose, dedicated to serving others
Peter Parker is a brainy high school kid picked on and labeled as nerdy by classmates. But when he’s bitten by a radioactive spider during a field trip, he develops the proportional powers of an arachnid. The new abilities come with new crucibles for Peter, though. His me-first attitude, focused on trying to earn money with his strength to buy a car to impress the girl he secretly loves, leads to his beloved Uncle Ben, who raised him like a son after Peter’s parents died, to be murdered.
Peter learns the lessons of that crucible, and of his uncle’s last words to him – “With great power comes great responsibility” – to become Spider-Man and protect New York from those who would prey on the city and its inhabitants. Spider-Man’s commitment to putting others ahead of himself makes it impossible for him to be with Mary Jane, the girl he loves, reasoning his enemies will always try to attack those close to him. But he continues to live a life of significance spurred on by Uncle Ben’s exhortation.
Using our gifts and talents in a responsible way that is others-focused, not self-focused, is what a life of significance looks like.
- Don’t lose sight of your mission … or the values that undergird it
In The Natural, Roy Hobbs is an otherworldly talented baseball player whose aspirations to be “the best who ever played the game” are sidetracked when he is shot as a teenager by a woman he didn’t recognize as a threat. He beats the odds, though, and finds his way to the majors many years later to become his era’s top player, even as an unscrupulous owner and a wily gambler try to keep him down.
His blind spot for alluring women almost is his undoing again when he falls for a moll in the gambler’s employ who distracts him from his vision to be baseball’s greatest star. He goes into a terrible slump that almost costs his team a playoff berth – but is pulled back from the precipice by the love of a truly good woman, the high school sweetheart that reenters his life.
The relationship redeems Roy by setting him back on the course he carved out that aligned with his passions and talents. The same discipline in keeping our eyes on our goals is critical for us, especially in the wake of crucibles.
- Keep your sense of humor
We’ve all heard the phrase “laughter is the best medicine”; this is true even/especially when the sickness we’re fighting is moving beyond a crucible. In Die Hard, cop John McClane finds himself doing solo battle with a group of terrorists that seize the office building where his wife, Holly, works. Even as life-threatening crucibles pile up, he does not take himself too seriously.
He finds the humor in his plight, as deadly serious as it is. Like the gag he pulls after killing the first henchman: Sending him a down in the elevator to where the terrorist leader, Hans, is holding their hostages, having plopped a Santa hat on the dead man’s head and written on his sweatshirt: “Now I have a machine gun. Ho-Ho-Ho.” Later, while crawling through the building’s air ducts to evade his pursuers, he flips on a Zippo lighter he took from one of the other terrorists he neutralized and quips as he tries to navigate his way forward, channeling Holly: “Come out to the coast. We’ll get together, have a few laughs.”
Lines and actions like these serve to cushion the blow of the crucibles McClane keeps suffering. He teaches us the most tragic circumstances can be met with an attitude of hopeful optimism. We don’t laugh because what we’re going through is funny, but because it helps stabilize our spirits to meet the challenges – emotional and otherwise – we’ll encounter on our path to significance.
Learn the lessons of these movie heroes and you’ll be ready for your close-up – even in the midst of a crucible.
Reflection
- How would you rate your perseverance skills? What can you do to be even better at meeting challenges with an “I could do this all day” attitude?
- How do you deal with distractions that threaten to pull you away from pursuing your vision?
- In what ways can you bring a humorous perspective to your crucible? Remember, it’s not about making light of what you’re going through but lightening the load of its impact on you.
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Few movie heroes undergo a success-to-significance arc fueled by their crucible more dramatically than Iron Man – and maybe even more so, his alter ego, Tony Stark. In his first movie appearance, Tony is a glib, hedonistic billionaire playboy who has a lot to live with, but not much to live for. That all changes when he’s attacked with some of the same missiles his company makes and is nearly killed. As he emerges from that crucible, given a second chance by one man’s surgical skill and self-sacrifice, he becomes an entirely new man – and not just because he builds himself a suit of super-powered armor.
Highlights
- Iron Man’s place as the most depicted hero in the MCU (2:44)
- “Constitutionally incapable of being responsible” (6:18)
- Tony’s life-altering crucible (9:07)
- The importance exploring origin stories (10:47)
- A great fellow traveler: Ho Yinsen (15:58)
- Why Iron Man would have fit in our SECOND-ACT SIGNIFICANCE series (21:47)
- How Tony’s crucibles lead him to his purpose (32:19)
- Tony learns to guard his heart (37:08)
- How Captain America helps Iron Man grow even more in his character (40:47)
- Crucibles derail Iron Man’s life of significance for a season (46:56)
- Robert Downey Jr. on the crucibles his character faced … and how he overcame them (55:30)
Transcript
Warwick Fairfax:
Welcome to Beyond the Crucible. I'm Warwick Fairfax, the founder of Crucible Leadership.
Tony Stark:
They've been dealing under the table and I'm gonna stop them. I'm gonna find my weapons and destroy them.
Pepper Potts:
Tony, you know that I would help you with anything, but I cannot help you if you're gonna start all of this again.
Tony Stark:
There is nothing except this. There's no art opening. There is no benefit. There is nothing to sign! There is the next mission, and nothing else.
Pepper Potts:
Is that so? Well, then I quit.
Tony Stark:
You stood by my side all these years while I reaped the benefits of destruction, and now that I'm trying to protect the people I've put in harm's way, you're gonna walk out?
Pepper Potts:
You're gonna kill yourself, Tony. I'm not going to be a part of it.
Tony Stark:
I shouldn't be alive, unless it was for a reason. I'm not crazy, Pepper. I just finally know what I have to do. And I know, in my heart, that it's right.
Gary Schneeberger:
Those are breakthrough thoughts for any movie hero. The moment they understand and embrace their mission. But for this week's subject of our summer series, Lights, Cameras, Crucibles, well, it's one of the most unexpected revelations of any we've discussed in what is now our seventh episode. Hi, I'm Gary Schneeberger, cohost of the show. Warwick and I talk this week about Iron Man, and maybe even more so about his alter ego, Tony Stark, a glib, hedonistic billionaire playboy who has a lot to live with but not much to live for. That all changes when he's attacked with some of the same missiles his company makes and is nearly killed. As he emerges from that crucible, given a second chance by one man's surgical skill and self-sacrifice, he becomes and entirely new man and not just because he builds himself a suit of superpower armor.
Gary Schneeberger:
What fuels his journey from success to significance? Keep listening, especially for the reflections of the actor who portrayed him, Robert Downey Jr.. When you hear his perspective, you might just think Warwick's been doing some script writing on the side.
Gary Schneeberger:
Just to sort of level set where we're at, like we always do, Iron Man was the first movie and the first hero that Marvel Studios set forth in establishing what came to be called, is still called, the Marvel Cinematic Universe. He has appeared in three Iron Man movies, a Captain America movie, a Spider-Man movie, and four Avengers movies. Of all the heroes in the Marvel Cinematic Universe, Iron Man is the most prolific. You see him the most.
Gary Schneeberger:
We would argue, and we will argue over the course of this podcast today, that he has the most dramatic arc, character arc of any hero in the Marvel Cinematic Universe. That isn't because, really, of his iron suited persona. It's his alter ego. Not his secret identity, as is known, because he reveals that pretty quickly at the end of what we're going to talk about today, Iron Man, but that's Tony Stark. The arc of Tony Stark in the Marvel Cinematic Universe is one of the most dramatic, is the most dramatic in the Marvel Cinematic Universe. It rivals the dramatic arc of any character that you'll see in a film that has sequels.
Gary Schneeberger:
We're going to unpack Iron Man 2008 as well as some of those other things that lead Tony Stark on his journey to a life of significance. The first thing I want to say, Warwick, and I didn't talk about this when we talked before, but did you know this movie premiered in 2008, but its premiere in the US was May 2nd, 2008, but it premiered I guess three weeks earlier than that. Guess where it premiered three weeks earlier than that on April 14th, 2008?
Warwick Fairfax:
Well, I have no business knowing this. I just so happened to look up some notes on Iron Man, and it said Sydney.
Gary Schneeberger:
Yes!
Warwick Fairfax:
So it's a miracle I actually knew that, but I just happened to glance at it earlier this morning, so go figure.
Gary Schneeberger:
Yeah, and it's like... We can't get away, even on this series, even on this special summer series, Lights, Camera, Crucibles, we can not get away from our reliance on our returning to Australia like our host. Once again-
Warwick Fairfax:
Well we haven't said this before, but the amount of superheroes and heroes that are from Australia, obviously Chris Hemsworth as Thor. We're not specifically covering him in this series, but he's sort of part of that. Russell Crowe, gladiator, as well as Robin Hood, which we've already discussed. The original Robin Hood starring Errol Flynn in 1938 was also Australian. I don't know what it is about Australians playing superheroes, but who knows?
Gary Schneeberger:
There's also Hugh Jackman who played Wolverine in all the X-Men movies, so-
Warwick Fairfax:
Absolutely. Yeah. There you go.
Gary Schneeberger:
I'll say this as long as we're on the subject, there is one from my hometown, Kenosha, Wisconsin. That's Mark Ruffalo, the actor who plays the Hulk in the Avengers movies. He is from Kenosha, Wisconsin. He's a few years younger than I am. He and I actually took a swimming class together when we were in our early... I was in my early teens, he was probably 10 or so because he's four or five years younger than I am. So there you go. The life connections with Life, Cameras, Crucibles that Warwick and I have.
Gary Schneeberger:
Okay, moving on. About Iron Man, when we first meet Tony Stark in the movie Iron Man, he is, as his best friend Army Colonel James Rhodes says, I love this quote, "Constitutionally incapable of being responsible." He doesn't mean the founders said he can't be responsible. His constitution, his make-up. In his make-up, he is incapable of being responsible. He's living life on his own terms. He's doing what he wants when he wants and with anybody he wants. He's not answering to or really caring much about anyone but himself. That, Warwick, is a recipe, right? That's sort of a secret super-potion for running into crucibles. If you're living your life like that, chances are you're going to hit a crucible. That seems to be the experience we've had in talking with guests. It's my own personal experience. Would you say that's a truth of crucibles? That if that's the way you're living, if you're living like Tony Stark at the start of Iron Man, you shouldn't be surprised when crucibles come.
Warwick Fairfax:
Well, no. I mean, in a sense, Tony Stark, at the beginning of the movie, represents almost an anti-hero. For me, as listeners know, growing up in a very wealthy background, 150 year old very large family media business in Australia, Tony Stark represents everything I didn't want to be. Playboy, couldn't care less about other people, going out to parties, with a different woman every night. Just it's all about him, self centered, hedonistic, couldn't care less about anybody else. That represents everything that I strive my whole life not to be.
Warwick Fairfax:
It's sad. People like that, you think they'd be happy because they've got as much money as anybody has. They can do what they want with whom they want, when they want. But yeah, as we'll see with Tony Stark, it's a very empty existence. It's pretty much impossible, I think for humans, given the way we're wired, to be happy. The early incarnation of Tony Stark is it really, the word that comes to mind is sad. It's very sad. You can not be happy in this hedonistic, it's all about me, I've got as much money to do what I want, when I want, with who I want. That's not a recipe for happiness at all, but that's the early Tony Stark. That's the beginning of the arc of where we first see him.
Gary Schneeberger:
Right. And he ends up pretty quickly after we meet him in this movie, Iron Man in 2008, he ended up pretty quickly running into a crucible. He's being driven somewhere in the Middle East, turns out to be Afghanistan, with American soldiers. He's joking and clowning and posing for selfies with them, and he's impressing them with his exactly what we've been talking about, his playboy ways.
Gary Schneeberger:
But that first crucible hits very shockingly and very powerfully. The caravan that he's riding with the soldiers in is attacked by missiles. As he's panicked outside of the vehicle he was in, he notices right before it blows up, one of the missiles that has been fired at him and the soldiers has written on its side, "Stark Industries," and he is, that's his company, the company he inherited from his late father, which makes weapons. He is seriously wounded by the attack, and as we... Very well done by the filmmaker, the director John Favreau, who also plays his chauffer, Happy Hogan, in this movie and throughout all of Iron Man's appearances, he's seriously wounded. He's got some blood coming out of his chest, and he fades out of consciousness just as the screen fades to black.
Gary Schneeberger:
But then the movie does something really interesting. It takes us back 36 hours to give us a better picture, a more fulsome picture of who Tony Stark is. We flash back 36 hours to what we at Crucible Leadership like to call his origin story, right? That's one of the things you really like to drill down on with guests because when you... Right? Explain why you like to drill down with guests on their origin story because that's why they do it here with Iron Man, but it'll help explain a little bit why origin stories are so important to understanding people.
Warwick Fairfax:
Yeah. I mean, I guess you wonder, so what makes Tony Stark the playboy, the hedonistic person that he is? We get a bit of a glimpse into his background and what, as we'll see here in a minute, what makes him him. But to help understand who the person is as he goes through a crucible, you've got to understand how they grew up, which often determines where our values come from and personality, skills, and abilities. So to really understand in as much depth as possible a human being, you really need to understand the origin story, their parents, their culture, their hometown. That's why we do it, and certainly we do get quite a glimpse into his origin story. Tony Stark's.
Gary Schneeberger:
And his origin story is, if I had to pick one word, it's gilded. He was born into wealth. He inherited, as we said, his late father's money and his late father's weapons manufacturing company. He is blessed, in some cases maybe cursed a little bit, with genius. He's a billionaire playboy who runs the world's most prolific and successful weapons manufacturing company. The flashback scene also shows him demonstrating for the military his company's latest weapon called the Jericho Missile.
Gary Schneeberger:
During that scene, there are reporters there watching the demonstration along with military folks, and one of the reporters asks him, "Is it better to be feared or respected?" Here's the glimpse, from his origin story, into Tony Stark's character at this time. He says, kind of glibly, kind of smugly, "Is it too much to ask for both? Is it too much to ask for both, being feared and being respected?"
Gary Schneeberger:
What we come to learn in this... It's short. It's only about 10, 15 minutes, this origin story scenes, but what is revealed is he's the smartest guy in the world and one of the richest, but there's a sense with all of that, you alluded to it earlier, that he has a lot to live with, but he has nothing to live for. Let me say that again. He has a lot to live with, a lot of trappings, but nothing to live for. Nothing that engages his heart, it seems.
Gary Schneeberger:
He's gliding glibly through life. His day to day existence is one of great success, but seemingly little significance. How does that play into why we're... I mean, of all the heroes that we've talked about, he seems to be a great one for us to talk about on Beyond the Crucible because that idea of great success minus significance being unfulfilling is something you talk about all the time.
Warwick Fairfax:
Yeah, it's so true, Gary. I mean, since Tony Stark is the prototype of the emptiness of success alone, success without significance. It doesn't fulfill. It leads to emptiness, a lack of purpose, hedonism. He goes from party to party, woman to woman, person to person. He doesn't care about anybody. I'm not even sure if he cares about himself. He's just not in a deep sense, he cares about nothing. He just lives day to day in this vacuous, empty state. It's really depressing. There's no happiness. There's no joy. There's just drink, relationships, not even relationships.
Gary Schneeberger:
Right. Hook-ups.
Warwick Fairfax:
Exactly. Yeah. In the real sense of that word. He is an archetype of what it is to have success and only success. Yes, he's an MIT graduate. He's one of the smartest people on the planet. He can invent or create anything. But for what purpose? There's no purpose. There's no rudder. Without a rudder or a purpose, life is empty. And so really, out of all the folks we've had so far on the series, he just exemplifies in this early part of the movie success without significance is empty, it's hopeless, it's meaningless. It's depressing, and it's sad. So he is really the archetype of why success alone, not only is it not fulfilling, it's just depressing and empty. It's a great archetype.
Gary Schneeberger:
We're drilling down so far on this point I think here because it's important to realize, a lot of times people, especially when they're going through crucibles, will look at others who we don't know, we see them on TV, we see them walking down the street, we know of them, and we think, "Wow, they've got it all together. They have money, and they have position, and they have prestige," and we think that's the way to go. That's where happiness and joy and fulfillment and significance comes from. What Tony Stark reveals, and it's done very well in about 15 minutes at the start of this movie, and what we've been talking about, that's not the case. Tony's about to realize that.
Gary Schneeberger:
Back in Afghanistan, scene goes back to Afghanistan, he's been taken captive by rebels in an unstable part of the country. He's been saved by another captive, the scientist named Ho Yinsen, who removed shrapnel from around his heart when the bomb exploded and inserted an electromagnet in his chest to keep the shards away from going into his heart and killing him. He's being kept alive by an electromagnet that was fashioned out of spare parts by his fellow captive, another scientist named Ho Yinsen.
Gary Schneeberger:
Knowing that they have Tony Stark, the bad guys here, they're known as the Ten Rings, a rebel group in Afghanistan, they give him some spare parts, some of his own missiles that have been sold to them. They give Tony Stark all these pieces, and they want him to build them this Jericho Missile that he had shot off in his audition with the military. All the materials are left there for him to work on.
Gary Schneeberger:
But as he's about to go do that, Ho Yinsen, who may be the best, we call them fellow travelers, the best teammate of anybody we've seen so far in this series. Ho Yinsen says to him, looking at all of these spare parts to build a weapon of mass destruction, says, "This is your legacy, Stark. Your life's work in the hands of those murderers. Is that how you want to go out? Is this the last defense of the great Tony Stark, or are you going to do something about it?" It's clear from this scene, isn't it, that Tony's conscience is pricked for the first time that we've seen him by that comment from his fellow captive.
Warwick Fairfax:
It's very true. Here he is in captivity in some cave, the bad guys, in this case the captors, Ten Rings, they have him. He's seen the destruction that the weapons his company makes does. I think as we'll see, he realizes that his own weapons are killing American soldiers. So this weapons proliferation is one of the concerns out there is, it's very difficult to make sure that any of the quote, unquote good guys get the weapons. He sees, for the first time, what his company is doing.
Warwick Fairfax:
In a sense, Yinsen, the scientist who is captive there, he's, as we'll see, he's acting almost like a biblical prophet. In the Bible, the prophets are the truth tellers. They tell the king, they tell those in authority typically what they don't want to hear, which sometimes can mean a death sentence when you do that. You've got to be courageous. He's telling Tony Stark what he doesn't want to hear, but he desperately needs to hear if his life from a character and moral point of view is going to be saved.
Warwick Fairfax:
Ho Yinsen does Tony an incredible service by speaking the very hard truth. What's more painful? Being in captivity, or having that kind of truth that cuts to the heart? His heart's already in a mess physically with the shrapnel. What's more painful? I don't know. Both are incredibly painful. Those kinds of words, those are tough to hear, and I'm sure they were. But Tony knew that they were true. He knew it once it was spoken.
Gary Schneeberger:
And that's something that you've said many times on this show and in your book, Crucible Leadership, this idea of being able to speak truth to power. Ho Yinsen does that. Ho Yinsen speaks not just what Tony wants to hear, but what he needs to hear. There's another conversation. It's very brief. They're talking about families, and Tony asks him if he has a family, and he says yes, he has a wife and two kids. Yinsen asks Tony, and Tony says no, he's got no one. Very keen observation by Yinsen. He says, "So you're a man who has everything and nothing." Again, that's one of those things that speaking truth to power, finding someone who will say what you need to hear, that admonishment changes the trajectory of Tony Stark's life as much as nearly dying in the mortar attack does. Those kinds of things that Yinsen tells him begins to get him to realize how empty his existence is.
Gary Schneeberger:
So he doesn't build them. He's working in the cave with all these materials he's been given, but he doesn't build the Ten Rings a missile. He builds himself a mechanized suit of armor that gives him super strength, makes him impervious to bullets, and allows him to fly for at least a little while to fly away from the cave when the time comes. But when his captors catch wind of what he's doing, they try to kill him. Yinsen distracts them long enough for the suit to power up, and he's mortally wounded.
Gary Schneeberger:
As he dies, as Ho Yinsen dies, Tony finally gets around, he hasn't done this before. Again, that selfishness. He wasn't able to even bring himself to thank this man for saving his life. He thanks him, and Yinsen replies, "Don't waste your life." He thanks this man for saving his life, and this man says to him with his dying breath, "Don't waste it." The rest of Iron Man and the rest of Tony Stark's journey throughout all the movies he appears in in the Marvel Cinematic Universe really spotlights his efforts to do just that, to not waste his life, to move from just success to success with significance.
Gary Schneeberger:
We're talking about Iron Man and Tony Stark as part of our series Lights, Camera, Crucibles, but really, Warwick, couldn't he have fit in perfectly in our previous series, Second Act Significance? Isn't that where Tony Stark's headed now after Ho Yinsen passes away?
Warwick Fairfax:
Absolutely. His first act is hedonism, playboy, overseeing a company that makes weapons that kills people, including American soldiers. But you can not overstate the service that Ho Yinsen does for Tony Stark. Ho Yinsen, as we see, he sacrifices his life so that Tony is able to power up the Iron Man suit. He wouldn't have escaped without that. Yeah, there's just that, the phrases he says, "You have everything, and yet nothing." That was probably the most cutting thing he ever said. "You have everything, but nothing." Again, that's just a dagger to the heart. Tony knows it's true. "Don't waste your life."
Warwick Fairfax:
It's so moving that I guess we don't know the backstory, but Ho Yinsen's family have been killed. You make the reference that he'll see them basically in the afterlife or heaven or some such phrase. As he's saying, "Don't waste your life," he basically says, "It was always the plan for me to sacrifice my life for you." We don't know his faith origin exactly, but he's clearly a person of faith, and he sees it as some divine plan... I don't know whether it's to save Tony, but certainly for him to sacrifice his life for Tony, and he believes he'll see his family in the afterlife. It's hard to deal with somebody that sacrifices their life for you. That changes Tony's life as much as anything. His life will never be the same after the tremendous service and words and the sacrifice of his life that Ho Yinsen does for Tony Stark. It's really incredible.
Gary Schneeberger:
Yeah. We see that immediately after this scene when Yinsen dies. Tony, as I said, the Iron Man suit that he builds can fly for a little bit. It takes him out of the cave area. He lands in the desert. He's rescued by his friend Colonel Rhodes who, they're such buddies, he calls him Rhodey. He immediately calls a press conference. I love that. As a PR guy, the first thing Tony Stark does when he's out of the cave and he's into safety calls a press conference. Bravo. Bring the media in. He says this as he takes his first step toward a life of significance. He says to the assembled press about his experience in Afghanistan, "I saw American kids killed by the very weapons I created to protect them. I realize I have more to offer this world than just making things blow up." And he announces plans to get out of the weapons business.
Gary Schneeberger:
This is another critical Crucible Leadership point here. You don't have to have your plan all figured out to move toward a life on purpose dedicated to serving others. Your vision is rooted in your skills and passions and values, but you don't have to have a completed blueprint to move toward it, even if you're a wizard with blueprints like Tony Stark is. I mean, he goes to work on those blueprints and starts to take, as you like to say, small step by small step toward a life of significance. He doesn't have it all figured out. He's not exactly sure what it looks like, but he's moving toward it, inspired by his friend in the cave who gave his life to him. He begins moving toward that, and that is really when Tony Stark's life starts to turn around, right?
Warwick Fairfax:
Absolutely, Gary. One of the things we say on Beyond the Crucible and Crucible Leadership all the time is your vision needs to be rooted, yes, in your desire and skills, but above all, it needs to be rooted in your fundamental beliefs. Your passions, what you believe to be most dear and most true. He realizes with his prophet, fellow traveler if you will, Ho Yinsen in the cave, that his overseeing this weapons business is killing not only people but American people specifically, and he's American, Tony Stark.
Warwick Fairfax:
So he makes this decision based on ethics and morals from his standpoint that he believes it's immoral, it's wrong, from his perspective... Again, I'm not trying to make some overarching value judgment, but from his perspective here, he believes that it's against his morals and ethics to be in the weapons business. Now, Stark Industries you sense is predominantly a weapons business, so what does that mean? Tony is a brilliant guy. It's easy to say he'll figure something out. He's probably thinks, "Yeah, I'll probably figure something out," but his attitude is, even if I don't figure something out, and he does and he will, I'm willing to bet everything on my morals and values.
Warwick Fairfax:
That's one of the things you have to do. It doesn't always mean it's a bet the farm moment. It turns out to be not the case here. But you've got to say, "My morals and my ethics and values are such that if that's what it takes, then that's what it takes. It's not about money. It's not about my job. I have to do what's right, period." He doesn't have it all figured out, but that first step is a massive one, in a sense. He says, "I'm going to live in light of my values and morals, and we're not going to be in the weapons business." It's a massive decision, but it's rooted in the anchor of his values and beliefs. In that sense, it's a great role model in terms of the process that he uses to make a decision.
Gary Schneeberger:
Right. That's perhaps the first time we can say about Tony Stark, Iron Man, that he's a great role model. He begins to take those steps toward a life on purpose dedicated to serving others, not just himself. What it does, there's a cleaving that happens at this point in the movie because Tony has a partner in the business, Obadiah Stane. Obadiah Stane was his father's partner, his late father's partner as well, and he's a bit of a mentor to Tony, although we don't get a lot of those kinds of scenes that happen. Obadiah is, he's all weapons all the time and doesn't have some of the same moral qualms that Tony develops.
Gary Schneeberger:
As Tony begins to shift and move toward that life of significance, it causes a rift between him and Obadiah that builds a little bit through the movie. One of the things, I mean, one of my takeaways from this moment, it's interesting. You and I were talking about this earlier, and we have different takeaways here. My takeaway on this one is something we talked about in the Second Act Significance series, and that is, when you move from your first act to your second act, there can be this belief sometimes that you have to throw the first act out completely, that nothing that happened in that first act is perhaps worthwhile. You have to erase.
Gary Schneeberger:
The word that we use, though, is pivot. Pivoting is less drastic than erasing. You pivot, you move into something new. That's what Tony does. It's a seismic pivot to be sure, and it causes tensions with Obadiah Stane, but he keeps around things that have been developed in this first act. The thing that he keeps around is what's called the arc reactor. That's this renewable energy source that powers his factory, his plant, and it becomes what he can use to power both the magnet in his heart and then what he ends building in this suit for Iron Man. But you had a little bit of a different takeaway from that pivot moment and the trauma it caused in his relationship especially with Obadiah Stane.
Warwick Fairfax:
Yeah. I mean, I think it's a both, and. Basically, he doesn't decide to get out of technology and go make detergent or cookies or whatever or cranes even, or what have you. Something that has nothing to do with technology. I guess cranes can, but he uses that technology like the arc reactor, his vision is to use it for renewable energy. Obviously Obadiah Stane, as we'll see, sees the arc reactor can be a great source of military weaponry. Even with that piece of technology, they have very different, a yin and yang view of what it can do. So he's not throwing away his brilliance, his MIT degree, his genius. He's just channeling his inventiveness in an area that he believes will serve humanity rather than destroy humanity.
Warwick Fairfax:
I think it's ethically and morally a massive pivot, almost an erasure. In terms of the technology and his skills, it's in a sense, the squaring of the circle is it's almost, to a degree, an erasure in terms of a 180 degrees in his morals and ethics from weapons to serving humanity. In terms of his skills and abilities and what's happened, the underlying skills and technology and workers and scientists that are needed is probably not that much different. It's a big pivot in one sense, not such a big pivot in terms of technology and his ability. It's one of those curious things. It is a both and. It's an interesting thing to look at.
Gary Schneeberger:
Yeah. It's a matter of degree when it comes right down to it. He has another key exchange with his assistant, Pepper Potts, who he's secretly in love with her, and she's secretly in love with him, and that will play out over the next several movies in various ways. But he asks her to help him because he learns that Obadiah Stane has been dealing under the table, selling weapons to the folks in the Third Ring perhaps. Just bad actors on the world stage, and he wants her help to stop Obadiah Stane from doing that.
Gary Schneeberger:
She won't do it at first because she's worried that Tony will be killed. When he asks so that I think who she sees is the old Tony. Oh, well, okay, you want to do this, but... In fact, she says at one point, "If you go down this road again," like maybe he has done this some time in the past, "It's not going to turn out well for you." You haven't changed, basically, is what's maybe going on in the back of her head.
Gary Schneeberger:
But he tells her this, which changes her mind and she stays, and this is what he says, and that is the clip that we played at the beginning of this episode. That clip of Pepper and Tony having a conversation, that's what changed her mind that he had changed his spots. That he's a different Tony Stark than he was before. Here just to revisit what was said at the start of the show, he says to her in part, "I shouldn't be alive, unless it was for a reason. I'm not crazy, Pepper. I just finally know what I have to do, and I know in my heart it's right." Tony Stark's crucibles have led him to his purpose.
Gary Schneeberger:
As we've heard from the nearly 100 guests that we've had on this podcast, that is a common experience in the real world, R-E-A-L, and it's the experience here in the reel world, R-E-E-L, for Iron Man.
Warwick Fairfax:
Yeah, it's so true, Gary. In that cave in Afghanistan is where he found his purpose. In that cave, he realized, I'm this hedonist that's making weapons that are destroying people, including Americans. Ho Yinsen, almost like a biblical prophet, gave up his life for him, spoke truth to him. It became clearer and clearer in subsequent scenes, and he realizes that he knows what he has to do. He knows what's right and what's wrong. He believes making weapons that destroy people is not what he's been called to do. He knows what his purpose is, is to use technology to benefit humankind. I think Pepper begins to realize this is a different guy. She always admired, even I think secretly loved the old Tony. Maybe she saw there was some good in there beneath the exterior. But she realizes, this is a different guy. It's a great scene.
Warwick Fairfax:
There's a scene right around then when Tony has to upgrade his magnetic heart to a new heart that will drive his Iron Man suit, which we'll see here in a bit. So he asks Pepper, "I need some help here. Can you just get the old heart out? And just remember, don't touch the wires to the metal rim of my heart, just like the game Operation." She goes, "Uh, what do you mean?" She's never played that game. It's a funny scene because it's like, oh boy, this is going to be difficult.
Warwick Fairfax:
Anyway, the heart comes out with a few little close calls, and she ends up putting this heart in a glass trophy case. Written around that heart, she's got these words, "Proof that Tony Stark has a heart." She realizes this Tony Stark is different. He does care. He does have a heart. She wouldn't have given that to him pre-cave. "Tony Stark has a heart." He would have probably taken that at the time as just this stab in the heart, like you're mocking me because he wouldn't have thought he does have a heart. Now, I think he really appreciates the gesture. That's really a tangible demonstration on Pepper's part that she sees that Tony Stark is a new man, a new person. It's just a wonderful scene.
Gary Schneeberger:
Yeah. Then the rest of the movie plays out with Tony walking out his path to a life of significance. I love this part because you say all the time, Warwick, about taking small steps. Just take one small step and follow it by another small step, and anybody who's ever watched any Iron Man movie knows that Tony Stark is a prolific tinkerer. He takes lots of small steps when it comes to improving his armor. This is the first set of real armor that he builds to go out on missions. He spends a lot of time taking small steps to perfect his suit of armor then uses it to defeat the Ten Rings, the bad guys in Afghanistan, and then to defeat Obadiah Stane, who has stolen some of the technology, the arc reactor, and built his own armor, and Tony defeats him.
Gary Schneeberger:
Tony finds out, actually Pepper finds out and tells Tony, that it was Stane who actually not only wanted to take the company over, but ordered the hit on Tony by the Ten Rings. The attack that happened at the start of the movie was ordered and paid for by Obadiah Stane. It's an interesting point, I had never thought about it before. Tony is not as devastated as you might expect when someone who's close to you like that is the one who betrays you so viciously.
Gary Schneeberger:
One of the beats of the reason why maybe that it's metaphorically wrapped in the fact of how Tony survived his attack, a magnet to keep shrapnel from entering his heart. He learns in Afghanistan when Ho Yinsen saves him and back in the US as he leverages the power of the arc reactor to build a better magnet the importance of guarding your heart. The importance of guarding his heart. That mindfulness keeps him alive when the shrapnel of betrayal threatens him too. That's one way to look at it. I know you have another shading of why maybe Obadiah's terrible, terrible actions don't hurt him quite so much.
Warwick Fairfax:
Yeah, I mean, he does guard his heart. The thing about Tony Stark is he may have been a hedonist, self-serving, self-centered, maybe even narcissistic person, but he is a genius. So I don't know that he'd care, but I think he fully realized that Obadiah Stane was all in about the weapons and killing people and didn't really care much about anything else. Was he shocked that he betrayed him? Yes. The fact that he was betrayed because Obadiah wanted to make sure we're all in as a company for weapons sales? That part wouldn't have surprised him.
Warwick Fairfax:
But one of the interesting things about these two characters, and often in great movies you have good versus evil, and so you've got a classic battle here in which Obadiah sees technology as ways of making money and killing people and making weapons. It's all about power and money. It's not personal. Of course, it is personal when you kill people, but Obadiah doesn't see it that way. He sees the arc reactor as, hey, we can make lots of Iron Man suits and kill lots of people. What great technology. Tony is thinking, well, this is, we're going to use this to save people.
Warwick Fairfax:
In some really paradox and irony of fate, as I reflected on the movie, in a sense, Obadiah is significantly responsible for Tony Stark becoming the man he does by the end of the movie, a man of character. Because Obadiah is the one that sets him up to be captured by the Ten Rings in Afghanistan. Sometimes bad people overreach. If you just left Tony as this hedonist, then Obadiah could have run the company and made millions or billions of dollars and would have been just fine. But for some reason, he wanted more power, and he didn't have enough power. We don't know, we're only guessing at the back story, and says, it's not enough for me to totally control the company. I want this Stark kid out of the way. Basically, he thought he was going to be killed was the goal.
Warwick Fairfax:
If Obadiah Stane hadn't overreached, maybe Tony never would have become more of the good guy or at least on a path to living a life of significance, caring about people. Obadiah represents the evil archetype, the bad, and Tony more of the good, and as sometimes happens, the bad guy overreaches and ends up transforming Tony Stark. It's a fascinating backstory there. I'm sure maybe in hindsight, Obadiah maybe thinks, "Did I really need to do that?" He's probably not self-aware to realize his own cataclysmic mistake of setting up Tony Stark. It's a fascinating relationship.
Gary Schneeberger:
Now, as we said at the outset there, Iron Man is the character in the Marvel Cinematic Universe who shows up in more movies than anybody, in nine different movies. There are a lot of beats to his story of this arc that we've talked about, this arc from only success to significance. Still has success, but also has significance. Living a life on purpose dedicated to serving others. We're just going to touch on a few of them.
Gary Schneeberger:
In the first Avengers movie, for instance, he has an exchange with Captain America. If you remember, listener, from our episode on Captain America a few weeks back, the real superpower of Steve Rodgers, Captain America, is his character. Yes, he has a super solider serum that gives him extraordinary strength and agility, but it's his just grounded character. Clearly then, when he meets Iron Man, who's got a little bit more flash to him, there's some tension there. At one point in the first Avengers movies, Captain America says, "The only thing you really fight for, Stark, is yourself." You can tell it stings. It leaves a mark on Tony because he looks at someone, now that he's walking more in integrity, now that he's walking more outside of the flash and the emptiness, he sees the character all over Captain America. To be told that by someone like that wounds him.
Gary Schneeberger:
The two heroes are also at odds in the movie Captain America: Civil War. In fact, the civil war being described is between Team Captain America and Team Iron Man. The disagreement there is whether the government should have oversight powers over the Avengers, over the heroes. Tony, Iron Man, believes that the government should. His reasoning, he's learned the lessons of his crucible. He's seen what unchecked power, his weapons distribution, especially when Stane is selling them to bad actors, he realizes the danger that presents to the world, so he's okay with government supervision. Whereas Cap, who saw government gone awry in World War II with the Nazis, Cap's like, whoa, we can't have that. That's what leads to them being at loggerheads. That's the fascinating point.
Gary Schneeberger:
The whole Captain America, Iron Man relationship throughout their... And both of them have left the Marvel Cinematic Universe. No spoilers here. That, really, we talk a lot about having a team of fellow travelers. I think the Avengers, as a superpower team of fellow travelers, where they make each other better. I don't think any two characters make each other better more than Iron Man and Captain America. They become a little bit more like each other. Iron Man picks up some of Cap's character, learns some things like that, and Captain America learns to kind of loosen up a little bit and open his heart perhaps more on his sleeve more than he had before. Is that a fair observation?
Warwick Fairfax:
Absolutely. I mean, having colleagues like this where they're both superheroes. Yes, there's some difficulties, but they respect each other. I think one of the things that Captain America really points out when he says to Tony Stark, Iron Man, "The only thing you really fight for is yourself," is that even though Tony Stark has progressed in his character from hedonist playboy to somebody that really is trying to make the world a better place and shift Stark Industries from weapons to technology that will serve humanity, the old man, the old woman sometimes takes a while to die, if you will. So you don't totally eradicate the old person.
Warwick Fairfax:
Are there times in which Tony reverts to, hey, it's all about me? Probably. I think that's what, again, almost as a biblical prophet role, Captain America is pointing out. One would hope that Tony Stark realizes, yeah, I thought I licked that one, I guess not yet. When you've got that kind of personality tendency, it helps to have other people telling you the truth and fighting for you with you, but also, just like Ho Yinsen earlier, Captain America's telling hard truths. So really, as we go forth in life, even when we think we're in a pretty good place, you still need those fellow travelers, those truth tellers to tell us things that we don't want to hear.
Warwick Fairfax:
Because from my faith perspective, we're fallen people. We're prone to stray. Don't think just because you think you have licked it that you won't stray again. We're all human, and so we need people like Captain America in our lives, not so much because he's a superhero, because of his character and his ability to tell truth in love. It's just a great lesson that we learned from that relationship between those two characters.
Gary Schneeberger:
Yes. And as a Marvel Cinematic Universe geek, hello, I do have the Iron Man action figure here during this whole episode, I can't resist that this is a case not of iron sharpening iron. It's iron sharpening vibranium. Iron Man's got a suit of iron, and vibranium is what Captain America's shield is made out of. Their relationship is definitely iron sharpening vibranium or vibranium sharpening iron at the same time.
Gary Schneeberger:
Another beat in another movie, in Avengers: Age of Ultron, Tony creates what he describes as a suit of armor around the world. He brings his genius to bear on trying to protect America, his motives are good, he wants to build a suit of armor around the world. But it goes terribly wrong, and it leads to the robot he created developing sentience and it plots the destruction of the world. He's wracked with guilt over his efforts there.
Gary Schneeberger:
But on a positive note, as we move through these other movies, his relationship with Pepper finally develops into love and eventually marriage. By Avengers: Endgame, in fact, they have a daughter. For me, that's a very beautiful part because Tony is no longer the man who has everything, but no one. It changes him.
Gary Schneeberger:
Also what changes him and makes him, because he's gone through these other developments, by the time we get to the introduction of Spider-Man to the Avengers in the latest iteration of Tom Holland playing the character, that when the high school hero joins the Avengers, Thanos, this cosmic villain, wipes out half of the world's population with a snap of his fingers after he gathers these powerful things from all corners of the universe called the Infinity Stones. That happens in Avengers: Infinity War where he does the snap, and Spider-Man's one of the people who is vanished. It devastates Tony. It's a crucible that leaves him depressed, unsure.
Gary Schneeberger:
As we sometimes say on the show, Tony Stark sort of, figuratively at least, stays in bed with his head under the covers. He has given up. He gives up the hero game. As other Avengers are looking to try to find a way to undo what Thanos has done, Tony's living with his family off the grid, and he's not involved anymore. You said earlier when we were talking about this, that's kind of the wrong decision to make. We say that all the time. That's the wrong decision, to live with your head under the covers. Tony has taken his life of significance, he's put a pin in it himself by doing that.
Warwick Fairfax:
Yeah, I mean we'll see later, he pivots a bit. It's easy to be depressed when terrible things happen. You've got to find a way out of it, but I like how his character grows. The old Tony was incapable of having a serious relationship, a serious relationship with a woman. It was just one night stands. Pepper Potts is clearly a highly intelligent, highly capable person who, as much as she really likes and admires part of Tony, is not going to put up with that kind of thing and won't be... She's too smart to be in a serious relationship with the old Tony.
Warwick Fairfax:
So the fact that, as we can see in later Iron Man iterations, that there's love and marriage and then a child, it shows that he has developed enough that he is capable of loving another person other than himself. Pepper Potts realizes he is because if he wasn't the person that he became, there's no way Pepper Potts would have married him. No way she would have put up with it. That's really a clear marker, affirmation from Pepper, if you will, that he has evolved. Not perfect, but evolved to a point where he is capable of loving another human being other than himself. It is a great moment.
Gary Schneeberger:
Yeah. That leads us to the final beat really with Iron Man, and that's in the final Avengers film, Avengers: Endgame. The Avengers get Tony back. He rejoins the team. He reconsiders. Tony rejoins the team to help them reverse Thanos's snap that wiped out half the globe. The Avengers use time travel to gather the infinity stones for themselves and reverse the snap with a snap of their own. Iron Man, always the tech tinkerer, always the... He builds a gauntlet that's capable of holding all the stones and snapping again to bring back all those who were lost.
Gary Schneeberger:
Just in case, this is a good time... This would be a good time to watch on YouTube, if you're not on YouTube, but we'll also probably make a clip of this. He builds a gauntlet, and here is the gauntlet with all the infinity stones in it. It drives my dog crazy. Sorry, but there it is. Iron Man's infinity gauntlet. Right there, he snaps his fingers with this thing on. These are the infinity stones right there. That is what reverses Thanos's snap and brings back the half of folks who were wiped out all across not just the globe here, but the universe.
Gary Schneeberger:
One of those it brings back is Spider-Man, is Peter Parker, who has developed a very, if you remember our conversation, listener, about Spider-Man, he lost his parents when he was young. He lost his uncle Ben as well. He's a bit of an orphan, raised by surrogate parents for sure, but having a father figure like Tony Stark... I mean, just listen to that sentence based on what we started talking about almost an hour ago. Tony Stark is a father figure. Tony does the snap, but it leaves him gravely ill. Spider-Man does come back and gets to say goodbye to Tony Stark as he lay dying. It's a beautiful moment.
Gary Schneeberger:
To see the guy who started out as everything to live with but nothing to live for, had everything but no one, now he's got a daughter at home, now he's got this surrogate son who is devastated by the fact, even as Tony Stark saved his life by snapping that gauntlet. Spider-Man is devastated by the loss of Iron Man. It's really, really a moving scene and a fabulous ending to this arc of we talk about living a life on purpose dedicated to serving others. Tony Stark does it, and it costs him his life, and he's okay with that. It's amazing from who we met at the start of this film.
Warwick Fairfax:
Yeah, it's a great point, Gary. Tony Stark has gone from this hedonistic, self-serving playboy to somebody that's willing to give up his life to literally save humanity. The ultimate sacrifice to bring back his friends. You know you've achieved something if, as you're dying, there are people like Spider-Man, and obviously I'm sure Pepper Potts, who deeply grieve you. It's a sad day is if you lie dying, people are thinking, "So what? Good riddance. Who cares?" You don't want to be that person. It is possible to be that person that people think... Maybe not that extreme, but it's like, well, it's sad, but oh well. You don't want oh well to be people's reactions. Things happen.
Warwick Fairfax:
Spider-Man's devastated, and really, going back to the very beginning of the movie with Ho Yinsen, Ho Yinsen sacrifices his life so that Tony Stark could live. Obviously wasn't Tony's intention to model that, but in a sense, he modeled his first mentor in Ho Yinsen by giving up his life the way Ho Yinsen did for him. It's a beautiful... Death can be beautiful, which it's not really, but it's a beautiful moment in that sense of modeling what was done for him and being the person who leaves a legacy.
Gary Schneeberger:
What did Ho Yinsen say to him before he died? "Don't waste your life." What does a not wasted life look like? It's mourned by a lot of people. There's a beautiful scene toward the end of Avengers: Endgame, which is Tony Stark's funeral, and no one really talks or says much of anything, but what we see is every superhero who is still living in the Marvel Cinematic Universe, who'd appeared in any movie in that universe, shows up for his funeral. The camera pans through every one of them. Some of them haven't been seen but maybe once in an earlier film. It's this never ending pan shot of all of these characters who are mourning the death of Tony Stark.
Gary Schneeberger:
Here's how beautiful it is, and he won't kill me for saying this because he's a sensitive kid. My nephew, I watched Endgame with my family, and my nephew was one of them, and he actually wept during that funeral scene because it was so touching to see the way that Tony Stark was remembered. That was his legacy. Everybody he ever encountered, even when the encounters sometimes weren't great, as you said, sometimes you can backslide in your character, everybody showed up and everybody celebrated who he turned out to be. It was a great ending.
Gary Schneeberger:
And it's not just you and I who think that was a great ending. Robert Downey Jr., who surprisingly whose name we have not mentioned in this entire episode yet. Robert Downey Jr., the very excellent actor who played Tony Stark and Iron Man through every one of those nine movies he appeared in in the Marvel Cinematic Universe, was asked after Iron Man passed away, he was asked after his arc was over, after Robert Downey Jr.'s arc as the actor playing Iron Man was over and after Iron Man's arc as a character in the Marvel Cinematic Universe was over, the press asked him to reflect on it. This is an exact quote that Robert Downey Jr. gave about how he viewed the arc of Tony Stark and Iron Man. Keep in mind, this is being read right now on a podcast called Beyond the Crucible. Here's what he said: "For me, the end of this run with Marvel is a complete 180. It started off with someone who was absolutely self-centered, has more money than he can ever spend, is spiritually dead, and has no idea that they're about to go through a crucible that is going to put them into a position to be of service to their community."
Gary Schneeberger:
When I saw that quote, Warwick, when I found that quote, I found it in a book about what we can learn from superheros to apply to our life in a spiritual sense, the book was written. When I read that quote, I couldn't... My mouth was agape. I could not believe that that language, coming from Robert Downey Jr., is exactly the kind of thing we talk about on this show and have for more than 120 episodes. It's absolutely remarkable to me.
Warwick Fairfax:
It really is, Gary. Robert Downey Jr., he gets it, at least in this quote certainly, that here you have the arc of this character as much as... It's probably a bigger arc than any superhero we've covered so far of going from a self-centered, hedonistic, narcissistic person, and as he rightly says, spiritually dead, to going through a crucible where he does serve his community, he does serve humanity. He becomes somebody that cares about other people, is capable of having a serious relationship, both with friends, fellow travelers, like Captain America and other superheros, as well as Pepper Potts, who becomes his wife and he has a child with.
Warwick Fairfax:
It's just an amazing arc of his character that he goes through, and I guess as we reflect on this, we all have a choice in life, and I guess one thought would be is, who do you want to be? Do you want to be Tony Stark, the successful, wealthy, hedonist person that has no purpose, no roots, no core? Or the Tony Stark that still has success, he's not poverty-stricken. He still has money. Money's not wrong per se, but he has significance. He has purpose, and he's loved by his teammates, his fellow superheroes. He's loved by Pepper, and I'm sure he's loved by his child, their daughter. Which Tony do you want to be?
Warwick Fairfax:
We all get to make a choice in life. We get to make that choice of which Tony Stark we want to be. We won't all have a lot of money. That's not always up to us to choose, but we can choose our legacy. We can choose our character. Those are choices we can make and we are responsible for. It's such a great quote, and Iron Man is just such a great character, not just because of the technology, but the arc that his character goes through. People like Captain America and Pepper Potts and Ho Yinsen, all these people that really help him in his journey. It's just an amazing story.
Gary Schneeberger:
That, Warwick, was a super heroic way to wrap up this episode. I don't have to say anything more. I was going to go into, here's some reflection points, but you just gave the best reflection point there is. Which Tony Stark do you want to be? Who do you want to model your life after? Not that we want to model our life after superheros all the time, but do you want to be someone who has everything but nothing, as well? Or do you want to have both? Do you want to have everything that really matters? That's where it ends up for Iron Man in the arc of all the films he appears in in the Marvel Cinematic Universe. His legacy is all those people attending his funeral when he is laid to rest.
Gary Schneeberger:
As we lay this episode of Beyond the Crucible to rest, listener, thank you for spending time with us in this second to last episode. I'm sad that it's going to end. I want to extend it farther. The second to last episode of Lights, Camera, Crucible is about what we can learn from movie heroes about overcoming setbacks and failures. Next week, if you want to prepare for our conversation, we're going to finish up with not a superhero, but a sports hero in the movie Hoosiers, which is a fantastic, inspirational movie about a small town Indiana basketball team that decimates the odds against them and goes on to great success. The coach finds some great significance. That's next week's episode.
Gary Schneeberger:
Until we get there, until that time arrives, listener, please know that we understand that your crucible experiences are difficult. We understand that they're painful. But we also understand through our own experiences and the experiences of those we've interviewed on this show and what we just unpacked about Tony Stark and Iron Man, that if you learn the lessons of your crucibles, if you apply them to your life moving forward, it's not the end of your story by far. It's the beginning of a new chapter in your story that can lead you to the best destination possible, and that destination is a life of significance.
In the latest episode of our special summer series, we focus on four big take-aways from the movie that made Bruce Willis a superstar that can help you move beyond setbacks and failures. Even if you haven’t been trapped in a skyscraper seized by international terrorists, there is much to learn here about triumphing over whatever challenges you have faced. Just two of the points we’ll touch on: why it’s critical to lean into your sense of humor even when what’s happening to you isn’t funny … and why you’ll need some fellow travelers to take the journey to a life of significance with you.
Highlights
- Why Die Hard is a helpful movie to learn how to overcome crucibles (3:15)
- Bruce Willis’ hope for the character of John McClane (6:41)
- Big learning 1: Crucibles often come in bunches (13:08)
- Big learning 2: Keep your sense of humor (28:42)
- How a 72-year-old Frank Sinatra almost become John McClane (32:53)
- Big learning 3: You need a team of fellow travelers (38:58)
- Big learning 4: Success is great, but significance is greater (54:56)
- Points for reflection (1:05:26)
Transcript
Warwick Fairfax:
Welcome to Beyond the Crucible. I'm Warwick Fairfax the founder of Crucible Leadership.
John McClane:
Al, yo pal, you got a minute?
Al Powell:
I'm here, John.
John McClane:
Listen, man, I'm starting to get a bad feeling up here. I want you to do something for me, I want you to find my wife. Don't ask me how by then you'll know how. I want you to tell her something. I want you to tell her that, tell her that it took me a while to figure out what a jerk I've been but... That when things started to pan out for her, I should have been more supportive. And I just should have been behind her more. Tell her that she's the best thing that ever happened to a bum like me. She's heard me saying "I love you" a thousand times. She never heard me say, "I'm sorry." I want you to tell her that, Al, I want you to tell her that "John said that he was sorry." Okay. You got that, man?
Al Powell:
Yeah. I got it, John. But you can tell her that yourself. You just watch your ass, and you'll make it out of there. Do you hear me?
John McClane:
Al, I guess that's up to the man upstairs.
Gary Schneeberger:
That scene you just heard is one of the quietest you'll find in the movie Die Hard, which is usually celebrated for its explosive action. But as rousing as that is, it's not what Warwick and I are going to be focusing on this week. Hi, I'm Gary Schneeberger, co-host of the show. We're going to spend our time talking about the film that propelled Bruce Willis into rarefied box office air by focusing on four big takeaways to help you move beyond your setbacks and failures. That's why we've chosen Die Hard as episode six of our summer series LIGHTS, CAMERA, CRUCIBLES. Because even if you haven't been trapped in a skyscraper seized by international terrorists, there is much to learn here about moving beyond whatever challenges you have faced. Just two of the points we'll touch on, why it's critical to lean into your sense of humor even when what's happening to you isn't funny. And why you'll need some fellow travelers to take the journey to a life of significance with you.
Gary Schneeberger:
Warwick, it's funny, I think I misspoke last week. Last week when we did the Spider-Man episode I said that Spider-Man might be the hero whose life is perhaps most packed with crucibles. And then I watched Die Hard again in the Crucible Leadership, Beyond the Crucible context and was like, "Oh okay." John McClane, Bruce Willis's character in Die Hard the New York cop he plays, he gets crucible, after crucible, after crucible, after crucible. It's like when people use those tennis machines that throw balls at you so he can learn how to hit your ground stroke. Right? That's what happens to John McClane in this movie. And he, I think, endures more crucibles than any hero we've discussed so far. And the lessons we can learn from them may be among the most helpful and practical that we've covered so far in the situations that we'll find ourselves in.
Gary Schneeberger:
Disclaimer: I'm not saying we're not saying that the situations that you're going to find yourself in are going to be life-threatening situations where terrorists, thieves, burglars, robbers are trying to steal bearer bonds out of a high rise. That's not what we're talking about. You're not likely to find yourself in that situation, thankfully. But you will find yourself in situations where some of the tips that come out in this film will be helpful. This morning when we were talking about this before we pressed record, Warwick, you indicated that you were like, "Oh, Die Hard. Maybe there's not..." And then you watched it and you're like, "Oh my gosh. That's good. And that's good. And that's good." So, you had that experience yourself of there are very good actionable steps out of this movie.
Warwick Fairfax:
Absolutely, Gary. Typically, when you watch a movie, you watch it to be entertained, whether it's Spider-man or Die Hard, or Robin Hood. You're not thinking, "Gee, what are the leadership lessons in this movie? What are the crucible lessons? How can I bounce back from my worst day?" And so, it's a great action movie, like all of us I've seen it many times but having watched it last night just to prepare for today's podcast, it's like, "There actually are a lot of lessons." But you don't think about it when you're watching it just for entertainment as most of us do. So that's partly why we're here to help you look at these movies, and in this case, Die Hard, through a different lens a Crucible Leadership lens.
Gary Schneeberger:
Right. And this is, as, with all the films that we're talking about, listener, in this series, these are movies that Warwick and I have liked even before we talked about them here. These are things that have been on our... I've probably seen Die Hard, I'm not making this up, 50 times in my life. In fact, major dork alert, here's my wallet, okay? I'm about to show you one of the things I keep in my wallet is John McClane's ID Card from the New York Police Department. This is how big a fan I am of Die Hard. I carry around John McClane's ID as seen in the movie. He's badge number 881. And he joined the department on March 17th, 1980, just in case you were wondering. So, this is one of the reasons why we talk about these movies, and we revisit them because we've always liked them. And then we watched them and these resonant truths about moving beyond your crucible are what we're trying to unpack here.
Gary Schneeberger:
So, and one of the things that's very cool about this is that Bruce Willis wanted to make sure, even though this is about what movie heroes can teach us about overcoming setbacks and failure, Bruce Willis the actor who played John McClane, it was just his second movie role. He was a big hit on the TV show Moonlighting. He was a goofy romantic lead, a comedic lead. People weren't sure he was the right guy to do this movie, but the rest is box office history. This movie fueled his box office career for 30-plus years. But when he got the role, he wanted to make sure he did not play John McClane as a superhero. Somebody who was indestructible, somebody audiences couldn't identify with. Here's how he describes the character he in part and also the authors of this book right here, look at the size of this thing. This is Die Hard: A Visual History, an enormous book with lots of great facts about the film.
Gary Schneeberger:
But this is what they say about John McClane as played by Bruce Willis in the movie. "If McClane was instantly relatable, Willis made him more so." So not just on the page but the way Bruce Willis brought him to life made him more relatable. The former New Jersey bartender brought his own rough hue and appeal to the part, here's Bruce Willis talking about it. "Die Hard is probably the closest I've ever come to showing what's in my head on screen." He said, "I really wanted to play a vulnerable guy. I didn't want to be a superhero. I didn't want to be one of those larger-than-life kind of guys no one really knows. It's about an ordinary guy thrown into extraordinary circumstances." That's Bruce Willis' assessment of Die Hard in this book. Pretty accurate, isn't it?
Warwick Fairfax:
It really is. He's just an ordinary New York cop that, as we'll see, is out in LA to see his family. And he has no idea this is going to happen. He's not signing up for some secret mission. He's just a guy who wants to see his family. And so just that sense of an ordinary guy thrown into extraordinary circumstance. Ironically, and this is where it's important to just bear this in mind as we talk through this episode, a lot of the greatest well, not a lot but some of the greatest leaders in history are quote-unquote ordinary guys. And you'll hear this a lot on Crucible Leadership and Beyond the Crucible. I think of Abraham Lincoln he was pretty much an ordinary guy from backwoods of then, Illinois had a country lawyer at one point he would go on the circuit, so to speak. From town to town because back then they didn't have lawyers all over the place and so they would go judge, prosecutor, defender, and adjudicate these cases. He wasn't this large than life hero. But when he became President with the Civil War about to begin, he was indeed an ordinary guy thrown into extraordinary circumstances.
Warwick Fairfax:
If it hadn't been for the times maybe, we would never have heard of Abraham Lincoln. So, this is more common than you think about it. And just that notion of an ordinary guy thrown into extraordinary circumstances, there are some powerful lessons. Maybe we won't be thrown into these kind of circumstances but many of us might think we're just ordinary men and women but what do you do if you're in extraordinary times? And maybe it's not this particular circumstance but it's often the case that you'll find yourself in challenging circumstances. So, what do you do, an ordinary man or woman thrown into challenging circumstances? And there are lessons here.
Gary Schneeberger:
Yeah. And the authors of Die Hard: The Ultimate Visual History went on to say about John McClane, exactly to your point, "McClane is the ultimate underdog engaged in a one-man war of attrition against a group of criminals. He lives from moment to moment existing on his wits and adapting to his surroundings. He doesn't have gadgets like James Bond. He makes do with makeshift bombs and duct tape. And he even uses a fire hose to pull off one of the greatest escapes in cinematic history." And that from your point to Lincoln to these points here about John McClane it's a great thought to keep in mind as we begin pressing forward on some of the lessons in this movie.
Gary Schneeberger:
John McClane isn't just an everyman, he's an every hero he offers us all great hope that no scrape we find ourselves in is insurmountable. If John McClane can get through it, we can get through it. Different circumstances, we say it all the time on the show, right? The circumstances of your crucible may be different but the emotions you go through as you're going through it are the same. We'll find that to be true as we walk through Die Hard and John McClane's journey there.
Warwick Fairfax:
I want to dwell a bit on what you just said, Gary. I think it's just so important for listeners to think about it. You mentioned that he is an every hero, if you will. What's interesting is you rightly point out is he doesn't have super gadgets like James Bond. He doesn't have super superhuman powers like Spider- Man or some of the other superheroes that we're familiar with. Yes, we'll see he's a New York cop but it's just more his ability to think through challenging circumstances. So, he doesn't achieve success by the use of superpowers, who of us have superpowers? I mean none of us. It's more just his attitude, his character the way he thinks about things, his spirit.
Gary Schneeberger:
And the R-word, and the R-word, his resilience.
Warwick Fairfax:
Exactly. Exactly. So, I think as much as really any hero that we've spoken about, there are lessons that are very relatable because there isn't like, "Oh well, I didn't get pumped with green fluid or wherever it was like Captain America." And "Gee, if I was Captain America of course..." And that greatly simplifies the plot of the story and his character but it's easy to dismiss somebody like Captain America and say, "Oh, that's not me." John McClane, in a sense, could be any of us. That's why it's so relatable. So yeah, it's really an excellent story to explore.
Gary Schneeberger:
Absolutely. And then there are four big takeaways that we're going to talk about. And the first one is this, crucibles often come in bunches. Does that resonate with you, listener? It's not just one crucible, crucibles often come in bunches. And even though weariness can set in, keep taking one small step toward making your vision a reality. That is what we speak about here at Beyond the Crucible. What Warwick speaks about in his book Crucible Leadership. And certainly, what John McClane lives out on the screen in Die Hard.
Warwick Fairfax:
It's one point about that, a little bit humor for listeners. When you talk about crucibles come in bunches. I often talk about the gift that keeps on giving. I've had times in my life when it's like, whether it's a person, an individual it might be, "Hey, I just forgave them for the last thing. I mean, can I have a nanosecond to recover before the next incident? I can't keep up in my level of forgiveness." Or "I just dealt with that crucible. I mean are you serious?" So humorously, to myself, call it the gift that keeps on giving. It's like, "Can I get a break, please?" And so yes, indeed as we'll see with John McClane, he has many gifts that keep on coming, a lot of crucibles, it's unbelievable.
Gary Schneeberger:
Because we're talking about movies it makes perfect sense that you just said something about humorously. Because that's like a teaser coming attraction to one of the things that we're going to talk about. So, let's just level set who John McClane is. John McClane is a New York cop who's visiting Los Angeles to see his estranged wife, Holly, and their two young children for the holidays. That's crucible number one for John McClane, a troubled family life. But he hasn't even dipped his toe in the waters of how many crucibles he's going to end up with. He's going to get a tsunami of crucibles by the time the two hours and 15 minutes of this movie is over. He arrives at Nakatomi Plaza on Christmas Eve for Nakatomi Corporation's company party. He's dropped off by his chatty limo driver named Argyle, who agrees to hang around in case the family reunion doesn't go so well.
Gary Schneeberger:
It doesn't go so well. Seeing Holly again is not all hugs and kisses and I've missed you for the McClanes. They squabble about why she's now using her maiden name, Gennaro. And that's the last time they'll talk to each other until the end of the picture because of all of these crucibles that are going to come and hit him. Let's just start unpacking some of those or just listing some of those because we could do an entire episode if all we did was just like read from the phone book and list all the crucibles, right? It begins with Hans Gruber and his henchman arriving at Nakatomi Plaza, kill the security guards, and cut off all communications, then kidnap and terrorize the party guests including Holly, all while John is still in the bathroom cleaning up after his flight from New York to the Los Angeles.
Gary Schneeberger:
When he hears the gunshots, he's barefoot. Okay. That'll turn into a bad crucible, the reason these barefoot is the guy who sits next to him on the plane tells him, "If you're a nervous flyer" and John is, "the secret to surviving air travel is to make fists with your toes. Take off your shoes when you get where you're going, walk around and make fists with your toes." John takes him up on that advice which is why he spends the entire movie without shoes. I will pause here to say I won't make anybody see it, but I will pause here to say that in more than 200 episodes of the show I am not wearing shoes for this one, in honor of John McClane.
Warwick Fairfax:
Well, I hope you haven't gone full John McClane because there are times we'll see him in which is walking through the glass. I hope you haven't quite gone that far.
Gary Schneeberger: No.
Warwick Fairfax: Which is good.
Gary Schneeberger:
I don't even like to walk through pebbles without shoes on. So, I am just sitting here at the desk.
Warwick Fairfax:
I think there is one small lesson that we can learn just this early in the movie. If you're sitting next to somebody on a plane and they give you some hair-brained advice, don't listen to it. It will come back to bite him. I mean, advice is good but not everybody you sit next to will have earth-shattering advice that will help you for the good. In this case, he listens to the wrong advice, as we often say, listen to the right advisors, not the bad ones. He listens to a bad advisor, and he'll have no shoes for the whole movie that will come back to bite him in major ways. So, there you go. Don't listen to people who are sitting next to you on the airplane.
Gary Schneeberger:
There you go. And then after that, right, after he runs out with his gun with no shoes on when he hears the gunshots the crucibles then come even more fast and even more furious, not to mix up movie series, but they come fast and furious after that all rooted in him trying to stay alive. In John McClane trying to stay alive and free the hostages that Hans Gruber as men have taken, to make it appear that they want something other than all the money that's in the vault there at the Nakatomi Corporation. They're after bearer bonds negotiable bearer bonds and millions and millions of them, 600 million, I believe, is what it is at the end. So, the movie then plays out with the terrorists hunting him down, and every little victory that John McClane wins as you watch this movie, he'll win a victory, he'll take out a terrorist. He'll find his way to go to another place in this big building that's under construction in order to think about what might come next. But every time he wins a little victory he will then run headlong into another defeat. And he can't seem to extricate himself throughout the film from the corners he gets backed into and the tight spaces he winds up in as he tries to escape.
Gary Schneeberger:
And we could talk about these all day. One of them that hits me is that he's trying to use his police acumen to get the cops to show up and realize what's going on. So, he pulls a fire alarm, right? But what happens? The terrorists have taken out communications. They call into the fire department and say, "Oops. That's a false alarm." So, John McClane's watching these hook and ladders come in and he's like, "Yeah. Come on, come on, come on." And then they turn around and go away. And he's foiled, crucible. But there are a lot of those kinds of things that happen. Right?
Warwick Fairfax:
Absolutely. I know one that we talked about, you mentioned, right after that is he uses this handheld radio, CB radios to try to get somebody. And the police emergency channel says, "It's a federal crime to be using these. If you have a problem call 911." Well, he can't call 911 because the bad guy had disconnected all the phones. And so, it's very comical in some ways but he runs through crucible after crucible, crisis after crisis. And he sees the fire engines from, he's probably on the 20th, 30th floor, that he sees him coming towards the building and the bad guys turn them around and pretend to be good guys and say, "Everything's okay."
Warwick Fairfax:
And it's just no matter what he does for a good part of the movie, people just turn back and he's like, "Are you kidding me? What are you doing?" But he's frustrated, very frustrated but as we'll see it doesn't stop him. But it's comical. But for most of us, it's like, "What do I have to do to get help here?" I mean, oh my gosh he's frustrated. But yet, as we'll see, there are some lessons we can learn from him.
Gary Schneeberger:
And here's one of the big ones, I think, of what we've just been talking about, about his frustration and continuing to hit brick walls as he's trying to move forward and get beyond. I mean, he solves one crucible and then he gets hit in the face with another one. The relevant point to apply here I think is, and hopefully most of our crucibles are less chaotic and life-threatening, but here's a key truth that you can apply. Don't give up, don't try to jump to the end, take one small step followed by another small step, tackling the challenge right in front of you before moving on to the one behind that. String together enough of these little victories and you wind up with the big one you're aiming at. That, even if you're not stuck in a building that's being held up by terrorists in really, really nice suits, that's good advice for how to get through a crucible, isn't it?
Warwick Fairfax:
Absolutely, Gary. I mean so often we think whether it's World War II or whatever it is, "Gee, how are we going to defeat Nazi Germany? It's all hopeless." Okay. Well, one step at a time. Maybe how do we try to with radar in England, the UK how do we use that to survive one more day of bombing by the Luftwaffe? Shoot enough of their planes down to make some small victory. You're not thinking about the whole, big war. You're thinking about, "How do I survive today?" And that's exactly what John McClane does, he just takes one small step. And the other thing I think is fascinating is he doesn't, as you rightly say, he doesn't try to jump to the end. So, what he could do is confront all the terrorists at once. At one point he gets a machine gun, several times he gets a machine gun from the bad guys and just takes them all on.
Warwick Fairfax:
Well, the chances of victory it's a million to one he would lose as would all of the hostages. So, he tries guerilla tactics. Again, another historical reference I think of, I think of the American Revolution if George Washington with his rag-tag group of soldiers that, not all of them had terrific training, a lot of them were just farmers. If he took on the might of the British Army in one head-on onslaught certainly at the beginning of that war, he would've lost. He realized victory is surviving, using guerilla tactics and the British couldn't defeat him because they found it difficult to engage. Well, eventually he won. So, there would be no United States if George Washington hadn't had the sense to have this idea of guerilla tactics, and just how do I survive? How do I take one small step? It worked for Britain in World War II. It worked for the American colonies, and it worked for John McClane. So, strategies to live by.
Gary Schneeberger:
Yeah. And it's important to note as you talk about overwhelming power on the other side, I mean these terrorists show up, right, with a dozen guys and McClane just starts clipping them off one at a time. And he keeps track, he's got a sharpie and he marks down how many people he's taken out and that's one of the ways that he... He doesn't, exactly as you said, he doesn't try to go confront them all down where they're holding everybody hostage. He's working on the fringes trying to whittle away their numbers until he can then find that opportunity to be successful. I do want to go back to the guy on the plane who gave him the advice about the make fist with your toes. Because while that turns out not to be a great idea when terrorists overtake the building, you're in and you're barefoot, what he's really saying there, there's a principle there I think that's that can be beneficial to us and that's this.
Gary Schneeberger:
It doesn't have to be make fists with your toes, maybe it will be. But the idea behind that is breathe, relax, disengage from the thing that is causing you stress. For John McClane that was flying. Disengage from that thing that stress and anxiety and focus on something else that will take your mind off it and relax your body. And I want to give another quick example from my own life about this sort of thing. I've talked on the show before, when I was in AA, my sponsor would tell me in the early days of my sobriety, "When you find yourself in this place where you're thinking about drinking again and that urge is growing in you," he said, "Go outside and look for ladybugs." Now here's his point, his point wasn't, you're going to find ladybugs, because they're awfully hard to find. His point was if you're out in the field looking for ladybugs and they're really hard to find, your mind and your body are going to be engaged in something other than that obsession that you have at the moment of, "I need to have a drink." You're going to redirect your energy and attention into something that's more profitable for you.
Gary Schneeberger:
And I think that's what "make fists with your toes" can be beneficial to us. This idea of whether we do that or not, when in the midst of a crucible, if you can find something to take your mind off of just staring and focusing on the problem and giving yourself some relief from obsessing about that problem it will help you solve that problem. That's a pretty fair statement that has proven true through a lot of guests, right?
Warwick Fairfax:
Yeah. It's an incredibly good point, Gary, when you're going through a crucible or often a series of crucibles because they can come in series, you've got to keep your wits about you. You've got to keep calm and it's not easy to do that because imagine John McClane if he's panicking and going, "Oh my gosh. There are terrorists. My wife's been captured by the terrorists. They're killing people. Oh my gosh. Oh my gosh. Let me run around like a crazy man and say stop it, stop it, don't do this." Or whatever. He wouldn't be able to think clearly. And he would lose. And the terrorists, the bad guys, would win. And so, he does it through a number of means but just the idea of just relax, take a breath. Because if you think about it, will panicking serve you? Is that going to help you make a good next wise decision? It actually will pretty much ensure that you'll make a cataclysmically bad decision.
Warwick Fairfax:
And so it could be by meditation, it could be by prayer. I'm in Northern Michigan as it happens, during the summer. And just taking a walk in nature in the woods, I find incredibly relaxing. Maybe it's listening to your favorite music, but whatever it is find ways to relax yourself, to center yourself, to calm yourself. Even when you think, "How can I be calm when the world is falling apart? Look what's happening to my loved ones. How in the world can I be calm?" But if you really care about other people that you're trying to care for if you care about the crucibles you're trying to challenge, you've got to find a way to keep calm keep centered, and relaxed. So, all joking aside, the metaphor of this of relax and ball your toes on the carpet just to relax yourself, the metaphor is important. Find ways to relax and disengage. It's critical to be able to make good decisions as you try to get through your crucible or crucibles.
Gary Schneeberger:
Absolutely. And point 2 as we move on for what John McClane does. John McClane does this so well in Die Hard that it changed action movies forever in the '80s, this movie came out in 1988 and that character and the way that Bruce Willis played him changed action movies and one of the reasons that it did so was our second point of what you can learn from this movie for your own crucible experiences. And that is to keep your sense of humor. John McClane does not take himself too seriously. And he certainly doesn't meet his crucibles with somber depression. He finds the humor in his plight, as deadly serious as it is. Consider the gag he pulls on the first henchman he kills. He sends him down in the elevator to where Hans and company are holding their hostages. Having plopped a Santa hat on the dead man's head, this happens around Christmas, and we could do a whole other podcast on whether Die Hard's a Christmas movie, but we won't do that. This happens at a Christmas party.
Gary Schneeberger:
He sends the guy down with a Santa hat on his head and he's written on his sweatshirt, "Now I have a machine gun ho, ho, ho." And just because I always have an outfit for these shows, I will reveal, there I am, "Now I have a machine gun ho, ho, ho." On my t-shirt Which I wear every Christmas to some party somewhere, I wear this t-shirt. But the point of all that is John McClane keeps it light even while he is in the midst of circumstances that are heavy. And that is critically important, isn't it? To have a sense of humor, not to laugh at your pain but to keep your spirits up as you go through, walk through your pain.
Warwick Fairfax:
It is such an incredibly good point. I mean often, in the darkest hours a sense of humor at yourself, at the situation I'm sure in the darkest hours of World War II, whether it was the Battle of Britain or the Battle of the Bulge when you had American forces and, I think Belgium it was, dug in foxholes in as cold a winter it's ever been with the onslaught of the Germans. I bet you in those foxholes there were GIs joking about the situation. Given how dire the plight was, you better believe that happened. And so, a sense of humor it's a way of relieving stress. It's also another way of helping to clear your brain so that you'll think clearly.
Warwick Fairfax:
So, it's really critical. It's not that the situation is humorous, that his wife and other people are taken hostage and he's getting shot at but finding a way to see the humor in the situation relieves stress and helps you to think clearly. People have done this for hundreds or thousands of years amidst dire circumstances, seeing the humor in it. Not for the sake of humor but just for the sake of just relieving stress and helping to think clearly, it works. And John McClane is a tremendous example.
Gary Schneeberger:
Yeah. And I mean there's any number of examples. So, one of them is the first terrorist he kills, he's like, "Oh, I don't have any shoes on. I'm going to take this guy's shoes and put them on. I'll be fine." And the shoes are too small for him. And he says, "9 million terrorists in the world. And I got to kill one with feet smaller than my sister." Which is funny, and again, the circumstances couldn't be more dire, and the stakes more high but he is finding a way to laugh and blow off steam. Later he's crawling through the air ducts of this building, as I said it's under construction, they're building the Nakatomi Plaza up he's crawling around in the air ducts. And he pulls a Zippo lighter out of his pocket so he can see where he is going.
Gary Schneeberger:
And he realizes in that moment I came out here to see my wife and kids for Christmas. And this is where I'm at. And he actually mimics Holly's voice and says, "Come out to the coast. We'll get together have a few laughs." He's like, "This is just not what I was expecting." And speaking of funny here's a funny anecdote about not just that scene but the movie in general. The actor, it could have been, crawling around in that duct, Warwick, it could have been Frank Sinatra.
Warwick Fairfax: No. Really?
Gary Schneeberger:
Frank Sinatra at the time, this movie came out in '88, made in '87. So Frank was probably about 72. The reason it could have been Frank Sinatra, quick story, is that in 1968 Frank Sinatra made a film called The Detective. It was based on a book by an author named Roderick Thorp. Roderick Thorp also wrote the book on which Die Hard was based. It wasn't called Die Hard. It was called Nothing Lasts Forever. The character was much older and there's very, very few beats of the story that are the same. But because Sinatra, 20 years earlier, had signed a contract for The Detective based on a book by Roderick Thorp, he had it in his contract that if they ever made a sequel, he had to be offered the role first. So, when they made this, technically a sequel, they had to offer 72-year-old Frank Sinatra the role of John McClane. This is the part I love the most. Sinatra said, when they asked him, "Nah, I'm too old and I'm too rich." And that's how Bruce Willis got his big break. So, the trivia question listeners is Die Hard the sequel to a Frank Sinatra film? The answer is yes.
Gary Schneeberger:
So, there's another scene where one of the bad guys surprises him in a conference room and McClane doesn't shoot him right away. And the guy says to him, "Oh, next time you have a chance to kill somebody, don't hesitate." McClane shoots up through the table and kills him and says, "Thanks for the advice." There's just moment, after moment, after moment of that where he's releasing the pressure valve of this pressure cooker that he's in. And that is pivotal to help him get through what he has to get through. And then there's of course, Warwick, the one that we can't say is the most famous line in the film. We can't say it because it's a family show, but it begins with Yippee Ki Yay.
Gary Schneeberger:
And it's his response when Hans says, "Do you really think you have a chance against us Mr. Cowboy?" And he says, "Yippee Ki Yay [Insert bad word here]". So, these all are things, right, that the... We've all heard that laughter's the best medicine. And this is true even especially when the sickness we're fighting is moving beyond a crucible. The most tragic circumstances can be met with hopeful optimism. We don't laugh as we've said because what we're going through is funny, but because it helps stabilize our spirits to meet the challenges emotional and otherwise, we'll encounter on our path to significance. It's fair to say, isn't it, Warwick, that there's no way John McClane gets through this crucible and all of these crucibles if he doesn't keep his sense of humor?
Warwick Fairfax:
It's so well said, Gary. I mean I love all those scenes. Yeah. That one when he is crawling through the air duct, he's sweating profusely, it's small, he's probably, you can't help being a bit claustrophobic even if you're not claustrophobic if you're crawling through this really narrow air vent. There are bad guys with machine guns all over the place. You don't know where they're going to appear next. And he is as you say channeling Holly and saying, "Yeah, come out to the coast. We'll get together, and have a few laughs." And he grimaces, it's like, "Why am I here?" I mean he's just laughing at the craziness.
Gary Schneeberger: The absurdity of it all.
Warwick Fairfax: Exactly.
Gary Schneeberger: Absurdity.
Warwick Fairfax:
Exactly. The absurdity of the situation. Now he could have taken on a different task. It's like, "Why didn't I just stay in New York? Gosh, Holly's here and she never should have left." Or, "Maybe I shouldn't have come out and I'm an idiot. She is an idiot. We're both idiots. Why am I here? It's Christmas. I'm not on the job." As they say in the police, he could have gone in a very negative spiral and that would've been a very different movie. But he didn't, he just had this sense of hopeful optimism, as you put it. And he wasn't laughing just for the sake of laughing that it's all a laughing matter. It just did help, as we've said, to keep him sounded emotionally. It helped him think clearly, keep his spirits up. I mean I guess the two biggest points is yes keeping your spirits up, but you have to be able to think clearly in a crisis. The greatest leaders in history have been very, very calm amidst a crisis.
Warwick Fairfax:
Off-topic here for a moment but as listeners know I love history; I think of Admiral Horatio Nelson before the Battle of Trafalgar in 1805 where he is taking on the combined French and the Spanish fleets, he would die in the process. But it was always said of Nelson in that half hour before the battle he was completely calm. I mean havoc was about to come. A lot of people were going to die in that naval engagement. He was completely calm and often great leaders, when the crucibles are at their height, find a way, and in this case through humor, of being calm. That's where you make the best decisions and think clearly. So, yeah, John McClane is really a great role model of how you got to be amidst a crisis.
Gary Schneeberger:
And I hadn't thought about it until you just said that about thinking through it a little bit. Find time to separate yourself and calm. There's this scene when he is up and he's working on that saw, right? That saw goes off and he bangs himself in the head and says, "Think, think." He's trying to will himself to think beyond the next crucible. How to get through what he's facing because he's stuck on an unfinished floor in this high rise at Nakatomi Plaza. And he knows they're coming for him. And he's trying to think of a way to get out of that. One of the ways that John McClane ended up getting out of this is our third point of key takeaways. And that is you need a team of fellow travelers. I think one of the things that's often most misunderstood about this movie, in all seriousness, is that John McClane is often painted as a Lone Wolf. One man against this literal army of terrorists.
Gary Schneeberger:
But that overlooks two relationships critical to his coming out on top and saving the day. And without one of them Al Powell he is, for you listeners if you don't remember the name, he's the Twinkie-eating cop and then, Argyle, his limo driver. Without those characters and what they bring to the table for John McClane, he would not achieve his goals. Powell's chief role is to be his confidant and cheerleader. After a rough start to their relationship, it is Powell, after all, who John throws a dead terrorist out on his police cruiser as he is trying to get away finally able to get the police's attention by dropping a dead terrorist out of a 32nd-floor window onto Al Powell's car. So, they get off on a bit of a rocky start but as they get to know each other, talk to each other on those CB radios, Powell offers a sympathetic ear and actionable intelligence to John McClane. They bond over their disdain for law enforcement bureaucracy and their love for their families.
Gary Schneeberger:
And when fatigue and discouragement start to get McClane thinking fatalistically, he's no longer now being glib and funny, he says, "I have a bad feeling" in the clip that we played at the beginning of the show. That is when Al Powell really shows the benefit of a team of fellow travelers. That scene was pretty powerful when McLean's finally at the end of his rope. He's been funny. He's been in control but not having any shoes, Hans realizes that when they meet, he has his henchman shoot out the glass windows in the building McLean's got to run through. He's got glass in his feet. He's feeling like he's not going to get out okay. And that's when he has the conversation with Al Powell that we heard at the beginning of the show. Why is that so pivotal? That moment and having that person that you can confide in and get advice from?
Warwick Fairfax:
Yeah, I mean amidst a crisis or series of crises and crucibles as we say, you've got to have fellow travelers at the beginning and the end of the movie John McClane has Argyle the limo driver, and then through a good part of the movie he has Al Powell. And there's two beats of this that I think are fascinating is that John McClane has a habit of cultivating fellow travelers. He has a habit of creating a climate where they want to help him. With Argyle when he picks him up from the airport McClane said, "Hey, this is the first time I've ever been in a limo." Argyle says, "Well it's the first time I've ever driven one." And John McClane sits in the front seat of a limo. Well, you don't do that. At least not here in Australia. Again, a brief anecdote when I was growing up, you'd always sit in the front seat of a cab, of a taxi. And if you didn't the taxi driver would say, "What's your problem?" I mean because Australia's a pretty egalitarian place, but anyway.
Warwick Fairfax:
So he befriends him and listens to Argyle and says, "Yeah, Argyle, you've got some wisdom there." And he jokes around and he doesn't think of himself as better than Argyle and saying with Al there's a pivotal scene somewhere around there where I guess we'll talk about this here in a bit and you'll unpack it where Powell had some challenging circumstances earlier. And what's amazing is that John McClane says, "Oh. I'm so sorry, Al, that's got to have been difficult." Now here is John McClane fighting for his life, and he's shown the time to be empathetic with somebody who's in safety. That makes no sense in one sense. So, he has a habit of cultivating fellow travelers just by his empathy and care, and his humor. But in the clip that we just heard it's so profound because John McClane realizes, "Hey, I might not get out of this. This could be the end."
Warwick Fairfax:
And that's a time when you reflect and he wants to make things right with his wife, realizing, "Gosh, maybe I should have come out. Not stayed in New York and come out and support her in Los Angeles. And yeah, maybe I've said I love you, but I've never said I'm sorry. And please tell her that." And obviously, Al says, "You can tell her that yourself." But he's really asking for forgiveness. He's empathizing with Al. He is trying to make sure that his legacy is preserved, that things are going to be made right, even if things don't end, he wants things to be right with his wife and with his kids. And so, it's a tremendous scene where he's not so much just thinking of himself. He just wants to make things right with Holly. He's really thinking of her and the relationship. And it is just a great scene, it just shows his character and where his heart is. It's a tremendous scene.
Gary Schneeberger:
This is a good time to make the general point that we talk about a lot here on the show. And you talk a lot in Crucible Leadership about the importance of receiving and giving forgiveness, asking for it, and offering it. That is a critical part of getting us through a crucible. And this is a different kind of crucible that John McClane's facing at this moment in the film. He's not facing crucibles from bullets at the time he's facing a crisis of conscience, if you will, a crucible of conscience. He feels bad about how he's treated Holly about the fact that he didn't support her career when it took off. And he wants her to know that in addition to loving her that he's sorry that he didn't show that support. And that seeking forgiveness and extending forgiveness, are critical to getting past crucibles, right?
Warwick Fairfax:
It really is. And we cannot emphasize this enough. I mean we talk about getting beyond your worst day and having it not define you, getting out of the pit, living a life of significance, a life on purpose dedicated to serving others. And that's all very true but it's almost impossible to get out of that pit and get beyond your worst day without forgiveness. It could be yourself, in my case the mistakes I made that led to a failed $2.25 billion takeover, that hurt members of my family and thousands of employees. And, yeah, I mean it's not always easy to forgive yourself, but you have to because if you don't you can't move forward, and you won't be able to help anybody.
Warwick Fairfax:
And it may be forgiving, but, as we say, not condoning but forgiving hurt that was done to you. If you're not able to either forgive yourself or forgive others, as we say, it puts you in prison. It makes it impossible for you to move forward. So, the reason forgiveness is important because we say, you're worth it, your life's worth it, your family, your wife, your husband, your kids, your friends, they're all worth it. And so that's why forgiveness, again it's not condoning, but forgiveness is so important. If you don't forgive, I don't see how there's any way you can move beyond a crucible. You'll be stuck there forever. So, if you want to move beyond a crucible one of the things you have to do is to be able to forgive.
Gary Schneeberger:
One of the things that Al Powell does in addition to, I mean yes, he offers an ear and actionable intelligence but he also, the filmmakers do this very cool thing at the end of the movie where we think it's over, right? We think John's won the day the building's fallen down; Hans has been dropped out of the building. He's no longer with us. And what we learn at the climax of the film, the end of the film isn't really the end of the film. John and Holly are reunited. They've rekindled their love. They're walking out of the building, TV cameras are trying to get to him and angry bureaucratic cops are trying to yell at them. But all of a sudden, we hear a scream, and there one of the bad guys who we presumed was dead, killed by John McClane, comes out with a machine gun and someone shoots him and eliminates him. And camera pulls tight, and it was Al Powell.
Gary Schneeberger:
And why that's such a meaningful scene to what you alluded to earlier when John McClane is showing empathy toward Al Powell. Al Powell had been on desk duty for a while at the Los Angeles Police Department because he accidentally shot a kid who had a toy gun that looked real. And Powell drew quickly. And he says to John over the walkie-talkie, as he's explaining this harrowing and emotional thing that happened to him, that he hasn't been able to draw his gun since. So, there at the end who is it that is there? What fellow traveler saves John's life literally, by taking out the bad guy? It's Al Powell. And the beautiful part of that is they both offer emotional support and healing to each other and that helps them both move beyond their crucibles. Right?
Warwick Fairfax:
Absolutely. It's such a great scene and we all need fellow travelers. And I think it's a symbiotic, mutually supportive environment. They support you; you support them. And it's impossible to know but maybe that psychological support from John McClane and, "Hey look, I'm so sorry. That's difficult." Clearly, McClane's a cop. He gets why situations can be difficult in that split-second judgment you got to have. And then there's a sense of redemption from Al Powell. And if he hadn't gotten beyond his crucible and he'd frozen, John McClane who I think is with Holly at the time, he or both of them may be dead.
Warwick Fairfax:
And so, Al was able to get beyond his crucible, he was able to maybe forgive himself. And if he hadn't gotten beyond his crucible, he wouldn't have taken the action that was needed to save John and Holly. So, it's a great movie scene in which both John is supportive of Al and Al is supportive of John and they're able to help each other and each tackles their own crucibles to the benefit of both. So, you have a whole group of fellow travelers who are supporting each other and getting beyond their crucibles. It can be a powerful movement, if you will. It's really a critical scene.
Gary Schneeberger:
Yeah, we talk a lot about the flywheel effect, right? That things begin to build momentum. And what you just said is a bit of a flywheel effect is we help each other moving through crucibles. It just helps us get beyond them with perhaps a little bit more sure footing than we would've had otherwise. I don't want to forget Argyle because Argyle is still part of the fellow travelers even though he spends most of the movie sitting in the parking garage in the limo talking on the cell phone and listening to music, not really paying attention to what's going on talking to girls on the cell phone or on the car phone. It's not even a cell phone then, it's a car phone.
Gary Schneeberger:
He hears a report about what's happening at Nakatomi Plaza. He moves out of where he is at so he can get in a better position in the parking garage. And he ends up helping out as well, when the getaway vehicle which is an ambulance, the guy who was the technical mastermind for the terrorists gets in to try to get the getaway going. Argyle smashes the limo into him. And then as you pointed out when we were talking earlier, he punches him out too. So, Argyle does indeed have some counseling for John in the beginning of the movie. And then he gets to show his action hero bona fides at the end. Right?
Warwick Fairfax:
Absolutely. Again, it's a smaller part of the movie in one sense but again John, he could have been consumed in that limo ride at the very beginning of the movie thinking, "How's it going to go with Holly and the kids? Am I going to be able to stay with them or not? Am I angry at Holly for moving out here? Am I angry at myself?" I mean he could have been flooded with a sea of emotions which would've been understandable. And so like, "I'm just sitting in the back of this limo. And I don't know this guy. I don't want to know this guy. And I'm just going to brood in my own self-reflective sea of conflicting emotions and thoughts." But he didn't he sits up front he engages him in conversation. Argyle asks him all these, "Do you think you made a mistake?" I mean he's just asking these really penetrating questions about Holly and everything.
Warwick Fairfax:
And John just smiles in his John McClane smirky way saying, "You're pretty smart there Argyle." So, they create a bond. And that bond was to serve him well later. The reason Argyle stayed is, "Well, let me stay because it sounds like you don't quite know what's going to happen with Holly. So, I'll stick around." Limo drivers typically don't stick around. They go off back home or to the next job. So again, a mutually symbiotic thing, they create a relationship that was obviously to be very beneficial in more ways than one to John McClane. So again, another example of a great fellow traveler and a relationship that was cultivated at the beginning of the movie just by John McClane being John McClane before any crisis had happened. He was just being his relatable, funny, nice guy self if you will.
Gary Schneeberger:
All right. So, let's pull the balloon strings together of this third point. You need a team of fellow travelers. The lessons here seem pretty clear, right? Don't go it alone when fighting through crucibles, confide in others, lean on them, take their counsel and encouragement to heart. Let them apply their abilities and expertise to help you achieve your vision. Al Powell saves John McClane's life. Argyle saves his significance in a sense because at the end of the movie when all of these forces, the bureaucratic cops who want to yell at them and the TV reporters who want to make a good story out of it, John and Holly need an escape and Argyle pulls up in the limo that's got a dent in it now because he ran into the ambulance but he's able to whisk them away. And that then gives them a safe place to reestablish their love and their family. So, it really is an excellent example of how our fellow travelers play a huge role in our life of significance.
Gary Schneeberger:
Speaking of significance, Warwick, our fourth point is one we can't make enough on this show and in Crucible Leadership. And that is success is great, but significance is greater. The big payoff here, if you're really watching the movie from this perspective that we watched it from, is not that John McClane saves the day from greedy, neatly dressed terrorists it's that he reunites with his wife and children, and they become a family again. Like anything that is successful in Hollywood, sequels were made to this movie, in the first sequel Die Hard 2 John McClane has resigned from the New York Police Department, and he's gotten a job with the Los Angeles Police Department. And he and Holly are living with the kids and happily married in Los Angeles and she is still killing it for the Nakatomi Corporation as an executive.
Gary Schneeberger:
Again, once movies get successful, they make a lot of other ones, and the stories aren't always clear about who's getting along with who in all the other movies. And but here's the other thing about sequels that is interesting to talk about, Warwick, the first two are clearly the best. Third one's pretty good. The third one ends with John and Holly had a little bit of an argument maybe, but at the end of the movie, he's at a payphone. If you remember those things, listeners, he's at a payphone and he's calling Holly to talk to her and see how she's doing. There's a thing that happens in Hollywood. And I know in part because I worked there for three years marketing films and that is, the Jurassic Park franchise is a great example. Sometimes sequels aren't received all that well, they just pretend they never happen.
Gary Schneeberger:
So, in terms of Jurassic Park they'll say that the third movie just didn't really... They'll just skip over and they'll they won't even talk about that. Rocky V is not part of the official Rocky cannon of films. They just pretend, Stallone pretends it didn't happen. So, the arc of the relationships here is pretty clear from one to two and even at the end of three which is the last one where Bonnie Bedelia's character Holly is referred to in great detail. They are still working at significance. It's not easy. And we know that to be true. Significance can be complicated, but John McClane is still working on his family relationships through the end of three and then in four and five with his kids, for sure. So, that life of significance that he was fighting for, I think, becomes something that we see in the sequels and something that if John McClane were real and we got a chance to ask him what was the most important thing he did, he'd say reconciling with his family was more important than saving the day at Nakatomi Plaza, I think. Would you agree?
Warwick Fairfax:
Yeah, it's an excellent point, Gary. I mean obviously saving the hostages and making sure the bad guys don't get away. And obviously, there's a scene toward the end of the movie where the bad guy, Hans Gruber got Holly as a hostage and John McClane finds a way of turning the tables and Hans Gruber ends up falling out the window and falling to his death. And yeah, from an action movie perspective it's a powerful scene and yes, John saves the day. But there is this subject of his relationship where he picks the job in New York as a New York policeman over supporting Holly and her career. And when he first goes to the Nakatomi Plaza, he sees she's going by her maiden name Gennaro which obviously doesn't bless him. And it's like, "Ah here we go." He is not a happy camper.
Warwick Fairfax:
So, towards the end of the movie he realizes, "You know what, I could get a job in LA as a cop." Which he does by Die Hard 2. And, "I could have supported her, and I could have handled this a whole lot better." And he realizes, "Okay, I like being a New York policeman but ultimately what's important in life?" That's an important job but maybe there's something more important. It's my relationship with my wife and my young kids that he has at the time. I can still be a cop, but I can still support her. It's not either or, so there's few things more important than our families, our loved ones, supporting them and supporting each other. And ultimately when you talk a lot about legacy, there are some that may have made millions or billions, and what do they want at their funeral? As we often say do we want people saying, yep. There was John or Mary they were a billionaire and founded all this stuff.
Warwick Fairfax:
Or maybe it's they had a loving wife, husband family friends they were a person of character. They were giving in the best sense of the word. They were loving. They were caring. They served others. What do you want your legacy to be? And McClane, I think, realizes when he was in that pivotal scene with Al, "I don't want this just to be about me being a cop." I think there's a subtext there. I love my wife. I love my family. Maybe there are some things more important than just being a cop. As important as that is, my family is critical. I can't sacrifice that for the job. So, it's a critical point about a life of significance and our families and legacy. And it's a beautiful subtext of this whole movie.
Gary Schneeberger:
As you say that I'm reminded to think back in the movie, right, how many times? Two or three times John pulls his wallet out and looks at pictures of his family. It's John and Holly and their two kids. And the smile on his face. There's a scene, and as I said I've watched this movie probably 50 times and I've never really focused on this scene I'm about to talk about here. When they first see each other in her office, her boss is walking him around and she walks into the office and surprises him. And it wasn't a planned meeting. It just happened. She didn't know he was in the office; he didn't know she was going to come into the office.
Gary Schneeberger:
And when he sees her, Bruce Willis does a great thing with John McClane's face, his face softens, he smiles this warm, relieved smile and it's in contrast to what he said earlier to Argyle when he's like, "Well why didn't you just move out here?" And he's like, "Oh, I can't. I got this backlog of scumbags in New York I got to put away." And he's all about the job, all about the job, all about the job. And you really get the sense, I really got the sense when I saw that smile, that relief on his face when he sees his wife again that's where John McClane realizes his life of significance and satisfaction is really going to come. Is that a fair observation?
Warwick Fairfax:
Absolutely. It is a great scene. And there is a sense of reconciliation even there. And he realizes just in seeing her it's like, "I need to be with my wife. I love her. I love my kids. We need to figure out a way to make that happen." I think we don't know but, in that scene, I have a feeling he'd probably already decided, "I'm not leaving. I'm going to find a way to be a cop here." Or I don't know. We don't really know but I wouldn't mind guessing that those thoughts had to have flooded his mind at that moment, "I love my wife. I love my family. I'm not going to sacrifice them." Does that make sense?
Gary Schneeberger:
Yeah, it certainly looks like it. It certainly looks like it on his face. That look when he looks at her it's like all the stress and the tension and LA's a weird place and all that stuff just floats away and all he sees is her. And it's really not to overplay it but in a movie that's a slam-bang action movie, it's a really beautiful scene of what makes John McClane's heart come alive. And I think that's very important to take away from this movie. Speaking of things you can take away from this movie. This is the time in the show that we like to come up with some points of reflection some things that you, the listener, can think about. About the things that are in the movie and the things that we've talked about here. And here's the fun part about this one. This is episode six on Die Hard and for the first five, we picked one. Here's one pointer of reflection.
Gary Schneeberger:
And Warwick and I were talking before we started our recording and we're like, "Oh, there's so many good ones." It's like the number of crucibles that hit John McClane. There's so many of them that there's so many good takeaway points of reflection. So, I'll go first with one I really think is important. I think it's important because I'm the guy that wears outfits to every one of these episodes. So, I have a little bit of a humorous streak, but I think one of the points, listener, to reflect on as you look at your crucibles is how can you use humor to move beyond your crucible. How can humor serve your significance? How can humor serve your bounce back? How can you use it, again, not to laugh at your circumstances, not to minimize the pain but to bleed off some of the hurt of the pain? To make things more tolerable to make things more relatable give yourself a little bit of a breather. Humor can be a great way to do that. So, think about that. How can you use humor to help you move beyond your crucible? Warwick, what's a reflection that you want to share with folks?
Warwick Fairfax:
Yeah. Love the thought of humor. That is such a great, great point. A couple of other thoughts I had is one how can you take one step at a time when it feels like everything is falling around you? Everything is falling to pieces. It seems like you might feel there is no way out. This is the end. There's no way up out of that pit. But as we often said the win of a time happens with just one small step. And certainly, in this movie John McClane, how do I keep how do the bad guy's way? Or how do I take out one bad guy? And so, what's one step you can take when you feel like everything is falling around you? So that's one thought.
Warwick Fairfax:
And so, the final thought, because we've talked a lot about fellow travelers in this movie with Al Powell and Argyle is who do you need on your journey to help you keep going? Often when you're at the bottom of the pit and things seem the most dire, that is when you most need fellow travelers. It may seem like taking one small step may feel like a massive leap over the Grand Canyon. No step is small, it may seem to you but having fellow travelers will help you make that one small step, will help you get up one more day and put one foot in front of the other. So, both taking one step at a time when everything's falling around you and then think about, "Who do I need on my team? Who do I need with me on my journey just to help me keep going when I feel like I can't do it alone?"
Gary Schneeberger:
When it comes to fellow travelers, and I'm thinking about Al Powell and Argyle as John McClane's fellow travelers here, it's important, isn't it to not just pick someone who's just like you? But not pick someone who's exactly not like you. In other words, there's a mix, Al Powell's a mix of both what John McClane has and maybe what John McClane doesn't. Argyle, definitely he's got a sense of the humor, but he doesn't have as much tread off his tires in life. It's important, right, to find people who have some things in common that you can talk through and talk about and share experiences with but also people that help you grow. That would seem to be really good resume things you want in your fellow travelers through a crucible.
Warwick Fairfax:
Yeah. I mean that's such a great point. It's probably worthy of more discussion at some point of what makes a good fellow traveler. That's a great point but I think just for summary's sake here, I think it helps to have folks who have maybe similar values and character. You don't want a conflict of values about, "Hey, it's all about number one. And if we can rip people off so long as it's legal it's good." Probably don't want to have that person as a fellow traveler if you are about a life of service and humility and trying to give back to others. So, you got to have people with a similar mindset, but they can come from different backgrounds, genders, ages, life experiences, and often some diversity of life experience and background can be helpful.
Warwick Fairfax:
People with different skills. Maybe you're a visionary and you need people who are implementers. Maybe you're artistic but you need somebody that's a finance person that can help you with the numbers. So, a diversity of experiences and skills is absolutely critical. Diversity of values probably not as much. I mean you want to feel like on the big things in life, in terms of values and outlook on it, you have some commonality. But diversity of experience and skills and background I think is critical. You absolutely don't want to have people that talk the same as you, look the same as you, have the same skills as you. That's not a team of fellow travelers that's not really going to be that helpful. It's a great point.
Gary Schneeberger:
People who can make you better, that's really what at the end of the day that's what John McClane had in Al Powell and Argyle. Well, I've said John McClane now probably 2875 times in this episode. So that's probably a good sign that, I would say the helicopter landed but the helicopters in the movie don't land. So, let's just say we've wrapped up this episode of Beyond the Crucible this episode of LIGHTS, CAMERA, CRUCIBLES part six on Die Hard. Next week we are going to lean into another very, very, very... He's got humor too. He's a very powerful and humorous hero and that's Ironman. That's where we're going to go after next week. So, as always, listener, it's not homework. It's a friendly suggestion that if you want to follow along and as Warwick and I talk through our Ironman episode you can watch we're going to watch the first Ironman the one that kicked off the Marvel cinematic universe the first one with Robert Downey Jr that started it all.
Gary Schneeberger:
And that birthed this multi, multi, multi billion-dollar franchise and changed again, in some ways... I said at the outset Die Hard changed the way action movies were made in the '80s. Ironman changed the way superhero movies are made and marketed for sure. So, until the next time we're together, listener, please remember that we do know that your crucible experiences are painful. We do know that they can take some time to get through. They can take a lot of effort. They often, usually take a lot of effort to get through. We know that you need some fellow travelers to help you get there. We understand that humor can be a great skill to bring to the table when you're going through it. But we also know it's not the end of your story, your crucible experience if you learn the lessons of it if you apply those lessons as you move on in pursuing a vision for your life that's focused on serving others. In fact, that crucible can lead to a chapter in your life that'll be the best chapter in your life because where it's going to end is going to be a life of significance.
With great power comes great responsibility. That’s what Peter Parker’s Uncle Ben tells him in the film we look at on this week’s episode of our summer series, LIGHTS, CAMERA, CRUCIBLES: What Our Favorite Movie Heroes Can Teach Us About Living a Life of Significance. That counsel and wisdom from Uncle Ben – and Aunt May – has been a key component of three different big-screen iterations of Spider-Man over the last 20 years. It’s a key Crucible Leadership lesson, too, one that Peter Parker learns enroute to fulfilling his calling as Spider-Man: the best life is one lived on purpose in service to others – not ourselves. That’s what responsibility and the character that undergirds it look like … and it doesn’t come easily to Spider-Man, or any of us.
Highlights
- Spider-Man’s cinematic history (2:55)
- Warwick’s renewed appreciation for Spider-Man and its lessons for overcoming failures and setbacks (5:14)
- Peter Parker’s constant barrage of crucibles from his classmates (6:05)
- How Uncle Ben and Aunt May give Peter a blueprint for rising above (11:51)
- Peter’s support of Mary Jane (15:29)
- Peter’s powers manifest themselves — and how he uses sight of his values (18:15)
- Lessons of forgiveness from Warwick’s Dad (25:58)
- Peter’s selfishness causes a life-altering crucible (28:34)
- The tragic death of Uncle Ben — and its impact on Peter (32:12)
- Aunt May’s words of encouragement (37:37)
- The beginning of Peter’s life of significance as Spider-Man (40:31)
- Significance is not something we find in public opinion (46:27)
- The toughest crucibles hurt us in our hearts (49:12)
- New Yorkers defend Spider-Man against the Green Goblin (56:13)
- Spider-Man’s character even as his nemesis dies (1:01:08)
- Peter’s sacrifice for significance (1:03:31)
- The most recent Spider-Man’s mentor: Tony Stark/Iron Man (1:08:27)
- A question for reflection (1:12:52)
Transcript
Warwick Fairfax:
Welcome to Beyond the Crucible. I'm Warwick Fairfax, the founder of Crucible Leadership.
Ben Parker:
Peter, these are the years when a man changes into the man he's going to become the rest of his life. Just be careful who you change into.
Ben Parker:
This guy, Flash Thompson, he probably deserved what happened, but just because you can beat him up, doesn't give you the right to. Remember, with great power comes great responsibility.
Gary Schneeberger:
With great power comes great responsibility. That's what Peter Parker's Uncle Ben tells him in the film we look at on this week's episode of our summer series LIGHTS, CAMERA, CRUCIBLES: What Our Favorite Movie Heroes Can Teach Us About Living a Life of Significance.
Gary Schneeberger:
Hi, I'm Gary Schneeberger, co-host of the show. That counsel and wisdom from Uncle Ben and Aunt May has been a key component of three different big screen iterations of Spider-Man over the last 20 years. It's a key Crucible Leadership lesson Warwick and I discuss as we unpack the original Spider-Man, staring Tobey Maguire, from 2002. Peter Parker learns, en route to becoming Spider-Man, that the best life is one lived on purpose, in service to others, not ourselves. That's what responsibility and the character that undergirds it look like, and it doesn't come easily or cheaply.
Gary Schneeberger:
If you're aware of Spider-Man, listener, you're aware that there've been several iterations of the character through the years. In just the last 20 years, there have been three different iterations of Spider-Man. That's because, just to give you some background, he's the most popular character in the Marvel Universe, Marvel Comic Book Universe, in the history of Marvel Comics, but he's not owned by Marvel Studios, the people who put out Captain America and The Avengers and Thor and Ironman. His film rights were sold to Columbia Pictures before they formed Marvel Studios. So the Spider-Man movies, the first five Spider-Man movies featuring two iterations, were made by Columbia Pictures in conjunction with Marvel Studios, but Marvel didn't own the rights to the character. So one of the reasons why the character has to keep being rebooted is as an origin story, he's a high school kid, actors get older. So they start with one actor then they have to reboot the series to get a younger actor in place who doesn't look quite so different from the beginning.
Gary Schneeberger:
So just to, again, a brief history of where we're at with Spider-Man, the first series ran as a trilogy from 2002, that was 20 years ago, to 2007. The actor Tobey Maguire starred as the hero in that one.
Gary Schneeberger:
Then from 2012 to 2014, they rebooted it just five years after Tobey Maguire was done in 2007, the actor Andrew Garfield assumed the role in two films, in a pair of movies.
Gary Schneeberger:
The character was rebooted one more time in 2016, that's just two years after Andrew Garfield's last movie, but there were two major differences about that reboot. Marvel had entered a partnership with Columbia to use Spider-Man in their cinematic universe, which by that time, by 2016, was just an enormous blot out the sun success with their Marvel Cinematic Universe films. So Marvel got a chance to work with Columbia to make that Spider-Man in 2016, which allowed them to bring in all the other Marvel characters.
Gary Schneeberger:
The second thing is that that reboot in 2016 did not feature Spider-Man's backstory. He just sort of showed up, already Spider-Man, he was still young, but he showed up already Spider-Man and dove into the action. And his first appearance in a Marvel Studios film was in Captain America: Civil War. And he's played there by actor Tom Holland. He's also played by Tom Holland in a couple of Avengers movies, Infinity War and Endgame, and he also has had three of his own films. So he's appeared six times in Marvel Cinematic Universe, this new version of Spider-Man.
Gary Schneeberger:
All of that to say, important character, big history of the character, a lot of stuff to unpack, but where we're going to spend our time today is in that first movie, 20 years ago, in 2002. And that's Spider-Man, the original Spider-Man, starring Tobey Maguire. Because, I think, and we've discussed this, it's the most robust origin story and contains the greatest concentration of takeaways for us to guide us through our crucibles and onto the path to stay on the path of leading a life of significance. And Warwick, you and I talked about this before we started recording. And you indicated that it's been a while since you've seen this 2002 movie and were quite impressed with it, right?
Warwick Fairfax:
Yeah, it really has. I saw the 2002 and Spider-Man 2 and 3 afterwards. And like you, I've always loved superheroes, but not only is this a great action movie, but as we'll see and unfold in this discussion, there are some tremendous lessons about overcoming failure, adversity, negative self talk, encouragement from others. There are some great Crucible Leadership lessons about coming back from very tough circumstances. So it really is, the 2002 version of Spider-Man, it's a great film to discuss in the context of crucible leadership.
Gary Schneeberger:
Yeah. A lot of that comes from the origin story, the seeds are planted. What I love about that is there's crucible lessons in the origin story, and then crucible lessons in his journey as Spider-Man on his way to a life of significance.
Gary Schneeberger:
So the very first scene that we get in Spider-Man 2002 is a glimpse of some of Peter Parker who's the alter ego, the high school student who becomes Spider-Man, some of his teenage crucibles. In the very first scene we meet him, he's running after his school bus, right? He's missed his school bus. Apparently it happens a lot because all the students on the bus are making fun of him. Like, "Oh, not again, Parker." The bus driver's having a little fun of his expense by not slowing down. And as everybody kind of mocks him from inside, he finally gets on the bus, but they continue to mock him.
Gary Schneeberger:
He gets on the bus. He's not allowed to sit next to certain people. They're like, "No, don't sit here." Even kids who don't look like the "popular." kids don't want anything to do with Peter Parker. They call him lame. One of whom is the boyfriend of the proverbial girl next door who Peter admits in a voiceover he's been in love with since age six. Her boyfriend trips him and he falls flat on his face in the bus. A really painful, hard scene to watch because just kids can be cruel to each other, but sets this up well as this is a young man, this is a kid, a teenager, who knows his way around crucibles, right?
Warwick Fairfax:
Yeah, absolutely, Gary. This is a character that a lot of people, frankly, a lot of us can identify with. There aren't that many people in which high school was their glory years. You were the captain of the football team, the debate team, straight A student. Very few of us were kind of all-star, Mr./Ms. Popular, that kind of thing. Usually it's somewhat less than that. And so here he is, this poor guy, not particularly strong or agile or athletic.
Gary Schneeberger:
He wears big thick glasses. He wears big thick glasses.
Warwick Fairfax:
Right, exactly. Sort of lame, nerdy, everybody makes fun of him. He doesn't even seem like he has a couple of fellow nerds to hang out with.
Gary Schneeberger:
Right.
Warwick Fairfax:
It just seems like he's in a category of one.
Gary Schneeberger:
Right.
Warwick Fairfax:
So it's a pretty dismal, despondent life at that point, which a lot of folks can identify with. Very few people say, "High school was the best years of my life." It's usually, "I survived high school," for most of us.
Gary Schneeberger:
Right. And he's also very good at science, which is a front of the line pass to being loved in high school, right?
Warwick Fairfax:
Exactly.
Gary Schneeberger:
Right.
Warwick Fairfax:
Exactly right.
Gary Schneeberger:
As opposed to being a football star, Mary Jane's boyfriend's a football star. So the taunting of Peter Parker continues in this wonderful first few scenes when the bus arrives at its destination, finally. And the destination is a field trip to a science lab where spiders are being studied. And they're being genetically enhanced, we hear, from the woman who's speaking to the kids who are here on the field trip.
Gary Schneeberger:
Peter's a photographer for the student newspaper. He is trying to take pictures and the taunting continues. People keep bumping him. These bullies keep bumping him while he's trying to take pictures to ruin his photographs. And of all the heroes that we've discussed so far, and all the ones that we will discuss, I think it's pretty safe to say that no other hero that we're going to talk about has a life as beset by crucibles as Peter Parker does. He has a lot of them, they're varied and they're kind of constant, right?
Warwick Fairfax:
Yeah. It's certainly up there. Life is not easy. Here he is, he's trying to take photographs for the school paper of these fascinating spiders, and he keeps getting bumped. In fact, I don't think one photo that he took worked out. He ends up taking some photos that do, as we'll see, of Mary Jane, but yeah, life is pretty tough. He doesn't seem actually despondent or depressed. It's just, "Hey, this is my lot in life and oh well," but yeah, life isn't looking too good at this point for poor, young Peter Parker.
Gary Schneeberger:
Something then changes big time while he's taking pictures of Mary Jane. That is one of the radioactive spiders that they've messed with its DNA to implant in it the traits of six or seven different spiders bites him on the hand while he's taking a picture of Mary Jane Watson who's the girl next door that he's in love with. And it will turn out to be a shining moment, of what we stay on the show all the time, right? It didn't happen to you, it happened for you. What ends up happening for Peter is that he's given the strength, the ability to shoot strong webs from his wrists. He has a spider sense that warns him of danger. These are all things that he will learn throughout the course of the movie to apply to what will become a life of significance, but it doesn't start off that way at first.
Gary Schneeberger:
Another one of the crucibles that Peter endured before even we meet him, we find out, is the death of his parents when he was six years old. We don't know how they died. He just mentions that his parents had passed away. And he's been raised since then by his Uncle Ben and his Aunt May. Sidebar, Marvel comics did a great job in naming those characters all those years ago. Who sounds nicer and sweeter than Uncle Ben and Aunt May? It's perfect.
Gary Schneeberger:
And our first glimpse that Peter has a pathway to move beyond his crucibles is shown through the love and character of those two people, of Uncle Ben and Aunt May. Ben's been laid off from his job as an electrician. He's trying to find another job. He's not depressed, but he's kind of resigned to the fact that it's going to be tough, but May, his wife, Peter's aunt, says to him, "You're the most responsible man I know." She says she knows he will find a job and they will, once again, overcome their crucibles. "Somehow," she tells them, "We survive." And that, I think, is a key Crucible Leadership truth. You need to be surrounded by supporters who believe in you, who know your character and your worth to encourage you when the setbacks and failures come. May does that for Ben and they both do that for Peter. That was one of the first really big a-ha Crucible Leadership moments in watching this movie again that hit me.
Warwick Fairfax:
Yeah, it's a great point, Gary. When you think about poor young Peter Parker, you lose your parents at age six, it would be normal for most kids to grow up very angry, maybe they would act out and violent or drugs, alcohol, substance abuse. That's possible and maybe even likely. So why didn't Peter Parker go down that road? He may not have been Mr. Popular, but he wasn't suicidal. He was just, "Yeah, life is not easy, but oh well." Well, that's quite a victory to have an oh well attitude given losing parents at such a young age.
Warwick Fairfax:
And I think the reason that he starts off with some character advantages is having just a wonderful aunt and uncle in Aunt May and Uncle Ben. They were able, throughout their lives and in the movie, to teach him character lessons and sort of imbue a sense of character and right and wrong into him. It'll be tested, he'll have some challenges, maybe a few setbacks, but you can not underestimate enough having people that support and believe in you, at any age, certainly a young age, it really sets him up very well. But life without Uncle Ben and Aunt May likely would've been radically different. And Peter Parker would've been almost inevitably a very different, probably angry, bitter young man, you would think, without those two. So those two people, in some sense, sort of saved him and set him on the path to success in the true meaning of that word.
Gary Schneeberger:
Yeah. And you mentioned young people, I fell in love with Spider-Man as a young people, as a kid and reading the comic books. It was sort of a breath catching moment for me when in this newest iteration with Tom Holland as Spider-Man, in this movie, Aunt May is in her 70s, in the current version of Spider-Man, Aunt May is Marisa Tomei, who's younger than I am. So when I saw that, I'm like, "Oh my gosh, this character was who was always this matronly elderly woman in the comic books is now this woman who was a young actress and who's younger than me." That was a crucible moment for me, as a Spider-Man fan, when that happened. But I digress, I digress.
Gary Schneeberger:
Peter reveals the character that Aunt May and Uncle Ben have baked into him when he has a conversation with Mary Jane, the girl next door who he's in love with secretly. After her father berates her and insults her, as he does quite a bit, she's unsure about her future and her popularity. She's a popular girl at school, but that's all kind of emotional artifice, it's a facade, but Peter tells her that she should indeed pursue her dream of acting. He says this, "You're going to light up Broadway." He's the only one be who believes in her. And I think this is another truth we can take away. We all need, don't we, Peter Parkers to help us turn our visions into reality. And that's what he does for Mary Jane, for sure.
Warwick Fairfax:
Yeah. It's such a good point, Gary. As we look at a young Peter Parker in this movie, yes, he has physical superpowers, but he has the emergence of some character superpowers. He has the sense of character, of right and wrong and justice. And throughout the movie, has tremendous empathy, a tremendous ability to encourage. I can't think of too many superheroes with his level of empathy or ability to encourage on a consistent basis and to see the best in people.
Gary Schneeberger:
Right.
Warwick Fairfax:
Almost sort of like a foresight. He affirms her acting ability. He says, "Sometimes you know people and you know where they're headed." This is all in their backyards. Their houses sort of are next to each other. And as you say, he says she's going to light up Broadway. Now, Mary Jane has the boyfriend of the high school quarterback, star football player.
Gary Schneeberger:
Right. He's the big jock who probably isn't good at science.
Warwick Fairfax:
Yeah. She's attractive so why does he go out with her? Because she's an attractive high school girl. I don't think it's because of her wonderful character. And so that's what a lot of guys in school see. But yeah, she is an attractive young girl, but Peter sees a lot more than that. He sees who she is as a person. She feels seen in the best sense of that word. Her character, her goals, just that sense of affirmation.
Gary Schneeberger:
Right. Her ability.
Warwick Fairfax:
Her ability. That sense of affirmation. I don't think she's ever had a guy say that to her. So she looks at him almost in this quizzical... And Peter was so shy that he couldn't say boo to her. He could never even open his mouth. So it's a tremendous scene, as somebody that's very shy, but just really thinking of somebody else in these wonderful, affirming, empathetic words. It's a great scene.
Gary Schneeberger:
Well, and I'm glad that you brought up her boyfriend Flash Thompson. I'm going to say it, I don't think we've ever said this on Beyond the Crucible, but he's a jerk. Flash Thompson's a bit of a jerk. He's the guy who tripped Peter on the bus. And Peter ends up getting into a fight with him at school, as his powers begin to manifest themselves in the cafeteria. His web fluid shoots out of his wrist. It ends up knocking a lunch tray into Flash Thompson and he gets food all over himself. And then he wants to fight Peter because Peter's a weak kid and he's going to be able to beat him up.
Gary Schneeberger:
Well, Peter's changed a bit since he's been bitten by that spider. He gets into a fight with Flash at school. He wins easily, demonstrating some of those powers that he now has, strength, his spider sense of something bad's going to happen, agility. And even at that time, some people cheer for him, some of the kids who are watching the fight cheer for him, the underdog kids who maybe have been picked on by Flash too, but Flash's pals and all the popular kids, they kind of think Peter's even weirder than they thought before.
Gary Schneeberger:
And it's in that moment, in winning that fight, what happens after he wins that fight is where Peter begins to, you hinted at it earlier, begins to kind of wobble a little bit in his character. He begins to wobble a little bit in that goodness that Aunt May and Uncle Ben have tried to place into him. He's jealous of Flash Thompson's car when Flash comes up to meet Mary Jane outside of her house, which is right next to Peter's house. And he sees this really great car he just got as a gift. So Peter thinks, "If I get a car, maybe I could get Mary Jane."
Gary Schneeberger:
It's unspoken, but we next see him looking through the paper at ads for cars that are for sale, used cars. And he keeps looking at, "That's too expensive. That's too expensive. That's too expensive." And he finally lands at one that's under $3,000. He thinks, "Okay, that might work for me," but he has no money so he can't buy it. But next to those ads is this big ad that says $3,000 for amateur wrestlers. And he thinks, "Hmm, I just got in a fight with the most popular captain of the football team at school and beat him pretty easily." He's pretty certain his powers are going to help him in pursuit of this $3,000 so he decides he's going to go ahead and do it.
Gary Schneeberger:
He makes himself this kind of amateur suit, which is kind of funny looking. He tells Uncle Ben he's going to the library to study and he catches a ride with Uncle Ben. And it's in that ride to what he's actually being dropped off, so he can go to the wrestling match, that Uncle Ben has a heart to heart with Peter. And unpack that, that was in the clip at the start of the show, where Uncle Ben is talking to Peter about some things that concerned him, but that's a moving, meaningful clip, not just in the context of this film, but in the context of our lives, all of us, as we look to avoid crucibles, overcome crucibles and lead a life of significance. So talk a little bit about why that scene with Uncle Ben and what Uncle Ben says to Peter is so powerful.
Warwick Fairfax:
So this is a pivotal moment in the film. One of the things we say often on this series about superheroes and sports heroes in Beyond the Crucible is when you're given great powers, yes, there's great responsibility, but there's temptations. It can either, in Star Wars language, make you go to the dark side or the forces of light. And so it's tempting, initially, as you say, Peter wobbles a bit. He kind of enjoys going from nerdy to being strong, athletic, agile. He enjoys being able to pound his nemesis, the bully, Flash Thompson, the captain of the football team. He kind of gets a kick out of it.
Gary Schneeberger:
Who knew, by the way, that spiders have 20/20 vision, because he gets to take his glasses off too. His eyes become perfect.
Warwick Fairfax:
Exactly. There you go, some benefits. So yeah, it's stunning. So here he is trying to earn some money to get a Flash car to impress the girl. And it just seems like he's beginning to lose sight of the tremendous opportunity that he has. And initially he's getting a little self centered. And so Uncle Ben just gives him the talk of his life, this incredible wisdom in which he says, "These are the years, high school years, as a young person, that determine who you will be for the rest of your life." He then says, in the quote we saw in the clip, he says, "Remember, with great power comes great responsibility." He says, "Just because you can beat somebody up, doesn't mean that you have a right to," as in Peter beating up the bully in high school.
Warwick Fairfax:
So basically this sense that the gifts and talents, we can either use it for our own wealth, power, to be superior to others, or we can use it to serve our fellow human beings, men and women that we come in contact with. We can either lead a life of significance, a life on purpose, dedicated to serving others, or we can lead a narcissistic life, focused on our own aggrandizement and wealth and power.
Gary Schneeberger:
Yeah.
Warwick Fairfax:
And we'll see his superhero nemesis chooses the opposite path, but this is a pivotal moment for Peter Parker, which path is he going to choose?
Gary Schneeberger:
Right. And what's really interesting about that scene that you just talked about and that we played the clip for at the beginning of the show is that Uncle Ben has no idea that any of this stuff is going on underneath the surface. Uncle Ben has no idea Peter's been bitten by a spider and now has the powers, the proportionate powers of a spider. He has no idea of that. He has no idea that he's not going to study, that he's going to run off to this wrestling match to try to make $3,000 to use his powers for his own gain. He has none of that context, Uncle Ben has, but what he sees in his nephew, in the boy he's raised, he sees he's veering off course in other ways.
Gary Schneeberger:
There's a scene earlier on where he was going to help Uncle Ben paint the house, the kitchen. And he says, "Hey, don't be late." And Peter leaves, "I won't be late," but Peter spends the time instead testing out his spider powers. He's climbing walls. He's doing all those things. And he forgets all about helping Uncle Ben.
Gary Schneeberger:
We haven't talked about this in advance, but that scene so speaks to the power or the character of his Uncle Ben that rather than yell at him for not showing up to help out, his 68 year old uncle paint the kitchen, he leaves a warm food in the oven and writes a note where he calls him Michelangelo because that's what he called him about helping him paint. There's this loving response to Peter's irresponsibility. And that's what he's drilling into in this conversation that you just talked about, where he's saying, "With great power comes great responsibility," even though he doesn't know how great the power is that Peter has. It shows the insight that those closest to us can have to our character and sometimes that we might stumble through it and we should listen.
Warwick Fairfax:
Absolutely. And I think it goes to show the value of people in our life. It could be a mom, a dad, an aunt, an uncle, close friends, family members. It could be a teacher in school. There are people that can change our lives by not just their love, but by their words. It can change your life. It makes me think of certainly a pivotal moment in my life that listeners will be familiar with, and it's in my book, Crucible Leadership. In 1976, when as most listeners know, I grew up in a large 150-year-old family media business in Australia. Newspapers, TV, radio, it was very big. In 1976, some other family members shooed my father out as chairman. It absolutely crushed him that that would happen.
Warwick Fairfax:
And I remember having a conversation with him and he said, "I need to forgive them for what they did because it's the right thing to do." I forget if he said, "That's what God," or, "That's what Jesus would have me do." "And it's the right thing for you," because he saw me as the heir apparent and he wanted to try to make sure that one day that I'd be the leading figure in the company. Was it perfect? I don't know. When he said, "I'm going to make the decision to forgive other family members for what they did, throwing me out as chairman."
Warwick Fairfax:
That was one of the most powerful life lessons I've ever learned and I was 15 at the time. I was probably a little younger than Peter Parker here. It was burned into my psyche, just the sense of character, of doing the right thing no matter what, of having integrity, and just the importance of forgiveness. That was a lesson that was burned into my soul for the rest of my life. So in a sense, that's the moment that Peter Parker has from his Uncle Ben, it's the kind of lesson, like the one I had, that just burns into your soul.
Gary Schneeberger:
Unfortunately, right off the bat, when it happens, when that conversation with Uncle Ben happens, Peter doesn't quite get it. Peter actually gets upset with Uncle Ben for lecturing him, quote, unquote. He actually says to him at one point, Uncle Ben backs up and says, "Okay, I know I'm not your father." And Peter cuts him off and says, "Well, then stop acting like it." And it just devastates Uncle Ben, the last moment that they have together before Peter leaves the car and goes off to wrestle is Uncle Ben is clearly wounded and Peter's angry and they part.
Gary Schneeberger:
And Peter does go on to the wrestling match and he wins. And another thing that was extremely exciting to me as a fan of professional wrestling when I was a young man, the wrestler who he beats is played by the wrestler Macho Man Randy Savage, and he's just perfect. Total aside to what we're talking about, but he's just this brutal. He's beating everybody up. One guy he beats up leaves the ring and is like, "I can't feel my legs." There's all kinds of that stuff going on. But he gets in the ring with this kid in this weird costume that's got spider stuff on it. And the kid, Peter Parker, beats him.
Gary Schneeberger:
So Peter goes backstage to collect his $3,000 from the promoter. And the promoter gives him 100 bucks, to which Peter negotiates into 200 bucks, but he says, "Hey, I was going to pay you three grand for three minutes and you beat him early." Peter was so strong, he beat Bonesaw McGraw, he beat him in like two minutes, so he gets cheated.
Warwick Fairfax:
I've got to say, that's a great name.
Gary Schneeberger:
It is.
Warwick Fairfax:
Right? For a wrestler, Bonesaw McGraw.
Gary Schneeberger:
Yeah.
Warwick Fairfax:
It doesn't get any better than that.
Gary Schneeberger:
It may be better than Macho Man Randy Savage actually, but yeah, it's quite good. And so what ends up happening then is Peter walks away and he's mad. He's just been cheated out of this money that he thinks is going to make his way to have a car and then woo Mary Jane, and he's got a couple hundred bucks in his pocket, which is nothing. But then the promoter gets robbed. A thief runs in, steals the bag that has all the money from the gate receipts from this wrestling match and he runs off. And as he's running off at the elevator, he bumps, he doesn't bump into Peter, he runs past Peter Parker. And Peter just looks at him and the guy says, "Thanks," and he gets in the elevator and goes. And I know you were kind of struck by the dialogue that went on between Peter and the promoter, both in the promoter's office before the robbery, burglary, and then after when Peter doesn't stop the robber.
Warwick Fairfax:
Yeah. It's really one of the saddest moments in the movie. It's almost a biblical Peter moment when Jesus is being sort of harangued by the religious leaders of the Sanhedrin and they're putting him on trial. And people ask Peter, "Weren't you one of his gang?" And Peter's asked three times, "No, never knew him. Don't know who he is."
Gary Schneeberger:
Right.
Warwick Fairfax:
It's the lowest moment of Peter's life. And it's somewhat similar in that earlier on, often we hear the voices of evil and the voices of good, depending on your religious or philosophical paradigm. We can learn lessons from our good mentors, like an Uncle Ben, well here, unfortunately, young Peter Parker was mentored briefly by this promoter. So this promoter, when he's going to give him $200, not $3000, the promoter says, "Hey, I missed the part where it's my problem."
Gary Schneeberger:
Right, right.
Warwick Fairfax:
It's like, "Look, you didn't finish the full three minutes, not my problem, okay?" So he's just been discipled in a sense, in maybe not evil, but poor character. So then later on, when the wresting promoter says to Peter Parker, "Hey, why didn't you stop him?" And Peter shoots back, "Hey, I missed a part where it's my problem."
Gary Schneeberger:
Right.
Warwick Fairfax:
He uses the promoter's words against him. It's the self centered, "Hey, why should I care for my fellow men or women?" It's like, "Not my problem." So he's almost got a bit of discipleship, a bit of mentoring in it's all about number one, narcissism, nobody else matters, get rich. Everybody else, who cares? It was a sad moment, as we'll see, that comes back to bite him in a major way.
Gary Schneeberger:
Yeah. And that bite's going to be worse than the spider bite for sure. And the other thing that makes it sad is that that happens no more than a couple hours after Uncle Ben has given him that great advice, "With great power comes great responsibility." And Peter, in that moment at the elevator, fails his first test of wielding great power with great responsibility. And as you said, that will come back to bite him. It comes back to bite him when we find out in the next scene that the thief carjacks Uncle Ben and shoots him to death. Peter arrives just in time to see Uncle Ben die. And the filmmakers do a great job. There's no final words that Uncle Ben gets to say to Peter or Peter gets to say to Uncle Ben. He recognizes Peter and then he dies. So there's no chance for Peter to apologize or for Uncle Ben to offer forgiveness. It's just Peter's then, we know, is just stuck with this hole in his heart. And remembering that the last thing he ever really spoke to Uncle Ben was, "You're not my father. Quit acting like it."
Gary Schneeberger:
Peter is distraught after that, obviously, and he chases down the carjacker. Who once he gets him, he sees the carjacker is the man he let leave in the elevator. He discovers that this carjacker, he could have stopped the carjacker before the carjacking ever happened, but it wasn't his problem then. He had just gotten rooked out of some money and he was going to pay back that unkindness to the promoter. He did and that robber then got away, hijacked Uncle Ben, shot him to death. And Peter then begins to, as Spider-Man, begins to really pound on the guy, beat him. We get the idea that he intends to kill him. The guy says, "Show me some mercy." And Peter's like, "Just like he showed my Uncle Ben." He takes the mask off that he's wearing, the kind of amateurish mask he's wearing, so that the robber can see, "I'm the guy that you ran past in the promoters building." And he's like, "Don't kill me." And Peter's like, "I'll show you mercy like you showed my Uncle Ben."
Gary Schneeberger:
We don't know, another great decision by the filmmaker, we don't know if Peter was going to kill him or not. He doesn't get the chance, the guy trips on something and falls out of an upper story window to his death. But that scene, again, really brings home the power of, as you were saying, "Tell me again how this is my problem." Now he realizes it is his problem, because it's just cost him his beloved uncle.
Warwick Fairfax:
Yeah. Sometimes when you say, "It's not my problem," it can mean maybe people are hurt that you don't know, but sometimes it may mean people are hurt that you do know, and you love and care about. You never know kind of what's going to happen. So it's a very sad scene. And Peter is now really saddled with this sense of guilt, of, "Gee, it's my responsibility that my beloved uncle died. I had a tough conversation with him, said he wasn't my real dad. So I ended things in a bad way, didn't have a chance to reconcile. And because I was so self centered and self focused, I let this bad guy not just hurt and kill some person I don't know, but somebody I love as much as anybody in the world other than maybe Aunt May." So obviously he feels, understandably, incredibly guilty and responsible for what happened.
Warwick Fairfax:
So sometimes you'll make horrific mistakes in your life. And clearly this is a big one. Is he responsible for Uncle Ben's death? That's probably a bit harsh, but he feels that, and that's the point. And so really the test, as we'll see in the rest of the movie, is this going to destroy, this crucible? It's almost maybe one if not the toughest crucible. He is feeling he's responsible for Uncle Ben's death. Is that guilt going to drive him to narcissism, to alcohol, to substance abuse? It'd be very understandable if it did, completely understandable. Or will he choose to learn the lessons of his crucible, let it refine him, and somehow use that pain for a purpose to help others? It's a pivotal moment and we'll see which choice he makes. Is it to go to the dark side of self destruction or to the light of really empowering, encouraging, and helping others? It's a critical, pivotal moment in his life.
Gary Schneeberger:
And one of the things that really helps cement his decision on where he goes is that after Uncle Ben's funeral, he has a conversation with his other guardian, with his Aunt May. Peter's distraught and Aunt May doesn't know exactly why. She doesn't know anything about Spider-Man, anything about the wrestling match, but she knows Peter's upset. And she understands that because of how important Uncle Ben has been to his life. But she takes the time, again, the power of encouragement. She says this to him, "You loved him and he loved you." She says to Peter, "He never doubted the man you'd grow into, how you were meant for great things. You won't disappoint him." That's exactly the kind of support and belief we need to offer others as they look to regain their footing after a crucible, to help them see and take aim at a life of significance. That's what Aunt May does to him, for him, in his darkest, most desperate moment.
Gary Schneeberger:
And it changes, exactly as you said, who knows where he could have gone without that exhortation, without that truth from Aunt May, which basically it's Aunt May acting as a surrogate for Uncle Ben, not knowing what transpired in the car, but basically saying, "He loved you. He believed in you," fill in the blanks. "He's not mad at you for losing your cool in the car with him and saying hurtful things. He knows the kind of man you're going to grow into." And that does indeed change everything for Peter, right?
Warwick Fairfax:
Absolutely. I guess the thought that occurs to me is that we all need Aunt Mays in our life.
Gary Schneeberger:
Yep.
Warwick Fairfax:
We need people in our lowest moments when we might be in the edge of a self destructive spree. I think most of us have been at points in our life where we felt bad about ourselves or bad about what happened to us from somebody else. And it's very easy to get into a self-destructive spiral that can be difficult to get out of. Having somebody like an Aunt May in our darkest times, as we say in Crucible Leadership, at the bottom of the pit, to say, "You are worth it. You are valued. I love you. I believe in you. And your beloved uncle also loved you and believed in you. And you won't disappoint him. You didn't disappoint him." That kind of belief and encouragement and support when we hate ourselves, we're at the bottom of the pit, we just hate life, it's not going to necessarily change us overnight, but those drops of encouragement, of grace, of forgiveness, of belief, they can help give you fuel to begin to climb out of the pit and really move towards the light, to a life of significance. But it's not easy to do without Aunt Mays.
Gary Schneeberger:
Right.
Warwick Fairfax:
But having an Aunt May is sort of a turbo charger that greatly increases your ability to get out of the pit and to move into a more positive direction. It's a great scene, and yeah, we all need Aunt Mays in our life.
Gary Schneeberger:
And to your point that Peter begins to live out his life of significance right after that conversation. He does it by patrolling the streets of New York at night and stopping criminals in the act. Now, he dubs himself Spider-Man and more crucibles come. The publisher of the newspaper, J. Jonah Jameson, the Daily Bugle publisher. He labels him a menace and a threat, but he's just trying to sell newspapers. It turns some in the city against him, but Spider-Man doesn't let it bother him. Peter doesn't let it bother him.
Gary Schneeberger:
He also then must encounter and face his first super villain, not just guys who are robbing banks or robbing stores. He's got to face a super villain, the Green Goblin. And the Green Goblin was driven violent and mad by a formula he developed and took himself to try to win a government contract. The Goblin, and Peter doesn't know this, but the Goblin is the father of his best friend, Harry Osborn. The Goblin is industrialist Norman Osborn, who has taken a bit of a shine to Peter. Peter doesn't know he's the Goblin at this point, but he's been driven mad by his own creation because he was greedy and he wanted to win this government contract.
Gary Schneeberger:
And what's interesting about his character, the Green Goblin, is he's a bit like the Joker from the Batman movies, in one of the Batman movies staring Christian Bale in The Dark Knight, where Heath Ledger won an Oscar for his portrayal of the Joker. Batman is asking Alfred what makes someone like the Joker, the Joker. And Alfred says, "Some guys just like to set the world on fire and watch it burn."
Gary Schneeberger:
And that's kind of where the Green Goblin comes from, is Norman Osborn gets a little bit more mad, but he recognizes after a battle with Peter, that Peter's got some, or that Spider-Man, he doesn't know what's Peter yet, that Spider-Man has some skills that could benefit him in whatever the scheme is to make money and harness power. And he tries to turn Peter over to his side. He says that people will hate him despite all of the good he's doing and he asks him why he bothers. And I love Peter's response, especially now at this point in the show, Peter's response when he says why he bothers to do good, even though people are going to hate him eventually.
Gary Schneeberger:
Peter's response to the Green Goblin is, "Because it's the right thing to do." Well, you just said that, Warwick, like five minutes ago, when you were talking about when you asked your dad why he forgave those family members who threw him out of the company, because it's the right thing to do. And that's the kind of character that Peter has here, now developing.
Gary Schneeberger:
That's what we mean when we say your values must undergird all you do as you move beyond your crucible toward life of significance, have an anchor for your soul. Peter Parker, Spider-Man, has that anchor for his soul, or he would not have been able to answer the Green Goblin that way about why he does it. He understands it's not about anything more than what's right and what's wrong and that's what he's trying to pursue. Right?
Warwick Fairfax:
Yeah, absolutely. This is a fascinating scene and we've got Norman Osborn as the Goblin against Peter Parker as Spider-Man. And not only is it a test of physical superhero strength, it's a battle of character and it's a battle of the forces of evil versus the forces of light.
Warwick Fairfax:
And it's interesting, just some of the backstory, as you were saying, with Norman Osborne, he's all about himself, about ego, about money. He's desperate to get this big government contract, but the Defense Department, the top generals in the Pentagon, they don't really believe in what he's doing. They think the guy's a bit of a fruitcake. And so they're just waiting to pull a plug. And so desperate is he and so greedy that he does something insane and uses this kind of serum on himself that turns him into a madman. One of the key scientists says there are side effects to this that can potentially turn you insane and psychotic. It's a risk, but the guy is too self absorbed, narcissistic. And indeed, it turned him insane, and he hears these voices, almost voices of evil.
Warwick Fairfax:
And so here he is talking to Peter and just trying to really not just fight him physically, but almost like the devil in the Bible, he's just trying to tempt him, saying, "People like to see heroes fail so why bother?" As you say, and Spider-Man replies, "Well, because it's the right thing to do." He tempts him saying, "Hey, we could make a great team," but Peter's chosen a different path. The Green Goblin is now all about self destruction, hurting and killing people, and his own tortured, insane, psychotic self. Peter has really turned to the light, if you will, to help people. So he won't be tamped. He won't use his forces to hurt people. He'll use his superpowers to help people. So really it's a fight of physical strength, superhero strength, but it's also a fight of character, a fight of evil against good. So this battle is fought on multiple levels.
Gary Schneeberger:
Yeah. And that scene is also interesting because it spotlights another key truth about Crucible Leadership. This idea that the Green Goblin is saying, "They're going to hate you anyway." Right? "They love to watch heroes fall. They build you up so they can knock you down." And one of the things that you say a lot, that we say a lot on the show, and that you say a lot through Crucible Leadership is don't let the naysayers deter you or adulation distract you as you are executing your vision for a life of significance. Significance is not something you find in public opinion. Don't test the winds and go with the way the winds are blowing. It's something you find within. And that's what Peter calls on when the Goblin tries to tempt him. He's learned that lesson from Uncle Ben.
Warwick Fairfax:
It's such a great point. One of the most important things I think listeners would do well to ponder on is if you're looking to be the hero and save the day and the knight in armor on the white horse, danger lies there. Some would say, with some degree of truth and veracity, maybe I had a bit of a hero complex when I launched the $2.25 billion takeover in my family's 150-year-old media company way back in 1987, and this, not consciously, but I felt like that company was being run by some other folks in my family, and others, not along the ideals of the founder. Whether it's true or not is another story.
Warwick Fairfax:
But there was a little bit of that savior hero complex there, I've got to confess, but yeah, you've got to watch that because certainly I've been through periods where some people said, "Oh, you could be one of the greatest Fairfaxes since the founder, John Fairfax." And others said, "We've been praying for a person of faith to rise up in the heart of the media for decades." And all that's pretty heavy, tempting stuff. And then others at the time and subsequently were like, "Well, you single handedly destroyed a 150-year-old company."
Gary Schneeberger:
Right.
Warwick Fairfax:
"You're this erratic kid, at the time, who could have had it all, threw it all away. So you're just impetuous and showed poor judgment." And maybe sometimes there's a little bit of truth in either stereotype, but you can not be defined either by the adulation you receive or by the condemnation. Ultimately your sense of self-worth should be in your faith, in your values, in the core of your beliefs that are at the heart of your soul. That's what should govern your sense of self-worth, not the adulating, because you're the greatest thing since Jesus or you're the worst person that's ever lived, both are probably wrong.
Warwick Fairfax:
So you've got to anchor your belief and your self-worth in something beyond public opinion. And that's what Peter Parker does. He's seen as a vigilante, I think as you mentioned, the editor of the Daily Bugle, for his own reasons, paints him as a vigilante. Public opinion is very divided over whether he's a force for good or evil, Spider-Man, but he does not let that deter him from his mission.
Gary Schneeberger:
Right. Right. Pretty significant thing then happens in the movie. The Green Goblin discovers Spider-Man's true identity. He realizes he is Peter Parker. He knows Peter Parker because Peter is the best friend of Norman Osborn's son, Harry. So he recognizes who Spider-Man is, and that's the key, he believes, to defeating him. He says this when he's talking to himself, that evil side is talking to the Norman Osborn side, "The cunning warrior attacks neither body or mind," he says. "First we attack the heart."
Gary Schneeberger:
So he attacks Aunt May and he kidnaps Mary Jane. That idea, what Norman Osborn, Green Goblin says in that moment, is a platinum truth of Crucible Leadership we need to remember every day. Those things that will discourage us most, that pose the greatest danger to knock the wind out of our sails and change the trajectory of our lives, are the things that hurt us in our hearts and our souls. That's why, as we've talked about so much on this show, we must always be mindful of what I've heard you call dozens of times, soul care. Why is that so critical for all of us, as we look to avoid crucibles, weather crucibles, and pursue a life of significance?
Warwick Fairfax:
It's such a great point. One of the things that most religions, I'd say many people believe, is there is a fight, if you will, between good and evil out there. I can't think of any religion that does not believe that. And so whether you view it that way or more metaphysically like in Star Wars where it's the force, the force for good versus the dark side, that's true.
Warwick Fairfax:
And what I love about this movie is it isn't just a fight at a physical super hero level between good and evil. This voice, almost in a psychotic schizophrenic way, talks to Norman Osborn as the Goblin. And unfortunately mentors him exceptionally well. From a dark side perspective, it's fantastic advice, if you're on the dark side. Don't just attack the person, physically crush their soul. If you crush their soul, you will stop their ability to win, their ability to fight.
Warwick Fairfax:
It doesn't quite say it in those words, but when that evil entity, if you will, just talks about the battle is basically about hurting their hearts and hurting their souls. That is just so, so sad. And as we see just later on, the way that Green Goblin does this, to attack Peter's heart, is by attacking Aunt May, his beloved Aunt May. And there's an incredible scene where the Green Goblin knows who he is and he proceeds to attack Aunt May, who, to reiterate this whole good versus evil, she's reciting the Lord's prayer.
Gary Schneeberger:
Right. Right.
Warwick Fairfax:
She's saying, "Our father in heaven, hallowed be thy name." She's reciting that as this evil is happening and the Green Goblin is saying, "Continue," loves the whole good versus evil fight.
Gary Schneeberger:
Right, right.
Warwick Fairfax:
"Keep it up." He's almost taunting. Almost like Satan in the wilderness with Jesus kind of thing, just taunting. It's so true. And I think the lesson for all of us is guard your hearts, guard your soul. Where your heart and soul is, is where you a whole life is, where your whole direction is. Soul care, physical fitness, eating right, really important, but dig down into what you believe is the ultimate truth. Whether it's faith, whatever religion that would be, beliefs, philosophy, make sure you're 100% grounded every day with practices that guard your heart and your soul, because you lose the battle for your heart and your soul, you've lost the battle for your whole life. So that is the ultimate Fort Knox of your life, that you guard it with every fiber of your being, your soul. It's absolutely critical.
Gary Schneeberger:
Aunt May's in the hospital after she's attacked by the Green Goblin. There's a scene in the hospital where she's talking to Peter. Again, no idea he's Spider-Man, none of that, just knows he's Peter Parker who's worried about his beloved Aunt May. There's a scene that moved you when they're talking about Mary Jane and she's urging him to just quit keeping it a secret and tell her how you feel. "Why can't you tell her how you feel?" But there was a scene there that moved you. Talk about that a little bit.
Warwick Fairfax:
One of the subtexts in this movie is Peter has loved Mary Jane his whole life. And Mary Jane really sees something in Peter she's sort of evolving into because she's, like a lot of folks, attracted to the strong, handsome football player, but there's something in Peter that she admires. Peter then gives, who is really himself fantastic at empathy and encouragement, he gives actually Mary Jane that compliment. He says, "When you look at Mary Jane's eyes, you know what kind of man you want to be. You have reached the unreachable. You feel stronger yet weaker." Basically she kind of bores into your soul or just that she just has this effect on you that's hard to describe.
Warwick Fairfax:
And I think we all want people who make us be the man or woman that we want to be, that we feel we could be. And he sees in Mary Jane as somebody who also believes in him. It's not just he believes in Mary Jane, she believes in Peter Parker, as we'll see towards the end of the movie. She admires him. She admires his soul. He has Aunt May and Uncle Ben, but here's somebody that he deeply loves who absolutely 100% really believes in him. And that's huge for him. There's something about her that inspires him to be better than himself so it's a wonderful, wonderful scene.
Gary Schneeberger:
This is not a spoiler. It's a superhero movie, heroes, beat villains. Spider-Man defeats the Green Goblin in the end. And there's a great scene during the final battle that I really loved when all these everyday New Yorkers gather around the scene of the fight that's taking place kind of up in the air on scaffolding. The Green Goblin has his glider that he rides on. Spider-Man's got his webs and they're fighting all above the earth there. But all these New Yorkers from all walks of life gather to cheer on Spider-Man and to go against the Goblin.
Gary Schneeberger:
And they start throwing things at the Green Goblin who's got these bombs that can radiate you, right? That can just make you vanish. He's got bombs that'll blow things up. He's a very high tech guy who could kill any one of these average New Yorkers who are chiding him, but they're telling him to leave Spider-Man alone and they're throwing rotten fruit at him, they're throwing stuff at him. And there's scores of them, maybe hundreds of them up there.
Gary Schneeberger:
And one of them says this, "You mess with one of us, you mess with all of us." It's a small scene, but it's a critical truth about the importance of living a life of significance. Our life of significance can inspire others to lead lives of significance. We change the world by changing the people living in the world. And what Spider-Man has done through his acts of dedicated to saving New York, to serving New York and its citizenry, what he has done is inspired that same kind of selflessness in the people of New York. If you blink, you'll miss the scene, but it's really a powerful truth about what Crucible Leadership aims to teach, isn't it?
Warwick Fairfax:
Yeah, absolutely, Gary. It's a great scene in which maybe not every New Yorker thinks that Spider-Man's a hero, but he sees it in this final scene, one of the final scenes, Spider-Man is trying at the same time to save Mary Jane and also save people that are in this tram, the Roosevelt Island tram that connects Roosevelt Island with Manhattan. I've actually traveled on that tram, funnily enough, but fortunately the Green Goblin wasn't around, so that was good. Yeah.
Gary Schneeberger:
You escaped there. Good for you.
Warwick Fairfax:
Exactly. Hopefully a friendly neighborhood Spider-Man would've saved me, but it's a great moment where Spider-Man is inspired in a sense, Peter Parker is, by his Aunt May and certainly his Uncle Ben in that scene about using your powers for good to help others. And here he's inspired other people, fellow New Yorkers, who throw stones and whatever they can against the Green Goblin. He's inspired a bunch of folks.
Warwick Fairfax:
And when you feel like you're living a life of significance, we always talk about if you can help one person, that's enough. More? That's great. But it's not about numbers, but it's making a difference in people's lives. And Peter Parker is not just saving them physically, he's also saving them in terms of character. He's helping them become people that also lead lives of significance. They're focused on helping others. These folks are trying to help Spider-Man and combat the Green Goblin and maybe save those poor people on that tram. It's a great scene. It's one of the final scenes before we get to the ultimate conflict between Spider-Man and the Goblin and the continuation of that scene is also very powerful.
Gary Schneeberger:
Yeah. And in the continuation of that scene, again, not a spoiler, the Green Goblin is indeed killed by his own glider and the trident or the things on the front that stab him to death when he's trying to use it to kill Spider-Man. And speaking of Spider-Man's character, Peter Parker's character, in that moment as the Green Goblin lay dying, again, the Green Goblin is Norman Osborn who's the father of Peter's friend Harry. There's something that transpires that the Goblin asks him to do that Peter weighs and his response to it speaks to his character and the truth that sometimes living out of your character causes you some challenges. It's not always easy to live your life according to your values and your character. How does that play out in the death scene of the Green Goblin?
Warwick Fairfax:
Yeah, it's a great scene. So as you say, Green Goblin takes off his mask, reveals that he's Norman Osborn. And Norman pretends to befriend Peter, it's all a trick, it's all just a device. Again, it's right out of the evil playbook, if you will. He says to Peter, "I was like a father to you," while he's manipulating some remote device to get his glider thing all geared up to kill Peter Parker, Spider-Man, behind his back. And so in this retort to Norman Osborn saying, "Hey, I was like a father to you." Peter says, "I had a father. His name was Ben Parker."
Gary Schneeberger:
Right.
Warwick Fairfax:
Now, obviously that's Uncle Ben. That's not his actual father, but in that moment, he's saying Ben Parker was the father I knew, the father that raised me, and I loved him. Basically you're certainly no Ben Parker. So it's a wonderful scene.
Gary Schneeberger:
And it gives him the chance, it gives Peter Parker, Spider-Man, the chance to redeem that last moment he had with Uncle Ben, where he said, "Stop acting like my father if you're not my father." He redeems that part in this final scene with the Green Goblin. And then beyond that, he has to make a decision.
Warwick Fairfax:
Absolutely. Very well said. And so sort of poetic justice, the Green Goblin gets killed by his own device. So Spider-Man doesn't actually kill him, he just moves out of the way and this device with the trident kills the Green Goblin. And so then as Norman Osborn has moments to live, he says to Peter, "Please don't tell my son, Harry, who I am and what happened," because basically he wants his son to think well of him. To Peter's great cost in subsequent movies, Peter does not reveal that Harry's father, Norman Osborn, was the Green Goblin. And he keeps that promise, as we'll find, to his great cost. He does the honorable thing to really out of love and care for his good buddy, Harry. It's a very kind thing that he does and a noble thing, but it would come at great cost as we'll see in later movies.
Gary Schneeberger:
Absolutely. So the end of the movie then is all set up at that point for the hero to get the girl, right? We all love to see that happen in these kinds of movies. There's been lots of tension. There's been lots of conflict. There's this unrequited love between two characters. We want to see them get together. And that almost happens at the end of this movie. Mary Jane confesses her love to Peter. As much as he loves her though, he tells her he doesn't love her, that he just wants to be her friend. He's determined, we hear him say it in an internal monologue, that, "No matter what I do, no matter how I try, the ones I love will always be the ones who pay." The price of his life of significance, of serving and saving the city, is he can't get the girl. But teaser alert, at least not yet. He does indeed get the girl in Spider-Man 2. And there's even some suggestion that he might get the girl in Spider-Man 3.
Gary Schneeberger:
That's a pretty steep price. A lot of times we can think that living in a life of significance then coincides with living like we have everything we want. That necessarily isn't true in real life, R-E-A-L, or in reel life, R-E-E-L, in this case. Peter doesn't get everything he wants, even though he's doing what he knows to be the right thing, the life of significance, dedicated to serving others and living it very much on purpose to the point that he denies his own romantic feelings for the girl he's loved since he was six.
Warwick Fairfax:
Yeah, it's so true. It's such a great scene in the movie. And it really begins in just an incredible way in which Mary Jane said when she thought she was about to die and she was dangling in the air, along with the folks in the Roosevelt Island tramway car while the Green Goblin was fighting Spider-Man. She said when she thought she was about to die, she thought of Peter. Now, she doesn't know Peter Parker's Spider-Man. And for most folks, it's like, "What girl wouldn't fall in love with Spider-Man? He's the hero. He's the superhero." Peter Parker is just Peter Parker.
Gary Schneeberger:
And in fact, she has fallen in love a little bit with Spider-Man. They have the iconic film kiss where they kiss in the rain. She's kind of drawn to Spider-Man because he's so heroic, but she has no idea that it's her friend, Peter, or the man now that she loves, Peter. She has no idea about that when this scene happens.
Warwick Fairfax:
Absolutely. Yeah. So true. But sometimes when you think, "This is going to be my last night on earth, I'm about to die," reality gets really crystallized. What is it you value? Who do you really love? And she loves Peter. She said there's only been one man for her. She says Peter makes her feel that she's more that she could be. And she tells him that she loves him. And basically, I think it's because of his character. She falls in love with his character, with the good man that Peter Parker is who's always caring for others, empathizing and encouraging them. She feels like she can be a better woman with Peter by her side. Makes her feel that she can really believe in herself because Peter helps her believe in herself. It's a great scene.
Warwick Fairfax:
So that would be incredibly affirming and I'm sure Peter was moved deeply. But as you say, internally, he says, "I'll always care for you. I'll always be there, but we'll have to be friends," because he feels like that, as you say, his internal monologue, "Everybody that I care for, I put in danger." And so his higher purpose is to care for others, especially Mary Jane. And by being her boyfriend and maybe husband one day, he feels like she'll be in danger. So it's almost like inside he's saying I love you too much.
Gary Schneeberger:
Right.
Warwick Fairfax:
To love you in the way that you want me to love you. She can't know that he's thinking that. And not only that, not only do I love you too much to have a serious relationship with you, my duty is to other human beings, is to humanity, is to men and women and to protect and serve and save them. And I can't have anything derail my higher purpose. It's the ultimate sacrifice as he sacrifices the love of his life to protect her because he loves her so much. And also because his highest purpose is to serve others. It is the ultimate life of significance. It's an incredible heroic and almost the ultimate selfless act on so many levels.
Gary Schneeberger:
Yeah. So there's one beat from the most recent iteration of Spider-Man that's worth pointing out, just because it reflects most of what our conversation has been about here or the high points of this conversation of Spider-Man 2002. And that is in the most recent iteration of Spider-Man, he doesn't have an Uncle Ben. He has, as I've said before, he has an Aunt May who makes me feel really old because the actress, Marisa Tomei, who plays her, is younger than I am. I don't know how I'm ever going to get over it. I'm never going to get over that, actually. But in the current iteration of Spider-Man, it's not Uncle Ben, but Ironman who takes him under his wing, perhaps under his armor, and teaches him to believe in himself, to trust his powers, to trust the goodness inside him.
Gary Schneeberger:
And as we wrap up here, that's really a role we all should look to play, in encouraging others pursuing their lives of significance. Isn't it? In every Spider-Man iteration, there's that character or characters who speak encouragement, life, affirmation into the hero. And that's a big reason of why he becomes a hero. That's a great lesson for us as we're interacting with people, to help them become "heroes", by doing the same thing, isn't it?
Warwick Fairfax:
It's so true. It's hard to think of people that have done heroic things without somebody that just believes in them. It's really the power of both encouraging and being encouraged, having an Aunt May and Uncle Ben that, or in some sense, a Mary Jane, that really believe in you. It can help you be better than you thought you could be. It could help you be everything you dreamed about in terms of who you are as a character and how you would serve others.
Warwick Fairfax:
But I think it also speaks, too few times in life do we focus on encouraging others. I've often found people think things, but they don't say it. I have this mantra, if you will, in terms of things on a positive side, "If you see something, say something." In other words, if you see something positive, say something. I've tried to do it with people I know and with the nonprofit boards I've served on. I'm not perfect, but it's one of my highest values is if there's something that you see that is worthwhile, mention what it is and be specific. And don't hold back because it's like rocket fuel to you, well, it would be like rocket fuel to others. And especially when we're in our lowest moments.
Warwick Fairfax:
I think back in the early '20s of when President Franklin Roosevelt was stricken with polio. He was, I don't know, maybe early 40s or something. He was in the height of life and he gets polio, which back then was a death sentence. You were meant to hide away. It was shameful for whatever reason in society. And his wife, Eleanor, just believes in him, saying, "Your life is not over. You can have a political comeback," which back then, would seem unthinkable. And his mother, Sara Roosevelt was more, "Yep, you should stay home and lead a quiet life." I'm sure a wonderful woman, but that wasn't helpful, his mother's advice. What was helpful was the rocket fuel from Eleanor Roosevelt. In his darkest moment, she believed in him. Without Eleanor Roosevelt, there would be no Franklin Roosevelt as president in the height of the Depression, at the height of World War II. So can you imagine World War II or the Depression without Franklin Roosevelt? It's unthinkable. It's a scary thought. Who knows what the United States or the world would be like.
Warwick Fairfax:
So having an Eleanor Roosevelt in your life or an Aunt May is critical, and being an Aunt May or an Eleanor Roosevelt. You don't know who you're talking to, who they'll be in terms of character or anything else in life. It's a great model for us, Aunt May and Uncle Ben in this movie.
Gary Schneeberger:
And that's a great on-ramp to the reflection question that we have for this episode. Every time we do one of these dialogue episodes, especially here in the series, we want to leave you, listener, with something to ponder. And I'll talk about this Warwick, and then I'll throw it to you to pull the balloon strings together and put the bow on the package. But here's the reflection point for you, listener. The movie really shows the power of encouragement. We've talked about it this entire episode. Whether it's Uncle Ben believing in and guiding Peter to become a man of character or Peter supporting Mary Jane as she pursues her dreams of becoming an actress.
Gary Schneeberger:
So ask yourself this question. Who in your life needs encouragement? Who needs to know that you believe in them? Now to Warwick's point, go tell them. Turn the podcast off right now and go tell them. And be specific about the character traits you see fueling their success, but also their significance. Be as specific as you can be about those things that you want to affirm in them. This should be a bumper sticker. Be someone's Uncle Ben, right? Be someone's Uncle Ben. If you get nothing else out of this show, get this, be someone's Uncle Ben. Get that or whatever it is Warwick's going to leave us with at the end. Warwick, wrap it up for us.
Warwick Fairfax:
Well, I think that is a great point to end on, I have to say, but to reiterate what you're saying, Gary, you never know who you're going to affect. It may be that somebody may achieve greatness like a Franklin Roosevelt, or maybe not quite at that level, which who of us do. But when you think about a life of significance, a life on purpose dedicated to serving others, there are fewer greater ways to live a life of significance than to encourage others, especially at their lowest moments where they're in the bottom of the pit. And not just saying that you believe in them, but telling them why you believe in them and being there for them. And don't just do it one and done. They're probably going to need to hear it more than once.
Warwick Fairfax:
And it's not flattery. Flattery is saying things that aren't true, which I absolutely don't believe in. Encouragement is saying things that are true, that the person is going to have difficulty believing in their lowest moments. But be specific, talk about their character traits. And if you have to think of, "Well, how can I think of who to pick?" Pick whoever comes to your heart, but certainly if you have a friend or somebody that you know well, especially because it gives you a bit more of a right to speak, think of somebody that maybe today is their lowest day. Maybe they're in the bottom of the pit. Give them some words of encouragement that will be like drops of grace in a soul that's parched, that may not have much ability to move on. So just think of that person who you can encourage and just make a difference in their life. Because that's, to me, it's almost one of the ultimate ways of living a life of significance.
Gary Schneeberger:
That is a perfect place to end the show. So thank you, listener, for spending time with us on this fifth episode of our series LIGHTS, CAMERA, CRUCIBLES, in which we're talking about the lessons we can learn, the inspiration we can draw from our favorite movie heroes, be they superheroes, action heroes, historical heroes.
Gary Schneeberger:
Next week, just so you can do the advanced screening of the film if you wish, we're going to talk about another one of my favorites, Die Hard, the first Die Hard from 1987 staring Bruce Willis. Lots of great crucible experience information in there. In fact, we've published a blog at crucibleleadership.com a couple years ago around Christmastime because Die Hard is a Christmas movie, just so you know. There's a little bit of confusion about that, some controversy, but I'm telling you, from the co-host of the show here, it's a Christmas movie. And it's a bit of a superhero movie as well.
Gary Schneeberger:
But until the next time we're together and we talk about Die Hard, we ask that you remember this, that we understand your crucibles are difficult. Those experiences can knock the wind out of your sails. They can make you feel as if the trajectory of your life has changed. Certainly Peter Parker's trajectory of his life changed when as Spider-Man he encountered some of those crucibles that the Green Goblin threw at him. But if we learn the lessons from them, if we apply those lessons moving forward, and Peter applied some lessons that he learned from his Uncle Ben about character, about with great power comes great responsibility, if you learn those kinds of lessons through the difficult times in our lives, that will make the times ahead in our lives less difficult. And will, in fact, in the most rewarding outcome that we can get, is they will lead us to, as they led Peter Parker and Spider-Man to, a life of significance.